Things many men envy about women:
- Being allowed to interact with children without being seen as a likely predator.
- Being able to have friends of the opposite sex without having it assumed you want to have sex with them.
- Being able to break down and cry when you feel overwhelmed without being thought of as weak.
- Being able to sit on a bench at a park anywhere near a playground without having your motives for being there questioned.
- Being taken seriously when trying to file a sexual harassment complaint.
- Not being the one carted off to jail when you're the victim of a domestic disturbance.
- Being allowed to express physical or emotional pain without being called weak or a sissy.
- Having access to the same level of resources when it comes to being the victim of sexual assault, domestic abuse, and similar issues.
- Not dealing with the double standards like being told that we can't possibly understand what life is like for women because we're not women, but having those same women acting like authorities on what life is like for men even though they're not men.
- Not dealing with the double standard of being accused of "mansplaining" (even if we actually are the authority on the subject in the conversation and we're being respectful)... but when women take the exact same attitude that defines "mansplaining", it's referred to as "educating".
- Not being talked down to if you have the kid(s) with you while running errands with things like "It looks like daddy is babysitting today". ("No. I'm actually the one raising the kids as a stay-at-home dad. I'm not the babysitter, I'm their primary caregiver.") Basically, being given credit for being able to be a capable parent who can raise and nurture a child.
- Women are considered the safer parent for children but are statistically significantly more likely to abuse, neglect, or kill their child.
- Having people not question out of context statistics. For example: the $0.75 on the dollar earnings (often started as being for the same work) not only doesn't make economic sense, but multiple economists say that it's an average and in context the gap is much smaller when you take into account the differences in life and career choices between men and women. (E.g., more women become nurses, which is a lower paying field than being doctors as men are pushed toward. Even between male and female doctors, males are pushed toward higher paying specializations.)
- Men are inherently accused as being more aggressive, but studies have shown that's just physical aggression. When social, emotional, and physical aggression are all accounted for... females are actually statistically significantly more aggressive (by about 1/3 as much).
- Women don't face the same stigmas a men when it comes to things like seeking therapy for psychological issues or even seeking out emotional support. This is one of the primary reasons male suicide rates are four times that of women.
- If a man wants to fight for custody of his kid(s), he's only going to win about 1 in every 6 cases at best. And that is only if he can show decisively that the mother is unfit to care for the children. In essence, from the start he's effectively having to appeal a judgement that's already set against him as a capable parent.
- Having a lower chance of being assaulted by strangers
- Having a lower chance of being murdered in general (strangers or associates)
- Having a lower chance of dying in a workplace accident
- Having a longer average lifespan
- Having a lower chance of being sexually assaulted in general (especially if you consider prison statistics)
- Being able to tell someone their kid is cute and not get put on a registry.
- Being able to be in physical pain without people saying "man up" or "walk it off"
- Having a much higher likelihood of winning court cases in general (not just family courts)
- Not being called a virgin or an incel because you disagree with the opposite gender
- Being able to find a partner much easier
- Being less likely to commit suicide
- Being less likely to die in a car accident/on the road
- Having a lower chance of being homeless
- Having a higher chance of being in university
- Having a higher chance of having an available shelter
- Having a higher chance of being a millionaire (at ages 18-44)
None of this, by the way, is any attempt on my part to minimize women's issues or say men have it worse.
Only to recognize that "privilege" is a very subjective concept and that men don't have things nearly as good as the dominant social narratives assert.
References:
Some of these things should be pretty obvious and not need a reference (e.g. women have longer lifespan than men, I don't need to prove that, it's a commonly accepted fact that women's average lifespan is a few years longer than men's generally speaking, in most countries. Or that girls get better marks than boys in school testing currently, look up top 100 schools in Australia and see how many are all girls compared to all boys or co-ed schools).
Some of these things don't have studies (e.g. more likely to be called virgin/incel because you disagree with opposite gender), so I can't reference them, but I thought they'd be agreeable to most people regardless. Or anecdotal findings (which aren't empirical but may be shared amongst many e.g. I've been turned down from a job before because they were looking for or preferred a female, and while they didn't say that, that's actually just sexism).
Also, some of these are similar so I'll lump some together.
Gender and Risk Perception
PDF | Traditional gender roles, sex scripts, and the way female sex offenders are portrayed in the media may lead to misconceptions about who can commit... | Find, read and cite all the research you need on ResearchGate
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Subscription and open access journals from SAGE Publishing, the world's leading independent academic publisher.
