feeling invisible at college

[ormolu]

i started attending classes three weeks ago, and so far i haven't had a single conversation with anyone on campus; if i'm lucky someone will ask me for directions or something, and that will be all the social interaction i get for the day. college was supposed to be my last chance to live a happy student life after losing middle school to the pandemic and highschool to my own social incompetency, but i just feel invisible. i see others talking, hanging out, making friends, and goofing off in and out of class, but i'm just totally detached from it, as if i were living in a separate world.
when i was in highschool, what kept me going was the possibility of being happy in college, where i'd be able to form genuine friendships and even meet a girl who would reciprocate my feelings, but now the illusion has been broken and i've lost all hope. i'm going to live through another 5 years of this, get my degree, and then work a draining 8 to 6 job for 50 years until i keel over and die (and that's if i'm lucky). please tell me there's something else to life.

 

[Deleted Member 8090]

I'm in college. Khhv obviously, never been to a party even in highschool, never hung out with groups here, no car or licence, never made a college friend, never drank or smoked, I'm living like I'm 13 and don't interact with anyone else at college. I'm also probably going to fail

 

[DogTeeth]

Back when I was in college, I managed to make a few friends by just randomly saying stuff to who ever was sitting next to me. I think people are just kind of awkward about starting up convos

 

[fastnbulbous]

College is the place that determines who are the genetic winners and who are the losers. It's a filter designed to weed incels out of the gene pool.

 

[Zionist]

As a male in the west you will only get noticed if your Chad or if you look like the hunchback of Notre Dame

 

[INVERTER]

i started attending classes three weeks ago, and so far i haven't had a single conversation with anyone on campus; if i'm lucky someone will ask me for directions or something, and that will be all the social interaction i get for the day. college was supposed to be my last chance to live a happy student life after losing middle school to the pandemic and highschool to my own social incompetency, but i just feel invisible. i see others talking, hanging out, making friends, and goofing off in and out of class, but i'm just totally detached from it, as if i were living in a separate world.
when i was in highschool, what kept me going was the possibility of being happy in college, where i'd be able to form genuine friendships and even meet a girl who would reciprocate my feelings, but now the illusion has been broken and i've lost all hope. i'm going to live through another 5 years of this, get my degree, and then work a draining 8 to 6 job for 50 years until i keel over and die (and that's if i'm lucky). please tell me there's something else to life.

There isn't. You just described my life now in my late twenties. NOTHING will happen if you just sit there. Do you live on campus?

 

[Diddy]

When I was in uni, I was taking creepshots during my spare time, and even skipped lectures to do it. Honestly, I think I would’ve completely lost my mind from all the mogging and the loneliness if I didn’t take creepshots.

 

[ormolu]

There isn't. You just described my life now in my late twenties. NOTHING will happen if you just sit there. Do you live on campus?

my college doesn't have dorms, it's a smaller polytechnic and not a full size uni (aka it's a total sausage fest), but i want to play the hand i was dealt despite all the drawbacks it has, because this is the last chance i'm getting to be happy and develop into a healthy adult.
every time i've complained to my elders about how dull and uneventful my life is they told me i had college to look up to, that it would be the time of my life, that i'd make connections and memories that i would take with me for life, but so far it's been taking a stuffy bus to class, watching lectures for hours on end in silence, then taking a bus back home and doomscrolling until i pass out on my bed.
i really didn't expect i'd still be living like this after highschool ended. it makes me want to catch the bus.

 

[INVERTER]

my college doesn't have dorms, it's a smaller polytechnic and not a full size uni (aka it's a total sausage fest), but i want to play the hand i was dealt despite all the drawbacks it has, because this is the last chance i'm getting to be happy and develop into a healthy adult.
every time i've complained to my elders about how dull and uneventful my life is they told me i had college to look up to, that it would be the time of my life, that i'd make connections and memories that i would take with me for life, but so far it's been taking a stuffy bus to class, watching lectures for hours on end in silence, then taking a bus back home and doomscrolling until i pass out on my bed.
i really didn't expect i'd still be living like this after highschool ended. it makes me want to catch the bus.

My college experience was more or less that. I didn't live on campus either. I did have a few friends here and there. The thing that sucks is even you make connections there a lot of times people ghost you after college is over. Out of all the people I talked to in college ONE guy still talks to me today and not very often. He lives hundreds of miles away now.

