How am I supposed to love myself?

[FinnCel]

I constantly get told that I am not good enough and that I need to work on myself.
No matter how much self improvement I make, I'm still not enough.

On the other hand, I get told that I need to accept myself.

Normie advice is contradictory, I need advice

 

[ShadowTheEdgehog]

I constantly get told that I am not good enough and that I need to work on myself.
No matter how much self improvement I make, I'm still not enough.

On the other hand, I her told that I need to accept myself.

Normie advice is contradictory, I need advice

? Just do it brah


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TJK65hEznSc

 

[ihaveno1]

Good question..

 

[LooksAreLife]

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TJK65hEznSc

 

[AlexanderTheGreat11]

There’s nothing to love

 

[ShadowTheEdgehog]

 

[Deleted member 25467]

Your self esteem if dictated by how ppl around you have treated you throughout your life. Telling yourself to love yourself is futile.

 

[TheReaper]

You need to be yourself accordingly to how we think you should be...

 

[muharremabi]

It's impossible to not hate yourself as an ugly man.

 

[PoodankMcGee]

You don't. Just hate everyone else more.

 

[I.N.C.E.L.S. Boss]

I constantly get told that I am not good enough and that I need to work on myself.
No matter how much self improvement I make, I'm still not enough.

On the other hand, I get told that I need to accept myself.

Normie advice is contradictory, I need advice

You need to be yourself but not too much yourself, else you'll be you and that's not the aim.

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

I constantly get told that I am not good enough and that I need to work on myself.
No matter how much self improvement I make, I'm still not enough.

On the other hand, I get told that I need to accept myself.

Normie advice is contradictory, I need advice

That quote would work if our minds were seperate from our body, but unfortunately it seem materialism is true and being ugly is just part of our existence.

 

[Rambocel]

It's just typical normshit yammering. It's supposed to sound and feel good but means nothing.

Like saying "the sky is the limit." Well unless you built a plane to go specifically to the end of the atmosphere and that's it, then no, no it isn't. You have to be a pilot or pay a few hundred dollars to chill a cruising altitude for a few hours.

 

[Deleted member 17419]

Take DMT, for a few minutes you will be unable to conceptualize yourself in the physical form. Blessed be those minutes, ngl. The self hatred returns soon after obviously, but still.

 

[RREEEEEEEEE]

Good question..

 

[based_meme]

 

[Neggr]

no idea bro

 

[Mexican_Jesus]

How i started to love myself is through work. In my case i got really into art. Fow a while, I was obsessive. I would spend hoirs a day drawing and im now decent.Ofc i didnt have anyone to show irl my art so id post it to /ic/ on 4chan and got a lot of positive reinforcement. It helped a lot and took me from the brink of suicide.

Im not saying to chose art persay but find a hobby (or career) where you create things that you are proud of. It is first step to curing self loathing. As the german expression goes "Work sets you free".

 

[ItisOver]

I constantly get told that I am not good enough and that I need to work on myself.
No matter how much self improvement I make, I'm still not enough.

On the other hand, I get told that I need to accept myself.

Normie advice is contradictory, I need advice

So fucking true. I hate myself cause I’m a lazy fuck. When I improve and stop being a lazy fuck, start working out etc, I still hate myself. Literally impossible to be satisfied.

 

[PaperSkin]

How i started to love myself is through work. In my case i got really into art. Fow a while, I was obsessive. I would spend hoirs a day drawing and im now decent.Ofc i didnt have anyone to show irl my art so id post it to /ic/ on 4chan and got a lot of positive reinforcement. It helped a lot and took me from the brink of suicide.

Im not saying to chose art persay but find a hobby (or career) where you create things that you are proud of. It is first step to curing self loathing. As the german expression goes "Work sets you free".

That isn't self love. Self Love is satisfaction with one's self without external praise or admiration from others. You literally just told us you learned to love yourself now because other people on 4chan gave you attention and compliments. That love was dependant on others hence it can't be self love.

Self Love is a cope, our Biology just isn't wired that way. We crave love and attention from other people.

