I refuse to believe them when they say stuff like this because I've seen the opposite firsthand. I know an absolute horde of timid average looking male nerds who try to talk to any female who takes part in their nerdy community or hobby. They try to talk to them about music, about interests, about games, about popular culture; they don't get anywhere of course because that isn't actually interesting from an unattractive face. In the opposite direction, all of them men would have their minds blown if they went somewhere where multiple women wanted to talk to them about that shit.
The first half of this okcupid dating comic is exactly what I've seen through my life :