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Snhook
Public Incellectual.
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TLDR: Blackcels usually don't conform to the expectations of mainstream black culture and this contributes to our inceldom because black women very often desire black men who are very proud, expressive and unapologetic of their blackness.
There have been multiple instances in my life where fellow blacks were noticeably put off by my demeanor and manner of speaking. Black people have literally asked me things like: "You sound smart", "why do you talk/act proper?" "you talk/act white". Sometimes I'd just say a sentence with a neutral tone and I'd get mocked by blacks imitating how I pronounced my words.
Every now and then I'll be approached by a fellow black and they'll be speaking in some form of AAVE (African American Vernacular English (ebonics)) and they'll understandably have the expectation that I, as a black guy, will reciprocate those same speech patterns. Which I don't. In fact, some black people even code switch just to talk to me the same way they would to a white person.
I'll sometimes get asked if I've heard [insert rapper]'s new album or song and I almost never know who the rapper is that they're talking about.
All of this is just to say that I've never really identified with black people in general. I don't speak the way they do, act the way they do, dress the way they do, I don't listen to the same music they do, etc.
I hate to say it but black people in the U.S are largely a monolith. Or at the very least, black American culture is much more monolithic than white American culture. White American subcultures and cliques consists of jocks/frat boys, geeks, redecnks, emos. Black people's only main subculture is hip-hop. Not only that but cultural conformity is much greater in the black community than the white community. Non-conforming blacks are seen as sell-outs or coons.
These rigid cultural expectations cause blacks who deviate from the norm to become basically ostracized and this hurts our dating lives since many black women view a display of blackness/black pride as a prerequisite for a relationship.
This video does a great job at pointing out the issues with some aspects of black culture:
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1PL3xQu16w
Anyway though, that's just how I feel. It's possible that everything I've said thus far is complete utter bullshit and I'm just a fucking moron or something. idk. Thoughts?
There have been multiple instances in my life where fellow blacks were noticeably put off by my demeanor and manner of speaking. Black people have literally asked me things like: "You sound smart", "why do you talk/act proper?" "you talk/act white". Sometimes I'd just say a sentence with a neutral tone and I'd get mocked by blacks imitating how I pronounced my words.
Every now and then I'll be approached by a fellow black and they'll be speaking in some form of AAVE (African American Vernacular English (ebonics)) and they'll understandably have the expectation that I, as a black guy, will reciprocate those same speech patterns. Which I don't. In fact, some black people even code switch just to talk to me the same way they would to a white person.
I'll sometimes get asked if I've heard [insert rapper]'s new album or song and I almost never know who the rapper is that they're talking about.
All of this is just to say that I've never really identified with black people in general. I don't speak the way they do, act the way they do, dress the way they do, I don't listen to the same music they do, etc.
I hate to say it but black people in the U.S are largely a monolith. Or at the very least, black American culture is much more monolithic than white American culture. White American subcultures and cliques consists of jocks/frat boys, geeks, redecnks, emos. Black people's only main subculture is hip-hop. Not only that but cultural conformity is much greater in the black community than the white community. Non-conforming blacks are seen as sell-outs or coons.
These rigid cultural expectations cause blacks who deviate from the norm to become basically ostracized and this hurts our dating lives since many black women view a display of blackness/black pride as a prerequisite for a relationship.
This video does a great job at pointing out the issues with some aspects of black culture:
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1PL3xQu16w
Anyway though, that's just how I feel. It's possible that everything I've said thus far is complete utter bullshit and I'm just a fucking moron or something. idk. Thoughts?