From cucktears: https://www.reddit.com/r/IncelTears/comments/7cnnrj/my_experiences_as_a_former_incel/
"First of all I would just like to point out that I never fully agreed with message being pushed by incels. Using this image I saw posted earlier, i'd say I was a mix of The Sack Boi and Get this boi a hug boi. There was also a little bit of The Zealot Boi mixed in, but I didn't hate the Western world. I just grew up in a conservative family, which limited my contact with people of the opposite sex. I never hated women, and I would never hurt another person, especially not just because that person happened to be a woman. Looking back I think I was just angry at women for not liking me.
Over the course of a few years I got into therapy, I hit the gym, lost my weight, got into University and I reconnected with old friends from High school. I managed to turn my life around. Turns out I had a good looking face and a decent body under all that fat. When I was younger I looked a lot like Josh from Drake & Josh, but a lot uglier. As an adult, the celebrity I resemble the most is Kit Harington. Based on what friends and internet strangers told me, I went from a 2-3 to a 7-8. Possibly 9 for girls who liked my type/style. I became one of the things I dreaded the most.
One of the first and most important things I learnt was that sex alone wasn't as great as I thought it would be. Don't get me wrong, I did enjoy casual sex, but what I found out was that intimacy is what makes sex amazing, not just the act itself. Knowing that another person trusts you enough to show themselves naked, knowing and seeing that they get pleasure from being with you is the amazing part for me.
I also found out is that looks definitely does matter, but not to the extent I thought it did. I couldn't get away with literally anything, but it did give me a lot of advantages. It gave me a foot in with most girls I wanted to get to know, I could have "odd" hobbies that I wouldn't be able to get away with before, random people would give me free stuff and wanted to be my friend, and the biggest difference for me was that people just trusted me more. I will say that in terms of getting a ONS, looks is more or less everything.
Another revelation I had was that in the past there were some girls who showed an interest in me, I was just too dumb and naive to realise it. One of the girls was all over me at prom, sitting in my lap, trying to dance with me at every opportunity and touching me a lot. There were other girls who showed me a lot of attention, but I kept ignoring them because I thought they were unattractive. The girls didn't like me because I was ugly, but because I was a pos who tried guilt tripping them into liking me. Also because they knew their friend(s) liked me. Funny enough, one of the people I reconnected with was a girl who had a crush on me in 8th grade. We connected instantly, and we recently decided to become a couple.
I honestly don't know why I wanted to share my story. I had completely shut incels and all that toxicity out of my life, but seeing the sub in the news recently made me think about it quite a lot. I just hope that someone else who is in a similar position I was in reads this and knows that there is hope. Because if I managed to turn my life around then there's hope for everyone.
If you have any questions feel free to ask, and apologise if this isn't the right place to post this."
"First of all I would just like to point out that I never fully agreed with message being pushed by incels. Using this image I saw posted earlier, i'd say I was a mix of The Sack Boi and Get this boi a hug boi. There was also a little bit of The Zealot Boi mixed in, but I didn't hate the Western world. I just grew up in a conservative family, which limited my contact with people of the opposite sex. I never hated women, and I would never hurt another person, especially not just because that person happened to be a woman. Looking back I think I was just angry at women for not liking me.
Over the course of a few years I got into therapy, I hit the gym, lost my weight, got into University and I reconnected with old friends from High school. I managed to turn my life around. Turns out I had a good looking face and a decent body under all that fat. When I was younger I looked a lot like Josh from Drake & Josh, but a lot uglier. As an adult, the celebrity I resemble the most is Kit Harington. Based on what friends and internet strangers told me, I went from a 2-3 to a 7-8. Possibly 9 for girls who liked my type/style. I became one of the things I dreaded the most.
One of the first and most important things I learnt was that sex alone wasn't as great as I thought it would be. Don't get me wrong, I did enjoy casual sex, but what I found out was that intimacy is what makes sex amazing, not just the act itself. Knowing that another person trusts you enough to show themselves naked, knowing and seeing that they get pleasure from being with you is the amazing part for me.
I also found out is that looks definitely does matter, but not to the extent I thought it did. I couldn't get away with literally anything, but it did give me a lot of advantages. It gave me a foot in with most girls I wanted to get to know, I could have "odd" hobbies that I wouldn't be able to get away with before, random people would give me free stuff and wanted to be my friend, and the biggest difference for me was that people just trusted me more. I will say that in terms of getting a ONS, looks is more or less everything.
Another revelation I had was that in the past there were some girls who showed an interest in me, I was just too dumb and naive to realise it. One of the girls was all over me at prom, sitting in my lap, trying to dance with me at every opportunity and touching me a lot. There were other girls who showed me a lot of attention, but I kept ignoring them because I thought they were unattractive. The girls didn't like me because I was ugly, but because I was a pos who tried guilt tripping them into liking me. Also because they knew their friend(s) liked me. Funny enough, one of the people I reconnected with was a girl who had a crush on me in 8th grade. We connected instantly, and we recently decided to become a couple.
I honestly don't know why I wanted to share my story. I had completely shut incels and all that toxicity out of my life, but seeing the sub in the news recently made me think about it quite a lot. I just hope that someone else who is in a similar position I was in reads this and knows that there is hope. Because if I managed to turn my life around then there's hope for everyone.
If you have any questions feel free to ask, and apologise if this isn't the right place to post this."
