IronMike
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I strongly believe my Heavenly Father puts me in times of trial to learn, and educate others so that’s the purpose of this post. I married Tyler very young, and naive. I was full of love. I truly believed he was a respectful return missionary who believed he would make a great husband. There was no question I wanted to marry him which made it a little easier to ignore all the immediate red flags.
The red flags became more prominent once I gave him my hand in marriage. There are many early signs of an abuser such as isolation, jealousy, and control. Tyler used to tell me I couldn’t talk to my family more than once a week, and none of my friends were allowed to come to my wedding. He was overly controlling in almost every way. I couldn’t talk a certain way or walk a certain way. I had to lose my southern accent and wear a certain type of makeup. He controlled if I sat or laid down, and what I ate. Emotional and verbal abuse are usually prerequisites of physical abuse. Emotional, and verbal abuse could be name calling, attempting to intimidate, threatening, and mocking. Tyler would do all of the above as well as be a serial cheater. He would cheat on me with anyone from work, school and even women he encountered on his LDS mission.Physical abuse is very, very serious and I’m very lucky to make it out with the injuries I did. He was very unpredictable and would beat me for anything, for example, turning on a light, moving out of the room, or even having dirt on my shoes.
I would also like to thank any friends and family that helped me out and got me to that hospital, you guys saved my life. I’m so happy to be free of the beatings, concussions, and bruises. If physical abuse starts, there’s a slim chance it will stop and it’s proven that it intensifies as time goes on. I know a lot of people asked why I stayed so long. Well, I loved him and I had hope for change. If anyone out there is suffering from this, please, please believe that there are people more than willing to help and reach. Pleases notice the red flags. If needed, there are many outlets to help with getting you safe.
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