I'm afraid I'm going the opposite route. I was raised to "not rock the boat" and to look after others. I would remember playing on the game console in the dentist's waiting room, and when another kid watched from a distance, I asked if he wanted to play instead. Of course it made him happy and I felt like a good and thoughtful person. But as I got older, I noticed that others weren't as generous as I was. Not only did I have to do my utmost to ask for something, I would also be rudely rejected. That's just one example.
I feel like I could socialize my kids to be overly aggressive, never say no in response and to take what they want, to scream and make as much noise as they want to scream in the street like they're being killed or something. So I saw other parents raising their children, the same children who would later stand tall and confident and bully me while I was afraid to even confront them.
I remember an incident where I was in a play center, watching the TV shows they had in the lounge all by myself (as usual), lying on the covers and suddenly a random child hitting a chair on my face. It's amazing I didn't end up with a broken nose or worse. I, of course angry by this, pursued the child who was probably a few years younger than me. He ran to a member of staff and pointed in my direction, and I, who was timid, took refugees to a nearby playground, despite being the victim of a random unprovoked attack.
I knew that if this problem escalated and our parents got involved, my parents would probably apologize to the boy's parents for whatever lies the boy would have told them and blamed me for "sitting all alone" (if they even bothered to listen to my side of the story). My dad wasn't weak, he knew how to throw fists and knock people out, he could easily grab people's collars and lift them up like a bully at school (I once saw him do it in anger when his car was hit from behind by another motorist who apologized), but you know, he hated my guts, so he wouldn't get over me in beef.
At the end of the day, I want my kids to have a good but realistic life. I'd be annoyed too if my son(s) had girlfriends, because hey you have the whole world to gain why are you wasting your time with women? I made ends up fine during my teenage years without girls, and I focused on my education which allowed me to go to a good university (not thanks to my parents who were less than supportive). I don't think I'd set them up as incels, just teach them priority and self-control, not let ourselves be trapped by our consumerist free love culture.
Besides, wouldn't you want your children who are half of you to be able to trample others the same way you were trampled? Teach your sons to be honorable and make up for what you gave them in life, not NPC consumerist cuck "I have a C in English, so muh dad buys me a new car on muh 18th birthday!".