Has anyone here ever "come out" to friends/family as incel?

[Deleted member 301]

Just curious as I am considering doing it. They all know I'm incel anyway, perhaps they have never heard the term but they know I have no chance of ever getting a girlfriend or sex. I'm thinking it would put an end to the awkwardness when they start talking about relationships/their spouse's or sex while I'm just sat like the elephant in the room with both they and I feeling uncomfortable.

 

[The End]

If you're ugly enough it should be obvious, really.

 

[whogivesafucc]

it's not worth it, i literally told my parents i'm gay, incel, etc, etc. they just won't believe you and will call you a loser. they will never stop talking about it.

 

[Barry]

Don't do this.

They already know you can't get laid and aren't getting laid.

If you come out as incel they're going to think you're an elliot roger nutcase and they'll probably commit you or send you to therapy or shit.

 

[torujo]

no, they would think that i am a mentalcel because they can't accept that i am ugly and short

 

[Deleted member 1042]

Lol next thing you know we are going to be included into the lbgt community.

 

[TheLivingFailure]

My friends know that I'm incel. They don't really care since they are also incel.

 

[whogivesafucc]

Lol next thing you know we are going to be included into the lbgt community.

 

[ArtoriasWolf]

I tried it and my mother said everyone gets depressed

 

[anon]

One day my family was having one of those conversations about marriage, friends and so on. I was there and inevitably the focus shifted to me in a way.

It started with me saying how there's nothing to be gained from marriage if you're a man and my dad sort of agreed with me. Obviously my mom and sister firmly disagreed. My mom is fat, had a drinking problem and she's just low iq. I don't hate her, but I don't like her. She used to be thin and attractive, but got fat when she had me and she's been fat ever since. My dad obviously doesn't like that because he himself is somewhat fit, doesn't drink or smoke, she does. I think they haven't had sex in 10+ years.

Anyway, my mom and sister started arguing with me and telling me I'll "grow up" eventually and change my mind. They know I'm a 22yr old KHHV, but they don't know who I really am when I'm alone. I'm never myself around other people, literally the opposite of just bee urself, but that day I just spilled my guts.
The entire conversation lead to me saying how I know I'll be alone for the rest of my life and how I can't even possibly imagine a woman of any age being sexually or romantically attracted to me. It's like science fiction for me. It's more likely I'll win a huge lottery than have a woman in my life. I told them how I'm just a spectator in life, never involved and never asked to be involved. They didn't even know I had no real friends, I told them everything that day.

Obviously their first reaction was "you're not ugly, you're handsome, you're just shy and quiet", standard family to incel response. My dad was quiet the whole time, he knows it's over for me. Mind you this was 2 years ago when I was 20.
My recommendation is, don't say anything and never ever say you're depressed or suicidal.

 

[Bronzehawkattack]

If you're ugly enough it should be obvious, really.

 

[Deleted member 301]

One day my family was having one of those conversations about marriage, friends and so on. I was there and inevitably the focus shifted to me in a way.

It started with me saying how there's nothing to be gained from marriage if you're a man and my dad sort of agreed with me. Obviously my mom and sister firmly disagreed. My mom is fat, had a drinking problem and she's just low iq. I don't hate her, but I don't like her. She used to be thin and attractive, but got fat when she had me and she's been fat ever since. My dad obviously doesn't like that because he himself is somewhat fit, doesn't drink or smoke, she does. I think they haven't had sex in 10+ years.

Anyway, my mom and sister started arguing with me and telling me I'll "grow up" eventually and change my mind. They know I'm a 22yr old KHHV, but they don't know who I really am when I'm alone. I'm never myself around other people, literally the opposite of just bee urself, but that day I just spilled my guts.
The entire conversation lead to me saying how I know I'll be alone for the rest of my life and how I can't even possibly imagine a woman of any age being sexually or romantically attracted to me. It's like science fiction for me. It's more likely I'll win a huge lottery than have a woman in my life. I told them how I'm just a spectator in life, never involved and never asked to be involved. They didn't even know I had no real friends, I told them everything that day.

Obviously their first reaction was "you're not ugly, you're handsome, you're just shy and quiet", standard family to incel response. My dad was quiet the whole time, he knows it's over for me. Mind you this was 2 years ago when I was 20.
My recommendation is, don't say anything and never ever say you're depressed or suicidal.

Brutal, thanks for the honesty bro. I'm pretty sure most of them already think I'm gay as I have never once brought a girl to any family gatherings or with friends and i'm almost 35. Plus my mother had a cringeworthy talk with me years ago saying, "I love you no matter what.......... (long pause) even if you're gay it won't matter" expecting me to confirm this. Though I defiantly said I wasn't, which she may have taken as being in denial due to my fierce opposition to this, I wanted to tell her about incel then but I know she just wouldn't geasp the concept and would have thought I was mentalcel. One day I likely will come out as incel, though I don't expect them to understand and they will probably look at me like I'm a spastic for the rest of my life.