 

[RoboticSubHuman]

Try to find positive moments where you can, and you'll feel satisfied for at least a short time. Beyond that you most likely will hate yourself most of the time because that's the lesson soyciety sends us

 

[Venderex]

There’s nothing to love

 

[Deleted member 19546]

I shower, get haircut, skincare, gymmaxx, play sport, have hobbies, read, etc. I don’t even drink or smoke, and still told to work on myself... Like, fuck, I am more self-improvemaxxed than the normies telling me to self-improve, they don’t have to do shit because they are tall and just get it.

And women sit on snapchat all day, nothing. And they expect so much.

 

[Mexican_Jesus]

That isn't self love. Self Love is satisfaction with one's self without external praise or admiration from others. You literally just told us you learned to love yourself now because other people on 4chan gave you attention and compliments. That love was dependant on others hence it can't be self love.

Self Love is a cope, our Biology just isn't wired that way. We crave love and attention from other people.

Yes, i think self love comes from interactions with other people and you obviously do too. Theres no such thing as self love materializing independently from others' praise and attention. I dont know what youre arguing here if you agree with what im saying. You just have an instinctive reaction to shit on anyone who gives positive advice on this website.

 

[HumanTrash]

Do narcissists love themselves?

 

[PaperSkin]

Yes, i think self love comes from interactions with other people and you obviously do too. Theres no such thing as self love materializing independently from others' praise and attention. I dont know what youre arguing here if you agree with what im saying. You just have an instinctive reaction to shit on anyone who gives positive advice on this website.

Ok bluepiller. Do you realise where you are. Its incels.co. People on this site often dont have anybody else to interact with irl to give them that praise and affection

If "self love" is dependant on other people then it isn't self love. It should be called "Loving yourself after other people have loved you first"

 

[Mexican_Jesus]

Ok bluepiller. Do you realise where you are. Its incels.co. People on this site often dont have anybody else to interact with irl to give them that praise and affection

If "self love" is dependant on other people then it isn't self love. It should be called "Loving yourself after other people have loved you first"

Bro with self love we're talking about the end result not the process of getting it. He wanted to know how to find it and i shared how i found it.

If you had read what i posted youd see i clearly stated i have no one too, thats why i used 4chan. Im probably not gonna stay here because this is too toxic of a website. But why do you defend this toxicity of it. At least r9k, where im much more used to but quit, you get the occasional positive post. Here theres nothing. You guys just want to wallow in sadness and freak out when someone gives advice that has worked for them. Call me bluepilled idc but i like myself a whole lot better than a year and a half ago and i think it can work for everyone on this website.

 

[happiless]

vodka

 

[Sportbro]

what if they are telling us that we should give up

 

[tulasdanslos]

I think you're supposed to take your suffering and compare it with your joy and see how the latter trumps the former in order to love yourself. Of course, an incel has way more suffering than joy so this will end in self-hate.

 

[Mexican_Jesus]

I think you're supposed to take your suffering and compare it with your joy and see how the latter trumps the former in order to love yourself. Of course, an incel has way more suffering than joy so this will end in self-hate.

No. Suffering is inevitable and everyone suffers much more than the feel joy. You have to find the few things you like about yourself and life as a whole to feel happy.


View: https://youtu.be/hg7qdowoemo

 

[Deleted member 776]

Mistake No. 1: Listening to normies.

Loving oneself is some idiotic thing that comes from Disney movies or pop-psych. Disregard.

What I can say is you will never become comfortable as long as you covet the life that normies have. As long as you continue to expose yourself to the degenerate main stream culture and interact with normies. There is a reason I work permanent night shifts and hardly go out in the day time. I can't stand them and honestly it just makes me depressed. For fucks sake stay off social media. They literally wage informational warfare on you to make you feel inferior so you buy more products from the adds they feed you.

 

[your personality]

I constantly get told that I am not good enough and that I need to work on myself.
No matter how much self improvement I make, I'm still not enough.

On the other hand, I get told that I need to accept myself.

Normie advice is contradictory, I need advice

Loving yourself is "king culture" cope and only works for women who basically spend all day circlejerking that they are queens so that their collective self esteem rises.

 

[cucksaar]

You can't love yourself if the rest of the world hates you! Drink some beer & light yet another joint with me bro Finncel

 

[SubhumanAbomination]

you don't have to