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I’m making this post at work, and may edit later but there’s many reasons I think an incel’s best option is to go monk mode. This period should last until you find a solution to your problem (inceldom).
1. Friends always give contradictory advice, often in a negative tone. For example, Story time: My old friend Alexei always bragged about his tinder escapades so he could feel good about himself. I praised him for a bit then one day, I was fed up with his shit so I stopped giving him praise. His tone switched to asking me “WHY DON’T YOU EVER HAVE A GIRL”? (He knew that statement would effect me). I should have stopped being his friend when he said that but ignorant 21 yr old me answered his question. He suggested that I download tinder. I show him that I already have tinder and he claims that my pics don’t look “socially normal” enough (another indirect insult on the form of help). My young, naive self suggest we go picture taking together.
We take some good pictures, and Alexei tells me I’m very good looking in them. He says there’s no way I’ll fail at attracting a date.
WELL guess what? Weeks go by and I see a small increase in matches but still ZERO IN PERSON DATES FROM ONLINE DATING. Alexei follows up with me and I tell him it’s not working. His next advice is to stop spending so much time online. I need to get out more.
On Saturday, me and Alex go downtown to bar hop. He’s doing his usual brag fest and I’m AMOG’d brutally by men who are on dates with skinny white girls. After a few drinks I say “fuck it” and actually cold approach a girl. It’s a tall blonde. Within 10 seconds she shoots me down. Back at the bar stools with Alexei, Alexei tells me that it’s “socially abnormal” to approach a stranger I have nothing in common with.
Low and behold, he gives advice contradictory to his last advice. He tells me I need to stop focusing so much on women, buckle down and focus on improving my career. He then tells me that sex isn’t that great, that other things in life such as friendship are more important. Next he tells me again that I’m a good looking guy and the right person will appear when I’m least expecting it, just focusing on myself.
Story ends:
Anyways, all friendships go in a similar way. You’re just a listening ear for them to tell you all their successes in life. If you aren’t successful they’ll either mock you or offer useless advice. Therefore you’ll have a better time on your own in the end.
You should still focus on an escape plan on my opinion. This can be 3rd world maxing, gym or some other means to try and escape. Normies will hurt your mental health and mental health is the most important factor in you staying motivated
1. Friends always give contradictory advice, often in a negative tone. For example, Story time: My old friend Alexei always bragged about his tinder escapades so he could feel good about himself. I praised him for a bit then one day, I was fed up with his shit so I stopped giving him praise. His tone switched to asking me “WHY DON’T YOU EVER HAVE A GIRL”? (He knew that statement would effect me). I should have stopped being his friend when he said that but ignorant 21 yr old me answered his question. He suggested that I download tinder. I show him that I already have tinder and he claims that my pics don’t look “socially normal” enough (another indirect insult on the form of help). My young, naive self suggest we go picture taking together.
We take some good pictures, and Alexei tells me I’m very good looking in them. He says there’s no way I’ll fail at attracting a date.
WELL guess what? Weeks go by and I see a small increase in matches but still ZERO IN PERSON DATES FROM ONLINE DATING. Alexei follows up with me and I tell him it’s not working. His next advice is to stop spending so much time online. I need to get out more.
On Saturday, me and Alex go downtown to bar hop. He’s doing his usual brag fest and I’m AMOG’d brutally by men who are on dates with skinny white girls. After a few drinks I say “fuck it” and actually cold approach a girl. It’s a tall blonde. Within 10 seconds she shoots me down. Back at the bar stools with Alexei, Alexei tells me that it’s “socially abnormal” to approach a stranger I have nothing in common with.
Low and behold, he gives advice contradictory to his last advice. He tells me I need to stop focusing so much on women, buckle down and focus on improving my career. He then tells me that sex isn’t that great, that other things in life such as friendship are more important. Next he tells me again that I’m a good looking guy and the right person will appear when I’m least expecting it, just focusing on myself.
Story ends:
Anyways, all friendships go in a similar way. You’re just a listening ear for them to tell you all their successes in life. If you aren’t successful they’ll either mock you or offer useless advice. Therefore you’ll have a better time on your own in the end.
You should still focus on an escape plan on my opinion. This can be 3rd world maxing, gym or some other means to try and escape. Normies will hurt your mental health and mental health is the most important factor in you staying motivated
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