How antisocial are you?

[Deleted member 7448]

Ohh god, it's worse than I remember, my avoidant personality.

Just now, somebody in League of Legends added me on their friends list (I always have 0 friends). So, I accepted cause they carried the game so, what the hell. So they add me in their party, and they start talking. And I panicked, cause I didn't know that voice chat would activate. I don't say anything, but they say they can hear me typing. So I say, uhh, that's my shitty laptop microphone, I can't talk right now etc...

Anyway, that's antisocial enough. But then, we played a game together. I felt uncomfortable for some reason playing with someone who isn't a total stranger. He was very nice by the way, I fed my ass off and he still was very nice. And after the game, I pretended to go to sleep and then unfriended and blocked him, just cause I'm weird and avoidant and I feel really uncomfortable from any level of friendship.

Ohh man, this is gonna bite me in the ass in the future. I've done stuff like this before, multiple times, in real life. I hope when I'm old I won't regret this.

 

[ReallyRice]

I hope when I'm old I don't regret this.

You will.

 

[Deleted member 18912]

Very.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

You will.

Damn, there's too many things I regret already.

 

[ReallyRice]

I hope I'll have money for drugs or something.

You won't.

 

[Deleted member 18214]

I am incrediably social, I will converse with anyone about anything but ofc nobody wants to be around me.

 

[TheGambler2]

I am the same.I might talk to some people in university but if they invited me somewhere outside of that,I would flake.I never really had true friends,just acquaintances.I cannot even see myself in real friendships or,even more,a relationship.It's like I was born to be alone

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I am the same.I might talk to some people in university but if they invited me somewhere outside of that,I would flake.I never really had true friends,just acquaintances.I cannot even see myself in real friendships or,even more,a relationship.It's like I was born to be alone

Ohh yeah, whenever I was invited places (it was mostly when everybody pretty much had to be invited, like it would be weird to not invite a person), I'd flake if I ever accepted, most of the time I just rejected the offer.

 

[Joelossus]

I once did the exact same thing, only difference was that i played a different game tbh.

 

[IamJacksBrokenHeart]

Im also afraid of voicechat while playing online , cause im a voicecel .
I think my voice is really bad and also i dont know what to say most of the time .
Im a fucking high-inhib beta , i know , but thats what happens when you live in isolation for too long .
Thats why i mute my headset most of the time . I need to be resocialized , but no one wants to recycle this human garbage .
SO ill continue rotting in sensoric deprivation til i completely forget how to speak .

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Im also afraid of voicechat while playing online , cause im a voicecel .
I think my voice is really bad and also i dont know what to say most of the time .
Im a fucking high-inhib beta , i know , but thats what happens when you live in isolation for too long .
Thats why i mute my headset most of the time . I need to be resocialized , but no one wants to recycle this human garbage .
SO ill continue rotting in sensoric deprivation til i completely forget how to speak .

I think that my ability to speak has been impaired somewhat. I find myself mumbling, saying words wrong, saying the wrong words etc... It's quite annoying actually. Makes me feel like an idiot.

 

[Deleted member 6501]

same jfl, i've never voice chatted in my life because ive always hated my voice hence why i have 0 friends online & irl

 

[IamJacksBrokenHeart]

I think that my ability to speak has been impaired somewhat. I find myself mumbling, saying words wrong, saying the wrong words etc... It's quite annoying actually. Makes me feel like an idiot.

Practice makes perfect .
And if you dont practice a skill , it will slowly become like an atrophied muscle .
Its also a problem that i spend way too much time online writing and reading english
all while i barely communivate in my mother tongue ( German ) .
tbh i think people like us need some help to be socialized again , but like i said , nobody wants to recycle us
and how can we practice if all we get is one word answers .

 

[Deleted member 6501]

only volcels voicechat tbh

 

[Deleted member 1042]

What is the difference between antisocial, asocial, and avoidant? I always hear it described interchangeably.

 

[Deleted member 19971]

Jfl same here, can't even speak properly online without stuttering or sweating. Only game i really speak in is Squad where for some reason i feel comfortable since it's all male no fucking females and they're all very nice IRL veterans

 

[starystulejarz]

It's the same to me, i'm even scared of playing with incel friends JFL, even tho i did not regret playing and talking with them it's just first 30minutes are super scary then it gets better. Yesterday some newbie added me and was talking to me and i haven't said anything to him yet.

 

[VirginAutistManlet]

online gamer “friends” are a meme

You will all lose contact once you stop playing the same game

 

[ordinaryotaku]

Not really. I'm always wanting to talk. People are more antiscoial towards me than anything.

 

[Deleted member 11032]

But then, we played a game together. I felt uncomfortable for some reason playing with someone who isn't a total stranger. He was very nice by the way, I fed my ass off and he still was very nice. And after the game, I pretended to go to sleep and then unfriended and blocked him, just cause I'm weird and avoidant and I feel really uncomfortable from any level of friendship.

 

[boringcel]

Not really. I'm always wanting to talk. People are more antiscoial towards me than anything.

Women in my case

 

[ordinaryotaku]

Women in my case

Same here. They're by far the worst, they never want to talk with me.

 

[boringcel]

Same here. They're by far the worst, they never want to talk with me.

It is incredible. Lately I am trying to start conversation whenever possible, but they just respond and never initiate conversation. Before I thought that my shyness and anxiety were reasons why I couldn't connect with any foid whatsoever, now I see it was because of my looks.

 

[Haywire]

i do about the same its terrible. some people i added unfriend me soon after JFL at how retarded i am.

 

[Mystic]

Very.

