I all too often see this argument from coping incels saying that they "moved past" their hatred and treat their lack of hate like its an achievement or something, or they speak about their lack of yearning for sex as though they've attained some new "level of existence" JFL
ITS NOT A COINCIDENCE THAT MOST USERS WHO SAY STUFF LIKE THIS ARE OLDCELS (30+ YEARS OLD)
I have a rude awakening for these types of incels, you didn't move past anything, you didn't achieve anything, IT HAPPENED NATURALLY (NOT THROUGH EFFORT), as it even happens for Chad as the years go by
Holding onto hate requires effort, it requires will power, because it is tiring in a sense. You have to hold onto it with the mindset and belief that one day you will get to release it in the form of vengeance, that's the only way it feels worth holding on to, that's the only way you can have the will to do so, as feeling hatred is literally stressful
If you've "given up on hate" its merely because you've gotten tired of holding onto it, because you no longer see the possibility of revenge in your future, and/or you are just tired of feeling angry in general, YOUR WILL WAS BROKEN
As for yearning for sex its the same thing, you got tired of yearning because the possiblity of ever releasing your sexual urges seems impossible to you, with the added fact that your libido becomes weaker over time
