I believe people wanna help this guy, but it's... really hard. Because what advice can you give? Let's say I was depressed because, I dunno, I wanna be a banker. And it's just not happening for me. Advice that's been suggested for me hasn't worked, and I'm pretty sure I can't be a banker due to cultural/societal standards that work against me.
But I really wanna be a banker. My life is empty without being a banker. My life maybe even hurts for not being a banker. Because I see banks where ever I go. And I believe that people don't want me to hurt, but at the same time what's probably going through their head is "All I can do is hope that they come to accept that they might not get to be a banker. I wish this wasn't so crucial for them. I'm not a banker, and I'm fine, I wish they could be fine too."
So it is with romance. There's Normans out there who'll look at the clinically lonely and be like "There's nothing I can do. I don't understand, I'm not married or anything and I feel fine, why can't they be fine too?" I dunno how these Normans do it.