 

[ionlycopenow]

Im so antisocial I very much prefer sleeping during the day and being awake at night so I can avoid interaction anywhere. I gymcel at 2 am and often go running outside at 3 or 4. No interactions on places like discord or anything either, those places are filled with low tier normies tbh

 

[SupremeG]

I used to be very antisocial as kid and teen. As adult I leveled up to awkward autistic guy, difficult making friends.

 

[INeed4000Bucks]

It's hard to talk with people who aren't interested in conversing about more than a basic, surface-level topic. Thank goodness I have a couple friends than are.

 

[wertysquirty2]

im not antisocial or anything but when im surrounded by normies jabbering their lips all day i lose the urge to speak

 

[Inceltard]

Always blocked all 9 players in Dota and CS.

 

[WawelDragon1683]

I have no friends whatsoever and barely speak.

 

[Deleted member 17811]

let me put it this way - I go in once a week, gather up all the expense reports and other financial documentation, take it home for the week then do it on quikbooks on my personal computer, rather than in the office
why? so i can avoid the possibility of conversing with a normshit at work

 

[starystulejarz]

I briefly played League of Legends a few years ago. Lots of people added me to friends, but I never had a conversation with them. In one game we added each other as a group and played some, but I couldn't connect to them while they talked about their average lifes. You need to come up with a whole persona with jobs, education, girlfriends and exes, and just fake it till you make it I guess just to have fun with people on multiplayer video games.

i was always pulling losers/incels to me for some reason from all online friends only two admitted they had gf while rest so like 20 did not

 

[tehgymcel420]

very very antisocial

 

[CivilizedBarbarian]

Ohh god, it's worse than I remember, my avoidant personality.

Just now, somebody in League of Legends added me on their friends list (I always have 0 friends). So, I accepted cause they carried the game so, what the hell. So they add me in their party, and they start talking. And I panicked, cause I didn't know that voice chat would activate. I don't say anything, but they say they can hear me typing. So I say, uhh, that's my shitty laptop microphone, I can't talk right now etc...

Anyway, that's antisocial enough. But then, we played a game together. I felt uncomfortable for some reason playing with someone who isn't a total stranger. He was very nice by the way, I fed my ass off and he still was very nice. And after the game, I pretended to go to sleep and then unfriended and blocked him, just cause I'm weird and avoidant and I feel really uncomfortable from any level of friendship.

Ohh man, this is gonna bite me in the ass in the future. I've done stuff like this before, multiple times, in real life. I hope when I'm old I won't regret this.

I'm just not anymore. I found it was easier to just be conversative as fuck with the vast majority of people. Then again I'm not in an NYC type shithole either so def easier for me.

 

[Deleted member 14805]

Socializing is something I'm very weak at. After years of bullying, rejection and betrayal/abandonment by people I trusted, it became exceptionally difficult for me to connect with other people.

3 years ago at my old job, a coworker of mine and I had good conversations about video games, anime etc. but when I was laid off from the job, the same day he gave me his contact info for me to reach him, and I never did. I can talk to you when it comes to stuff like video games, anime and whatnot, but going deeper is when it gets complicated, since I've made friends with people through common interests in the past, but as stated they either betrayed or abandonded me and for that I assumed he would do the same, plus he had a GF which made me that much more unwilling to get close to him.

So I dunno what to tell you, I just can't connect with people, I'm a cynical prick that's all there is to it really.

 

[FlamingCel]

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[Emba]

Ohh god, it's worse than I remember, my avoidant personality.

Just now, somebody in League of Legends added me on their friends list (I always have 0 friends). So, I accepted cause they carried the game so, what the hell. So they add me in their party, and they start talking. And I panicked, cause I didn't know that voice chat would activate. I don't say anything, but they say they can hear me typing. So I say, uhh, that's my shitty laptop microphone, I can't talk right now etc...

Anyway, that's antisocial enough. But then, we played a game together. I felt uncomfortable for some reason playing with someone who isn't a total stranger. He was very nice by the way, I fed my ass off and he still was very nice. And after the game, I pretended to go to sleep and then unfriended and blocked him, just cause I'm weird and avoidant and I feel really uncomfortable from any level of friendship.

Ohh man, this is gonna bite me in the ass in the future. I've done stuff like this before, multiple times, in real life. I hope when I'm old I won't regret this.

"The warmth from a burning bridges isn't as useful as a unburnt bridge."

As a old ex-rude-asshole i know about burning bridges. Sometimes you need that bridge later. It's very hard to build a bridge, but too damned easy to destroy one.

Ofc, I'm talking about irl, not games.

Sure it's really hard to trust people especially being a Incel. A lifetime of being rejected and harassed.

It's easy to reflect that and drive others away. Before they do it to you

Just do The best you can.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

Yeah I know what you mean, even people just messaging me in games makes me feel uncomfortable.

 

[FukFeminism]

Hate everybody

 

[Beaverino]

I'm not afraid of voice chat. However, I'm extremely insecure about the fact that I don't have anything to say, even back in the day when I was "normal". I get ghosted 99% of the time (also in real life), so yeah, I'm tired of it to the point that I keep trying but I have no hopes of ever getting better.

 

[Coregame3]

I'm not afraid of voice chat. However, I'm extremely insecure about the fact that I don't have anything to say, even back in the day when I was "normal". I get ghosted 99% of the time (also in real life), so yeah, I'm tired of it to the point that I keep trying but I have no hopes of ever getting better.

I don't talk because I'm scared people will think I'm a loser and will stop talking to me.

 

[Nothingness]

As anticosial as one can be

 

[Beaverino]

I don't talk because I'm scared people will think I'm a loser and will stop talking to me.

And it makes you so. And then the cycle repeats...