Would just like to remind everyone here that the dictionary definition of "celibate" has no time-sensitive information in it. It doesn't say anywhere that to be celibate, one must have NEVER had sex. Any additional restrictions that various members of the community put onto the term are subjective and often self-serving. What I mean by this is, the hypothetical supreme "truecel" among us will say that even if your mother gave you a hug then you received female attention and thus are not a "true" incel. Then the people who have never hugged or held hands with a female will say that they are the "true" incels, that those who have kissed a female are not "true" incels. Then the incels who have have kissed a female will say that any person who is an escortcel is not an incel. So on and so forth. Every incel thinks that their definition of incel is the only correct definition of incel, and of course their definition of incel includes them. With a community that is not bound by race, religion, nationality, education, or any other discernible factor BESIDES the fact that they consider themselves "involuntarily celibate," this makes enforcing a handful of posters' definition of "incel" upon the rest an impossibility. This falls into the "No True Scotsman" fallacy.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_true_Scotsman
Trying to make this community wrought with hate for one another is fucking stupid. If someone feels that they are involuntarily celibate, whatever their personal definition of that is, they are suffering. Until you come forward with the amazing invention of an objective suffering diagnostic tool that can be administered via the internet, then you have no right to discredit the suffering of another incel. A man's understanding of suffering is bound by their experiences. For example, if you loved your dog and it died, you have suffered. When you get fired from your job and told you're a creep, you suffer but probably not as much as when your dog died. Now, imagine a fellow incel here was just fired and told they are a creep, but both of their parents are healthy, they haven't lost any pets or friends for that matter. Because they have never experienced the loss of a pet, they may not have experienced the kind of suffering you have, but to them the experience could still be the most they've ever suffered in their life. To them it's 10/10 suffering, just like you losing your dog was 10/10 but losing your job and being called a creep was maybe a 5/10. Do you see what I am getting at here? If we being to start playing the incel olympics where only the one whose suffering is the greatest can speak about what it means to be incel, then there will be no community. It will just be a couple of the "most" incel arguing about who suffered the most, and why they are a "truecel" and the others aren't.
So, stop being fucking children and trying to ostracized the ostracized from a community of ostracized people. Muh muh safe space! If you are afraid of differing opinions or people from different backgrounds, start a diary. If you want an echo chamber, start your own website and only invite the incels you think are "truecels" and then ban them whenever they make personal progress or when they disagree with whatever your unique, subjective, and self-serving definition of incel is. FFS.
