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Hi all. I am feeling pretty bummed and depressed. After total failure to get matches (let alone dates) from tinder et.al. I decided to install an app that organizes dinners with 5-6 other strangers (3 women and 3 men in theory) to meet up, chat, and see where it goes. After the dinner you have the option to like or dislike a person and if they both “match” they can talk to each other.
So for this dinner I tried my best. Nice haircut, perfume, trimmed beard, nice clothes, nice grooming. I am a rather tall person (6 '2'’), slim and have a thin but muscular complexion from swimming a lot. Facially I am nothing to write about but not hideous by any means, probably a 6/10. I also have a solid job, live alone and rent my own apartment. For this dinner the app actually matched me with one other guy (who from a physical standpoint he was out of shape, he was fat and shorter) and FIVE (five) women. All of them ranging from OK to pretty good looking.
So here I was, one very tall slim guy against five attractive woman in a dinner designed to date and fuck and with barely any other male competition. You could not imagine a better scenario. This was the dream, right? Everyone should be able to pull at least something, right? Right?
Well, no. False. Completely false. I don’t know why but either I am completely repulsive to women or women have standards and demands that are so impossibly high that only the chadest of chads can get any.
So how I fucked up? Analyzing my behaviour I think my errors were speaking against using AI for fact-checking (which I think should be a fair opinion?), against showing screens to children before they are older (is that unreasonable?), being pro-communism (again, controversial but it could make for an interesting debate, not straight out rejecting someone for their political opinions) and… that’s it? So I am rejected by 5 completely different women because either I am not that impossibly hot chad, or because slightly debatable opinions? What am I supposed to do?
I am really fucking tired because this is not the first or unique time. I try and try my best but I do not know what the fuck to do and I’m despairing. Should I simply lie and agree with whatever dumb or personal opinion that they have on the basis that thinking differently is enough to reject you? Is my appearance the problem? I am brown skinned (latino) and with darker hair, I am most definitely not a blonde blue eyed nordic guy. I don’t know what the fuck is happening with women. This was the dream scenario and even the dream scenario is not enough. What the fuck is happening with women. What do they even expect, how much of a 9999/10 you have to be?
So for this dinner I tried my best. Nice haircut, perfume, trimmed beard, nice clothes, nice grooming. I am a rather tall person (6 '2'’), slim and have a thin but muscular complexion from swimming a lot. Facially I am nothing to write about but not hideous by any means, probably a 6/10. I also have a solid job, live alone and rent my own apartment. For this dinner the app actually matched me with one other guy (who from a physical standpoint he was out of shape, he was fat and shorter) and FIVE (five) women. All of them ranging from OK to pretty good looking.
So here I was, one very tall slim guy against five attractive woman in a dinner designed to date and fuck and with barely any other male competition. You could not imagine a better scenario. This was the dream, right? Everyone should be able to pull at least something, right? Right?
Well, no. False. Completely false. I don’t know why but either I am completely repulsive to women or women have standards and demands that are so impossibly high that only the chadest of chads can get any.
So how I fucked up? Analyzing my behaviour I think my errors were speaking against using AI for fact-checking (which I think should be a fair opinion?), against showing screens to children before they are older (is that unreasonable?), being pro-communism (again, controversial but it could make for an interesting debate, not straight out rejecting someone for their political opinions) and… that’s it? So I am rejected by 5 completely different women because either I am not that impossibly hot chad, or because slightly debatable opinions? What am I supposed to do?
I am really fucking tired because this is not the first or unique time. I try and try my best but I do not know what the fuck to do and I’m despairing. Should I simply lie and agree with whatever dumb or personal opinion that they have on the basis that thinking differently is enough to reject you? Is my appearance the problem? I am brown skinned (latino) and with darker hair, I am most definitely not a blonde blue eyed nordic guy. I don’t know what the fuck is happening with women. This was the dream scenario and even the dream scenario is not enough. What the fuck is happening with women. What do they even expect, how much of a 9999/10 you have to be?
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