 

[anon]

Brutal, thanks for the honesty bro. I'm pretty sure most of them already think I'm gay as I have never once brought a girl to any family gatherings or with friends and i'm almost 35. Plus my mother had a cringeworthy talk with me years ago saying, "I love you no matter what.......... (long pause) even if you're gay it won't matter" expecting me to confirm this. Though I defiantly said I wasn't, which she may have taken as being in denial due to my fierce opposition to this, I wanted to tell her about incel then but I know she just wouldn't geasp the concept and would have thought I was mentalcel. One day I likely will come out as incel, though I don't expect them to understand and they will probably look at me like I'm a spastic for the rest of my life.

I had a similar conversation with my parents a few years ago and I was a little drunk. I told them I'm not gay and I made sure they knew. I showed them my browser history full of regular straight porn and a fleshlight. I had to do it because I could tell they weren't buying it at first, especially my mom. My dad laughed and said "alright, put that back, I believe you." My mom went quiet and dropped the whole thing.

I wasn't thinking straight back then, I just didn't want them to think I'm a faggot. I'm a subhuman incel, but I ain't no fag and I'll never allow anyone I know to think I'm a faggot.

 

[Rice Cel]

I'm sure they can just infer that knowing who I am. As for the actual incel term, I don't think I'll be telling them that lmao

 

[BlackPillUNC]

I just don't talk to my family about relationships. They can assume whatever they want about the situation, I will not engage in dialogue about the subject. I have always been that way (because there has never been anything to say).

 

[Deleted member 301]

I just didn't want them to think I'm a faggot. I'm a subhuman incel, but I ain't no fag and I'll never allow anyone I know to think I'm a faggot.

Ditto, being incel is bad enough but being labelled a faggot is suicide fuel.

 

[PM_ME_STRIPPERS]

if they have watched the news about the term "incels" i wouldnt recommend it, theyd probably be brainwashed and send u to a mental hospital and pray the "incel" out of you.

 

[ICanOnlyFapToBDSM]

Lol next thing you know we are going to be included into the lbgt community.

LMAO

 

[PM_ME_STRIPPERS]

I had a similar conversation with my parents a few years ago and I was a little drunk. I told them I'm not gay and I made sure they knew. I showed them my browser history full of regular straight porn and a fleshlight. I had to do it because I could tell they weren't buying it at first, especially my mom. My dad laughed and said "alright, put that back, I believe you." My mom went quiet and dropped the whole thing.

I wasn't thinking straight back then, I just didn't want them to think I'm a faggot. I'm a subhuman incel, but I ain't no fag and I'll never allow anyone I know to think I'm a faggot.

holy low inhib

 

[anon]

holy low inhib

I can do autistic shit like that, but can't even imagine talking to a female. JFL.

 

[Mainländer]

No, don't do it. Certain things are much better hidden.

If you REALLY HAVE to tell it to someone IRL find a friend who's also an incel.

 

[BabyFacedIncel]

My cousin knows I am incel 25 year old virgin. She tried helping me by introducing me to her friends, after the second one did not like me thats when she kind of realized I am screwed.

To make it worse shes a very typical stacy. She stil doesn't really believe my face is the problem but say its my status and I need to make more money. But shes lying because I know guys who live in their moms basement and manage to get laid

 

[Henry de Montherlant]

During a family meeting recently, the incel subject came up in a group, but not about me. I made my best to not react, avoiding any suspicious behavior, talking about other stuffs with other people.

Most of my cousins were here, male and female, each of them are already in couple (with a literal court of beta cuck for the teenage girls, lmao) or have little adventures (my male cousin who is 13 already has numerous reciprocal bae relationships, that kills me). My older cousin who is 27 is talking about marriage with his gf. I'm definitely, officialy, absolutely the only one in the family to be still single.

And I've been told the usual bullshit about me being "handsome", "intelligent" and other funny stuffs. Everytime a see them, there's a full quarter of hour dedicated to my hypothetical gf. They even tried to confront me with my facebook, since I'm "friend" with a lot of females (merely uni acquaintances), and since some of them are absolutely pretty. They even claimed that I must be "hiding something", that I might be shameful of my own family since a boy like me "should be hitting in every corner".

Now I feel guilty for basically doing nothing.

I've hated my life for so long ... I don't even care anymore if one day they decide that I'm gay and just go with it. Actually, I would have prefered being born gay, or a girl, or assexual. Or just been never born. Being what we are sucks on so many level.

 

[Incel801]

I wish I was gay too..my life would have been soo much easier

 

[InebriatedIrish]

I’ve never directly told my parents, since I haven’t seen them in a decade. I assume they know, though, due to never talking to a female (excluding my relatives). I was noticeably more aggressive and annoyed when talking to women back then, something I have to hide because of Alex nowadays. Plus, my ramblings of genetics probably would’ve clued them in. If not, they’re more autistic than I expected.

