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Does anyone else keep having dreams about being in school or with people from school even years after graduating?
I hated my school years, I was a loser the entire time. I had few if any friends. Only a handful of people would occasionally acknowledge my existence. Yet I'm 26 and every other dream I have is about being back there. Like in the last dream I was a senior again and managed to ask out a girl I used to like. I don't understand why I still have such dreams when it was so long ago and wasn't a good experience, I'm so sick of it I want to dream of cool shit.
My only explanation is that while it overall sucked, it was still the main event of my life and therefore main setting for my dreams. I also have dreams which are in the present day but I run into someone I knew from school and talk with them. When I wake up and realize it didn't really happen it's a crushing feeling, even when I hadn't thought of the person in years.
I think the reason for this is that when one spends many years being around the same people every day, the mind subconsciously starts to see them as one's tribe. Then when one day all these people disappear (graduation), the subconscious thinks it's been separated from the tribe. If one doesn't find a new tribe, the subconscious still seeks to reunite with the old one, even many years later. Essentially, it's never-ending Stockholm Syndrome.
I hated my school years, I was a loser the entire time. I had few if any friends. Only a handful of people would occasionally acknowledge my existence. Yet I'm 26 and every other dream I have is about being back there. Like in the last dream I was a senior again and managed to ask out a girl I used to like. I don't understand why I still have such dreams when it was so long ago and wasn't a good experience, I'm so sick of it I want to dream of cool shit.
My only explanation is that while it overall sucked, it was still the main event of my life and therefore main setting for my dreams. I also have dreams which are in the present day but I run into someone I knew from school and talk with them. When I wake up and realize it didn't really happen it's a crushing feeling, even when I hadn't thought of the person in years.
I think the reason for this is that when one spends many years being around the same people every day, the mind subconsciously starts to see them as one's tribe. Then when one day all these people disappear (graduation), the subconscious thinks it's been separated from the tribe. If one doesn't find a new tribe, the subconscious still seeks to reunite with the old one, even many years later. Essentially, it's never-ending Stockholm Syndrome.