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"Men don't cry" "Masculine men strong, emotional men weak" and how these are harmful perceptions
Psychologists emphasize it’s important to encourage pro-social aspects of masculinity.
www.apa.org
Big boys don't cry: depression and men - Volume 14 Issue 4
www.cambridge.org
PDF | Men are a numerical minority group receiving a diagnosis of and treatment for depression. However, community surveys of men and of their mental... | Find, read and cite all the research you need on ResearchGate
www.researchgate.net
Being seen as a predator because you're not a woman (labelling someone as a rapist means you're psychologically tuning them to be a rapist, who would've thought? -.- )
Subscription and open access journals from SAGE Publishing, the world's leading independent academic publisher.
journals.sagepub.com
A common metaphor used to describe heterosexual relationships frames men as predators and women as prey. The present work assessed potential consequences of these metaphoric portrayals. Participants read a heterosexual dating scenario that did or did not metaphorically frame the situation in...
link.springer.com
The difference in sexual harrassment complaints
While the #MeToo movement has created awareness about sexual harassment in the workplace, many are still hesitant to report it — especially men. Even though t
www.lntriallawyers.com
In the current climate of #MeToo are men really scared of mentoring women, and how is this going to disadvantage them as much as it would hamper the progress of women in the workplace?
www.forbes.com
Powerful men are uncomfortable mentoring their female co-workers.
www.marketwatch.com
While most victims of workplace harassment are women, there are growing number of men who face harassment at work. Contact the experienced workplace harassment attorneys at PLBH if you have been subjected to sexual harassment at work.
www.plbsh.com
Domestic abuse related differences
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF01531962 (more men were charged more often than women, but more women were given "more serious charges")
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-04-06/fact-file-domestic-violence-statistics/7147938?nw=0 (one in 3 Australian men have suffered domestic abuse, one in 4 Australian women have suffered domestic abuse)
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-09...c-violence-shame-stigma-support/12495738?nw=0 (Male victims and the stigma they face)
This article provides a review of research literature on women who use violence with intimate partners. The central purpose is to inform service providers in the military and civilian communities who work with domestically violent women. The major points ...
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Resource availability (especially for victims) and gender disparity in mental health
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/men-and-mental-health/index.shtml(men "less likely" to get mental health help, more likely to die via suicide)
https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-11/Lombard, 'What about the men' 2013.pdf ("What about the men?")
https://www.who.int/mental_health/media/en/242.pdf (women more likely to have mental health issues, but also more likely to get support for them and less likely to commit suicide because of them)
Double Standards
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0001839217694358
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4256532/ ("if a woman has sex with a bunch of guys, she's a slut, but if a guy does it, he gets praise" - nope, only according to data from the 60s, see this study to see how/why promiscuity isn't judged by gender any more)
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.00544/full ("both men and women showed self-depreceating double standards" i.e. it's not just women who think they're not beautiful enough or good enough to be in the media or w/e, men feel that too)
https://www.researchgate.net/public...ave_internalized_the_muscular_male_body_ideal(the "ideal male" is seen as the extremely muscular man by both boys and girls, whereas the "ideal woman" isn't as "set")
Women considered safer parents/babysitters regardless of statistics
The tragedy of maternal filicide, or child murder by mothers, has occurred throughout history and throughout the world. This review of the research literature sought to identify common predictors in the general population as well as in correctional and ...
