They lust after the image they make up of us, not who we really are.
Women are bored by the hordes of cucks and soyboys whiteknighting their inbox, or fucking them in real. They are boring.
It is the same what attracts them to black thugs and nazi skinheads alike. They are bad boys and fuck them brutal.
If you look at IT comics about us, they mostly portray us as some kind of eye-ringed cast out anime prettyboys with a shit attitude. Women fantasize about dark triad incels and getting their brutally rawdogged by us or turning us into good men ("I can change him tee hee").
The smartest approach is to use this. Maybe just for ascention, but we need to use the SMV made up by womens all-horny mind.