[39/f] My husband [39/m] of 3.5 years pooped in the shower last night and now I don't know how I feel about him.
submitted 2 years ago * by shitty_throwaway2016
We've been together for 10 years, he's generally a very clean person so this was kind of shocking. I had a suspicion that he might have done it one other time but he denies it. Last night we were getting ready for bed/sex and we took a shower together but I got out before him. I went into the walk-in closet that is across from the shower area. I took a few minutes selecting a sexy nighty to wear and when I came out I could smell shit and he had the shower hose in his hand and had it pointed at the drain. I had an immediate flashback to reading about the the disgusting people here on Reddit that claim to shit in the shower because they are too damn lazy to get out and use the fucking toilet. I couldn't believe my husband was doing this! I called him out and he said it was an accident and that he was embarrassed and sorry. But like I said, I suspect he's done it before. Anyway, we didn't have any sex last night because I couldn't hide my disgust. Our shower has not been draining properly and the idea of it being used as a toilet is too much for me. I put out the bleach for him while he was still in the shower last night and told him he had to clean it. But this morning I went to look and there was still some residue. I have to go get some Draino, and I don't intend on using the shower anymore.
I just don't know what to do now. I am so angry, and disgusted. I love my husband but i don't know if I can look at him the same way anymore.
UPDATE: My husband and I have been talking. I'm not going to throw away almost 10 years of what has been a very happy and fulfilling marriage over a very odd lapse in judgement on his part. He obviously was not thinking straight when he "sharted" accidentally (I'll take his word) in the shower. This is very unlike him, he is well-to-do professional, no mental illness or anything like that. He's Asian but he grew up in a big city on the East coast of USA. Maybe it's the medication, he's only used it one other time many years ago before being put on it again recently for 7 days. I don't know.
He tells me he is so ashamed he can't even look at me, so I am going to take the high road on this one and let it go, as some of you have suggested. And also because I love him. He promises to be careful in the future. He also took care of the drain and scrubbed the bath while I was out. For now I think this has been resolved.
Thanks for the advice not to freak out. I get it, it's embarrassing for him.
I know that to some of you this is an over-reaction, I've been on Reddit long enough to know that to some of you shitting in the shower is no big deal, there's even an affectionate term for it, Waffle Stomping. For me, this kind of behavior is unacceptable and it is not normal. It's extremely disturbing to me that some Redditors think doing that is ok, though not surprising.
UPDATE #2: WE ARE NOT DIVORCING OVER THIS!! I was completely shocked that he did what he did but I am not leaving him. We have talked and things are going to be fine. Secondly, I did NOT say he does this regularly, I said I SUSPECTED he's done it one other time, but I have no proof. So please stop telling me to join him or whatever. Thirdly, the only reason I mentioned he was Asian is because he is of Japanese heritage. Japanese people are very meticulous about their bathrooms, especially the bathing area, so this was something I never expected him to do. I'm not Asian and I'm not White, my race is irrelevant because I don't shit in the shower.
It's fucking over if you can't curbstomp your ass dumplings down your bath pussy. Chad is celebrated when he does it, in college chick giggle about how funny it is. If you're a currycel and you get caught training for the World Street Shitting Championship in your shower, you'll be arrested and shot with the standard issue incendiary, neuro toxic, pathogen laced, depleted uranium, hollow point rounds.
submitted 2 years ago * by shitty_throwaway2016
We've been together for 10 years, he's generally a very clean person so this was kind of shocking. I had a suspicion that he might have done it one other time but he denies it. Last night we were getting ready for bed/sex and we took a shower together but I got out before him. I went into the walk-in closet that is across from the shower area. I took a few minutes selecting a sexy nighty to wear and when I came out I could smell shit and he had the shower hose in his hand and had it pointed at the drain. I had an immediate flashback to reading about the the disgusting people here on Reddit that claim to shit in the shower because they are too damn lazy to get out and use the fucking toilet. I couldn't believe my husband was doing this! I called him out and he said it was an accident and that he was embarrassed and sorry. But like I said, I suspect he's done it before. Anyway, we didn't have any sex last night because I couldn't hide my disgust. Our shower has not been draining properly and the idea of it being used as a toilet is too much for me. I put out the bleach for him while he was still in the shower last night and told him he had to clean it. But this morning I went to look and there was still some residue. I have to go get some Draino, and I don't intend on using the shower anymore.
I just don't know what to do now. I am so angry, and disgusted. I love my husband but i don't know if I can look at him the same way anymore.
UPDATE: My husband and I have been talking. I'm not going to throw away almost 10 years of what has been a very happy and fulfilling marriage over a very odd lapse in judgement on his part. He obviously was not thinking straight when he "sharted" accidentally (I'll take his word) in the shower. This is very unlike him, he is well-to-do professional, no mental illness or anything like that. He's Asian but he grew up in a big city on the East coast of USA. Maybe it's the medication, he's only used it one other time many years ago before being put on it again recently for 7 days. I don't know.
He tells me he is so ashamed he can't even look at me, so I am going to take the high road on this one and let it go, as some of you have suggested. And also because I love him. He promises to be careful in the future. He also took care of the drain and scrubbed the bath while I was out. For now I think this has been resolved.
Thanks for the advice not to freak out. I get it, it's embarrassing for him.
I know that to some of you this is an over-reaction, I've been on Reddit long enough to know that to some of you shitting in the shower is no big deal, there's even an affectionate term for it, Waffle Stomping. For me, this kind of behavior is unacceptable and it is not normal. It's extremely disturbing to me that some Redditors think doing that is ok, though not surprising.
UPDATE #2: WE ARE NOT DIVORCING OVER THIS!! I was completely shocked that he did what he did but I am not leaving him. We have talked and things are going to be fine. Secondly, I did NOT say he does this regularly, I said I SUSPECTED he's done it one other time, but I have no proof. So please stop telling me to join him or whatever. Thirdly, the only reason I mentioned he was Asian is because he is of Japanese heritage. Japanese people are very meticulous about their bathrooms, especially the bathing area, so this was something I never expected him to do. I'm not Asian and I'm not White, my race is irrelevant because I don't shit in the shower.
It's fucking over if you can't curbstomp your ass dumplings down your bath pussy. Chad is celebrated when he does it, in college chick giggle about how funny it is. If you're a currycel and you get caught training for the World Street Shitting Championship in your shower, you'll be arrested and shot with the standard issue incendiary, neuro toxic, pathogen laced, depleted uranium, hollow point rounds.