Anyway, just focus on meeting as many people as you can while you still can. Just try your best to be open and friendly. Very hard if you're anything like me.. do whatever extracurriculars they have there. At my school they had an indoor climbing club. Wish I took advantage of that more. Being at a small school it might be hard though. Yours sounds almost like a trade school

 

[Yunoo]

The college experience is a scam. It was created to further incentivize people to waste their money on college.

You have to be insanely NT and social to make friends in college. It’s way harder than high school.

 

[VanGobbel]

i started attending classes three weeks ago, and so far i haven't had a single conversation with anyone on campus; if i'm lucky someone will ask me for directions or something, and that will be all the social interaction i get for the day. college was supposed to be my last chance to live a happy student life after losing middle school to the pandemic and highschool to my own social incompetency, but i just feel invisible. i see others talking, hanging out, making friends, and goofing off in and out of class, but i'm just totally detached from it, as if i were living in a separate world.
when i was in highschool, what kept me going was the possibility of being happy in college, where i'd be able to form genuine friendships and even meet a girl who would reciprocate my feelings, but now the illusion has been broken and i've lost all hope. i'm going to live through another 5 years of this, get my degree, and then work a draining 8 to 6 job for 50 years until i keel over and die (and that's if i'm lucky). please tell me there's something else to life.

cope or rope boyo this is your life.

 

[Emba]

Mogs me for having many decades left to live

 

[autistandugly]

i started attending classes three weeks ago, and so far i haven't had a single conversation with anyone on campus; if i'm lucky someone will ask me for directions or something, and that will be all the social interaction i get for the day. college was supposed to be my last chance to live a happy student life after losing middle school to the pandemic and highschool to my own social incompetency, but i just feel invisible. i see others talking, hanging out, making friends, and goofing off in and out of class, but i'm just totally detached from it, as if i were living in a separate world.
when i was in highschool, what kept me going was the possibility of being happy in college, where i'd be able to form genuine friendships and even meet a girl who would reciprocate my feelings, but now the illusion has been broken and i've lost all hope. i'm going to live through another 5 years of this, get my degree, and then work a draining 8 to 6 job for 50 years until i keel over and die (and that's if i'm lucky). please tell me there's something else to life.

Brutal

 

[redditfoidgenocide]

College is the place that determines who are the genetic winners and who are the losers. It's a filter designed to weed incels out of the gene pool.

 

[ItsOverMan]

Back when I was in college, I managed to make a few friends by just randomly saying stuff to who ever was sitting next to me.

I was way too high inhib for that. Made 0 friends in 4 years of college (I lived on campus in dorms too). After I tried to talk to some people in the first week of freshman year and they weren't interested in being friends, I knew it was over.

"Friends" are overrated and stupid anyway. I had a few friends in high school but they all dropped me after high school was over. Same thing would happen with college. You're just temporary entertainment for them in that phase of their life. People move on, move across the country, make new friends cooler than you, get married and have kids.

 

[ItsOverMan]

You have to be insanely NT and social to make friends in college. It’s way harder than high school.

I 100% agree. Making friends in college seemed 10x harder than high school, and in college I lived on campus in the dorms and ate in the dining halls every day (by myself of course) for 4 years, so I was constantly around the other students 24/7.

 

[electricSon90]

i started attending classes three weeks ago, and so far i haven't had a single conversation with anyone on campus; if i'm lucky someone will ask me for directions or something, and that will be all the social interaction i get for the day. college was supposed to be my last chance to live a happy student life after losing middle school to the pandemic and highschool to my own social incompetency, but i just feel invisible. i see others talking, hanging out, making friends, and goofing off in and out of class, but i'm just totally detached from it, as if i were living in a separate world.
when i was in highschool, what kept me going was the possibility of being happy in college, where i'd be able to form genuine friendships and even meet a girl who would reciprocate my feelings, but now the illusion has been broken and i've lost all hope. i'm going to live through another 5 years of this, get my degree, and then work a draining 8 to 6 job for 50 years until i keel over and die (and that's if i'm lucky). please tell me there's something else to life.

Trust me. I went to college with the same mindset, that everything would go well and I would naturally meet the woman of my dreams, instead, I just got indirectly told how wrong I was. I was in for a CS degree, so the prospect of meeting women was already pretty low, but I did join a couple of extracurricular activities, and nothing. I did stay in the dorms for a couple of semesters, and it absolutely sucked. I tried to socialize but to no avail, so I just spent my days playing video games or tinkering in a Java IDE. Unless you're good looking and/or NT, it's not worth the effort imo. I've recently graduated so moneymaxxing is all that is on my mind.