I asked out a girl I had been talking to for a while at my job. She would smile and me and say hi a lot too. I asked her what she was doing during the weekend and if she wanted to hang out. She told me she had a boyfriend. Dammit, if only she didnt have a boyfriend we'd be dating!
JFL, bitch gave me the oldest excuse in the book. I have no one to blame but myself for being dumb and overstepping my boundaries.
1. She probably does have a boyfriend, you should have expected that. There's no reason to ask any woman at work out unless you know for sure she's single (by overhearing a conversation or something). All you did was make yourself the joke of the workplace for a few weeks
2. You only had a moment of weakness because you haven't truly accepted your inceldom yet. Once you accept it, the concept of approaching and asking for a date will feel like a joke to you, you won't even remotely consider it. At this point in my life, even if there was a woman who I thought I had a chance with I still wouldn't bother
BECAUSE I'M TIRED
I don't mean tired of rejection, I mean tired of "the game" itself, I'm tired of:
The word games you have to play
The mind games they play on you (and you are supposed to just "read" their hints and secret messages)
The second guessing of every action, hand twitch, pose, text, possible mumble of words, clothing style, food choice for breath odor, etc
Having to pretend you're interested in more than her body when she's completely uninteresting
The preparing of conversation starters before approaching
The "eye contact rules"
Etc, etc, etc
I don't know how you aren't tired yet, you must be younger than me, still in your teens or something
I'm not even joking, whenever I even think about the very concept of approaching (not even considering approaching a woman, but just thinking about all that approaching entails) I start to feel tired
and relieved that I no longer have to do it
It literally just feels like too much work to someone like me, I'm an introvert and I'm very reclusive, I basically forced myself a fucking lot to approach, learn social cues, etc to try and get a date, and now that it never worked, I'm kind of relieved because it was so annoying to me, I don't care to do it
Once you get to that state, the only weakness you'll feel is the mental fatigue that drains your will whenever you think about approaching, it won't matter to you how attracted you are to the woman you are targeting, that feeling alone will make you not even bother and make you glad you don't have to bother
I really just hate people tbh, the dishonesty of it all, like no person is "real" and having to play all these games is just so tiring to me