 

[EthnicelNL]

I had a similar conversation with my parents a few years ago and I was a little drunk. I told them I'm not gay and I made sure they knew. I showed them my browser history full of regular straight porn and a fleshlight. I had to do it because I could tell they weren't buying it at first, especially my mom. My dad laughed and said "alright, put that back, I believe you." My mom went quiet and dropped the whole thing.

I wasn't thinking straight back then, I just didn't want them to think I'm a faggot. I'm a subhuman incel, but I ain't no fag and I'll never allow anyone I know to think I'm a faggot.

No fucking way. This nigga is either the next Jesus Christ or the biggest faggot ever in the history of inceldom. @blackletcel do you believe this?

 

[Gremlincel]

One day my family was having one of those conversations about marriage, friends and so on. I was there and inevitably the focus shifted to me in a way.

It started with me saying how there's nothing to be gained from marriage if you're a man and my dad sort of agreed with me. Obviously my mom and sister firmly disagreed. My mom is fat, had a drinking problem and she's just low iq. I don't hate her, but I don't like her. She used to be thin and attractive, but got fat when she had me and she's been fat ever since. My dad obviously doesn't like that because he himself is somewhat fit, doesn't drink or smoke, she does. I think they haven't had sex in 10+ years.

Anyway, my mom and sister started arguing with me and telling me I'll "grow up" eventually and change my mind. They know I'm a 22yr old KHHV, but they don't know who I really am when I'm alone. I'm never myself around other people, literally the opposite of just bee urself, but that day I just spilled my guts.
The entire conversation lead to me saying how I know I'll be alone for the rest of my life and how I can't even possibly imagine a woman of any age being sexually or romantically attracted to me. It's like science fiction for me. It's more likely I'll win a huge lottery than have a woman in my life. I told them how I'm just a spectator in life, never involved and never asked to be involved. They didn't even know I had no real friends, I told them everything that day.

Obviously their first reaction was "you're not ugly, you're handsome, you're just shy and quiet", standard family to incel response. My dad was quiet the whole time, he knows it's over for me. Mind you this was 2 years ago when I was 20.
My recommendation is, don't say anything and never ever say you're depressed or suicidal.

Damn, I know this conversation will come up at some family gathering, someday.

 

[vertebraille]

No need to come out. Everyone knows it. Even people who I haven't met yet.

 

[blackletcel]

No fucking way. This nigga is either the next Jesus Christ or the biggest faggot ever in the history of inceldom. @blackletcel do you believe this?

 

[mang0]

Don't do this.

They already know you can't get laid and aren't getting laid.

If you come out as incel they're going to think you're an elliot roger nutcase and they'll probably commit you or send you to therapy or shit.

Exactly

It just burdens them

If (God forbid) you snapped, they would think it's their fault

So they're gonna try to do whatever they can to prevent that

 

[KekistaniIncel]

My dad just tells me to fuck off lol. My mum tells me I need confidence and my friends take the piss. It's hard being a mentalcel - average looks so no one believes you're an involuntary celibate.

 

[ordinaryotaku]

My parents would try to give me copes.

 

[UnfortunatelyINCEL98]

If you're ugly enough it should be obvious, really.

 

[WarriorSkull]

I had a similar conversation with my parents a few years ago and I was a little drunk. I told them I'm not gay and I made sure they knew. I showed them my browser history full of regular straight porn and a fleshlight. I had to do it because I could tell they weren't buying it at first, especially my mom. My dad laughed and said "alright, put that back, I believe you." My mom went quiet and dropped the whole thing.

I wasn't thinking straight back then, I just didn't want them to think I'm a faggot. I'm a subhuman incel, but I ain't no fag and I'll never allow anyone I know to think I'm a faggot.

Kek at showing you rents your porn history. I once had a friend try to bait me into coming out as gay. I think he was just giving into degeneracy and wanted to come as gay with me, even though he had sex with girls and even a LTR. Naturally, told him no.

I've always hated this "your gay if you don't date women". Really shows how in denial and/or un-empathetic people are about our appearance.

 

[Deleted member 5712]

I've actually just hinted at my parents that I'm gay. I think they believed me since they are very religious and we don't talk that much.
It was a lot easier than telling them I'm ugly and no woman wants anything to do with me so they will never have grandkids and I will die alone not knowing how pussy feels like.
So hinting I was gay was a lot easier in an odd way.

 

[red0519]

I would only confirm that you are a loser

 

[djKhaled_Lookism]

Every year my uncles or father asks me whether I got a girlfriend or not. I could sense the disappointment in my fathers voice each year as I answer no. In one instance my mother was present along with my uncle and I’ve straight told them that I was a KHV. He offered to take me to a prostitute but I refused as I was a high inhib coward at that moment.

This was like 3 years ago lmfao, now whenever any discussion approaches relationships I basically haul ass or dissapear in guise of smoking cigarettes.