Even ugly people who are not obv chosen for looks need distinct wits, money, status, connections, charisma to be of value.
It is not your nice nature that gets you friends. People become bored, and angry with themselves if they rely on it.
Everyone wants to be of value eventually, not nice (vast majority of humanity/ center gravity point of their genome. Exceptions are irrelevant).
People want to be on the edge/ competitive and martial hierarchies. Callousness and chaos, and who can withstand in that environment. People want to have the ability in the competitarchy/ prominence points/ primal wantabilit. suprasculpt. These novel things, and not a basic/ weak sustenance like love/ niceness because that in turn makes you basic.
Most people with a low self esteem are this way too. If they were sad about people not being friends then they would find friendly people, and not let whether they are friends or not affect their self worth. But people are pairing the concept of self worth with getting friends. If they simply wanted friendship then they wouldn't feel bad/ inferior in not acquiring it. But people tie their self worth with how the haughty people think of them/ primal value/ etc. It's a biological trap to get us to self improve for the sake of insecurity. Perfectionism is more about wanting to remove things out of defensiveness than achieve something out of offensiveness.
Me myself though my perfectionism is more about the thrill and achievement because I enjoy to take things down, rather htan me fearing it and then languishing in constructed on security.
But I do see the power in being a perfectionist. By reacting to negativity as a defensive offensiveness, than simply going ahead and going for what you want without regard to threats.
People who often win are defensive thinkers and strategizing how to react to negative issues, rather than not giving thought to negative combative forces.
It is not your nice nature that gets you friends. People become bored, and angry with themselves if they rely on it.
Everyone wants to be of value eventually, not nice (vast majority of humanity/ center gravity point of their genome. Exceptions are irrelevant).
People want to be on the edge/ competitive and martial hierarchies. Callousness and chaos, and who can withstand in that environment. People want to have the ability in the competitarchy/ prominence points/ primal wantabilit. suprasculpt. These novel things, and not a basic/ weak sustenance like love/ niceness because that in turn makes you basic.
Most people with a low self esteem are this way too. If they were sad about people not being friends then they would find friendly people, and not let whether they are friends or not affect their self worth. But people are pairing the concept of self worth with getting friends. If they simply wanted friendship then they wouldn't feel bad/ inferior in not acquiring it. But people tie their self worth with how the haughty people think of them/ primal value/ etc. It's a biological trap to get us to self improve for the sake of insecurity. Perfectionism is more about wanting to remove things out of defensiveness than achieve something out of offensiveness.
Me myself though my perfectionism is more about the thrill and achievement because I enjoy to take things down, rather htan me fearing it and then languishing in constructed on security.
But I do see the power in being a perfectionist. By reacting to negativity as a defensive offensiveness, than simply going ahead and going for what you want without regard to threats.
People who often win are defensive thinkers and strategizing how to react to negative issues, rather than not giving thought to negative combative forces.
