Today I sat down with my older brother and had a conversation about inceldom.
Felt so anxious that I actually started crying over my past experiences with girls in High School. Told him I was afraid of attending College because I didn't know what to expect.
You don't see it often on my posts, but I'm a very sensitive person. Have had several emotional breakdowns in the past year due to severe social anxiety and dread.
My brother is fully aware of this, which is why he didn't hesitate one bit in sitting down and talking to me as soon as he noticed there was something wrong and I had waited for mom to leave the house before approaching.
Told him I'm a failure in life. Said I admire him for being so successful with girls. Explained to him how attraction really works. Admitted to being a virgin at 19. Mentioned I have been sending love letters to a criminal.
I didn't bring up this board or any other online community for sexless men. All I did was sit there and vent for about thirty minutes. My brother didn't react negatively to anything I said. He was just surprised that I couldn't get laid when all of my friends were girls. I told him girls had no problem hanging out with me, but none of them saw me as a potential sex partner.
He suggested that it can be more of a local problem. We haven't really moved out since we were children. Besides, this region has too much competition.
He then told me his friends are planning on attending out of town events in December. New Year's Eve parties and celebrations. He wants me to go. I was hesitant at first, but I ended up saying yes. The idea of being around a bunch of people makes me nervous. He promised he'd introduce me to some of his female acquaintances around my age.
I'm in a tough situation as I don't really know what to do. Should I give it a shot even if all my previous attempts to have intimate relationships with girls failed? Should I improve my looks as much as possible and maybe learn a few social skills while I still can in order to have an actual chance with girls?
I'm losing my mind over this.
Felt so anxious that I actually started crying over my past experiences with girls in High School. Told him I was afraid of attending College because I didn't know what to expect.
You don't see it often on my posts, but I'm a very sensitive person. Have had several emotional breakdowns in the past year due to severe social anxiety and dread.
My brother is fully aware of this, which is why he didn't hesitate one bit in sitting down and talking to me as soon as he noticed there was something wrong and I had waited for mom to leave the house before approaching.
Told him I'm a failure in life. Said I admire him for being so successful with girls. Explained to him how attraction really works. Admitted to being a virgin at 19. Mentioned I have been sending love letters to a criminal.
I didn't bring up this board or any other online community for sexless men. All I did was sit there and vent for about thirty minutes. My brother didn't react negatively to anything I said. He was just surprised that I couldn't get laid when all of my friends were girls. I told him girls had no problem hanging out with me, but none of them saw me as a potential sex partner.
He suggested that it can be more of a local problem. We haven't really moved out since we were children. Besides, this region has too much competition.
He then told me his friends are planning on attending out of town events in December. New Year's Eve parties and celebrations. He wants me to go. I was hesitant at first, but I ended up saying yes. The idea of being around a bunch of people makes me nervous. He promised he'd introduce me to some of his female acquaintances around my age.
I'm in a tough situation as I don't really know what to do. Should I give it a shot even if all my previous attempts to have intimate relationships with girls failed? Should I improve my looks as much as possible and maybe learn a few social skills while I still can in order to have an actual chance with girls?
I'm losing my mind over this.
