How to avoid the "hit is and quit it" guys?
I'm looking for advice for my best friend, I have zero experience with this and have no idea where she's going so wrong. I have never had a guy ghost me after sex, her on the other hand, she's experienced this three times in a month. And this is not the type of sex she wants to be having. She's hard core looking for a boyfriend but can't keep them interested after she decides to have sex.
Her Mom's been telling her she needs to not have sex with guys so soon because they lose respect for her and she needs to make them respect her.
In my experience no one has ever lost respect for me after sex even if it was early on. I'm sure that this isn't the problem. What circumstances would a man lose respect for a woman after sex?
She's mainly meeting guys from tinder. I've told her that it's not going to work because these guys she's seeing have completely different intentions than she does. She just continuously falls for their flattery, thinks they actually want to date her, sleeps with them, then never hears from them again. She's deleted tinder but now she's not getting any attention so I figure she'll start it up again.
She's terrified to meet people in real life. She makes herself very unapproachable. When we go out in a group as soon as any of the other girls gets any attention she shuts down, takes it personally, and then everyone can see she's not fun and guys are picking up on her uncomfortable body language. And if someone does talk to her she can't carry a conversation so they leave for one of the other girls and it makes it worse for her. I'm about done taking her out over it.
She's very insecure. How can she build confidence? How can she appear confident? How can she make herself approachable? I've tried to show her but she doesn't get it and I can't explain it any better to her. Is there self help style resources for this?
TL
R friend is insecure and unapproachable, relying on tinder for dates, and is only getting a meal and some crappy one time sex before they ghost her. What does she need to do to avoid this if she is going to continue to use online dating? What can she do to build her confidence?