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-02...ildren-on-the-rise-domestic-filicide/10793162 (mothers killing their offspring is on the rise, fathers doing so is declining)
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0145213411000718(seems like men and women are both just as bad in terms of filicide, not that men are these terrible things you should keep kids away from)
https://www.researchgate.net/public..._filicide_offenders_in_two_European_countries (Aussie study of filicide, fathers more often diagnosed with substance abuse and more likely to commit suicide afterwards i.e. feel guilt)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4315896/ ("more females sexually abused, more males physically abused" "a history of sexual abuse...related to sexual offending." "A history of physical abuse...related to violent offending") (Note, this logic would imply that the majority of sexual abusers currently or in the future will be female)
https://aifs.gov.au/cfca/publications/who-abuses-children ("Evidence also suggests that mothers are more likely than fathers to be held responsible for child neglect. In a large representative study that examined the characteristics of perpetrators in substantiated cases of child abuse and neglect in the United States, neglect was the main type of abuse in 66% of cases involving a female caregiver, compared to 36% of cases involving a male caregiver (US DHHS, 2005). )
Feminist wage gap myth/propaganda
Much of what we hear about the plight of American women is false
time.com
As this year’s data is released, we tackle the most common misconceptions
www.theguardian.com
Women are more aggressive than men (except for physically)
https://www.researchgate.net/public...intimate_relationships_Comment_on_Archer_2000(this says women are actually more likely to be physically aggressive even)
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/281360521_Women_and_aggression(female competition is generally "intersexually" or "indirect aggression")
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnbeh.2018.00081/full
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S187704281200287X(neurobiological reasons for differences in aggression)
Custody Statistics
https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/publications/2016/demo/P60-255.pdf (one in 6 custodial parents are fathers, or 17.5%)
https://scholarship.law.stjohns.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1522&context=lawreview
https://www.divorcenet.com/resource...-men-why-women-get-child-custody-over-80-time ("There was once a presumption that children should always stay with their mother following a divorce. Most states no longer honor that presumption, however. (In fact, some states have passed laws stating that there is no custody preference for women over men.) Despite this change, mothers are still more likely to get custody when parents divorce.")
Chances of being a victim/likelihood of danger/female biased gender disparities
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1635092/ (men more likely to be victims of homocide)
https://globalnews.ca/news/6536184/gender-based-violence-men-women/(men more likely to be victims of homocide)
https://www.unodc.org/gsh/en/data.html (According to the data given by the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime, worldwide, 78.7% of homicide victims are male, and in 193 of the 202 listed countries or regions, males were more likely to be killed than females. In two, the ratio was 50:50 (Switzerland and British Virgin Islands), and in the remaining 7; Tonga, Iceland, Japan, New Zealand, Republic of Korea, Latvia and Hong Kong, females were more likely to be victims of homicides compared to males.)
https://theconversation.com/men-are...lia-what-can-we-do-to-reduce-their-risk-78251 (Australian men more likely to be victims of homocide)
https://healthydebate.ca/2017/08/topic/male-suicide (men more likely to be victims of suicide)
https://www.verywellmind.com/gender-differences-in-suicide-methods-1067508 (male suicide attempts "60% more severe" than female suicide attempts, women are more likely to engage in self harming behaviour though)
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-017-1398-8 (men "disproportionately" high in terms of number of suicides)
https://www.safeworkaustralia.gov.a...-fatalities-key-whs-statistics-australia-2018 (Australian men suffer many more workplace injuries and fatalities than women)
https://www.amhf.org.au/exactly_how_big_is_the_gender_health_gap(Australian gender health gap)
https://www.statista.com/statistics...injury-deaths-in-the-us-by-gender-since-2003/ (men much more likely to have occupational accidents than women, even in the US)
https://endhomelessness.org/demographic-data-project-gender-and-individual-homelessness/ (70% chance that a homeless person is a man, 29% a woman, 1% trans)
https://www.homelessnessaustralia.org.au/sites/homelessnessaus/files/2017-07/Homelessness and men.pdf (59% chance that a homeless person in Australia is a man)
https://melbourne-cshe.unimelb.edu....ender-Enrolment-Trends-F-Larkins-Sep-2018.pdf (ratio of 100 females to 72 males in universities in Australia)
https://www.aph.gov.au/About_Parlia...rary/Publications_Archive/CIB/cib0203/03CIB31(more female students are universities, more male staff)
https://www.marketingcharts.com/industries/retail-and-e-commerce-41022("female millionaires have a higher net worth than their male counterparts")
https://www.straitstimes.com/world/...res-in-the-us-earned-more-than-men-on-average (female US millionaires earning more on average than male US millioniares)
https://www.theguardian.com/money/2015/aug/29/women-in-20s-earn-more-men-same-age-study-finds (women in their 20s earn more for than men in their 20s, it seems like the opposite to the feminist wage gap myth is the reality lol)
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-09...en-earn-more-than-men-fact-check/5712770?nw=0 (women get paid more than men of the same age, but that's because 3 females graduate for every 2 males, women make up around 57% of university students/graduates)
https://www.businessinsider.com.au/gender-pay-gap-where-women-earn-more-2018-4?r=US&IR=T (jobs where women earn more than men)
A new study gives a portrait of female perpetrators
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