I recently read the thread about being dominant/submissive and I wondered whether me not being strictly dominant/submissive was a "necessary" outcome of being forever alone combined with my low social intelligence.
As I am not socially intelligent, I cannot easily guess what reactions someone would have based on the actions. Thus, I typically try to answer these questions by thinking about how I would act if I were subject to these actions and had different goals/experiences/... in my life. This is also necessary in my sexual fantasies. I cannot simply do whatever I want in my fantasies and get a "sensible" reaction, but I have to think what I personally want to do, then think what the other person would experience and how she would react etc. This means I cannot have fully dominant fantasies without them being fully submissive as well: If I am dominant, I still have to simulate how it feels to be completely submissive and I have to think it's sexual, otherwise it's not a fantasy, but a nightmare.
I think that is caused by me being forever alone. If I ever had a partner, I would likely know her reactions based on my actions, so I wouldn't have to simulate them in a complex way.
So if you manage to have only dominant (or only submissive) fantasies, do you do it by simply not simulating the other's feelings or is there some other way?
As I am not socially intelligent, I cannot easily guess what reactions someone would have based on the actions. Thus, I typically try to answer these questions by thinking about how I would act if I were subject to these actions and had different goals/experiences/... in my life. This is also necessary in my sexual fantasies. I cannot simply do whatever I want in my fantasies and get a "sensible" reaction, but I have to think what I personally want to do, then think what the other person would experience and how she would react etc. This means I cannot have fully dominant fantasies without them being fully submissive as well: If I am dominant, I still have to simulate how it feels to be completely submissive and I have to think it's sexual, otherwise it's not a fantasy, but a nightmare.
I think that is caused by me being forever alone. If I ever had a partner, I would likely know her reactions based on my actions, so I wouldn't have to simulate them in a complex way.
So if you manage to have only dominant (or only submissive) fantasies, do you do it by simply not simulating the other's feelings or is there some other way?
