Does anyone else suffer from the inability to find things to say or talk about in conversation?

[GN-z11]

I always struggle with finding something to say and this is the sole reason I haven't had a friend in well over 15 years. I've been alone for that long. I seem to be good with the first few intro bits but once we're past those I, or rather, the convo, comes to a screeching halt. This is the main reason I am an incel, or a general loner in life. Nobody wants to associate with a silent loner.

 

[universallyabhorret]

Yes due to autism.

 

[Grotesque]

Yes, because I don't trust anyone and rarely want to deal with anyone's shit.

 

[neet]

You are a introvert. And yes most incels not only have issues to get laid but also remain in social isolation and have (almost) no friends.

 

[OverBeforeItBegan2]

I'm a really boring person which is why I can never keep a conversation going, even with people I have known for years. I spent most of my life inside my bedroom so I don't have any life experiences to talk about. In my early teens, I always stayed quiet because if I ever brought any attention to myself, my "friends" would use that as an excuse to make fun of me.

 

[Villain]

I find it hard to maintain eye contact. Im sure its also hard for the other person to look at me too

 

[Johny.speiz]

I'm a really boring person which is why I can never keep a conversation going, even with people I have known for years. I spent most of my life inside my bedroom so I don't have any life experiences to talk about. In my early teens, I always stayed quiet because if I ever brought any attention to myself, my "friends" would use that as an excuse to make fun of me.

Same. Due to autism, SAD/GAD, and being an introvert.

 

[ihaveno1]

i have nothing in common with normalfags and it always takes me forever to think of things to say when i'm forced to be around normies

 

[Deleted member 15752]

yes, normfags these days only talk about netflix and tinder matches

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

here's a hot take, conversation has fuck all to do with your "state of mind" or "presence" or "normality"
it all comes down to how much you have in common and how many shared experiences, and that's it

the proof: whenever you talk to a normie the convo dies down superfast if you are rapidly changing topics because you're not talking about a shared experience that starts a spirited discussion, so you're changing the topic, and that makes for a stupid awkward 'interrogation' convo that quickly ends.
either you have things in common (and most likely were always in the same circle or group of some kind) or you won't have much of a conversation no matter how much you flip out trying to "be a conversationalist"

 

[Deleted member 5712]

the only things i ever did with consistency is browse incel forums/similar chan boards and jerk off to lolicon
not exactly something that is relatable in any way to the regular Joe

so when people talk to me I usually just try to listen, ask questions, and mirror their speech like Jordan Peterson and other people have always stated to do. unfortunately, that shit never fucking works if you are ugly people still stop conversation with you and walk away.

it also doesn't help i dont watch tv. all the people talk about this show or that show and i don't know what the fuck any of them are talking about.

 

[this is hell]

yes, normfags these days only talk about netflix and tinder matches

my hobbies are netflix, dogs, traveling xD

 

[Deleted member 7573]

i have nothing in common with normalfags and it always takes me forever to think of things to say when i'm forced to be around normies

This, it's always about trips to other countries, places they visited with their partners, people they fucked, I have nothing to contribute in this type of conversation, unless the intention it's to make jokes about the fact I never had any of these things

 

[NoMoreSlaving]

Yes, because I don't trust anyone and rarely want to deal with anyone's shit.

Not just that but people also don't want to deal with you because you're ugly

 

[Deleted member 17599]

Yes bro. I suffer from it all the time because of autism

 

[ihaveno1]

trips to other countries

never left my country

places they visited with their partners

never had a gf

people they fucked

never had sex

JFL what the fuck am i supposed say...

 

[The Abyss]

Yup, same issue.

 

[Braincel14w]

Yeah I get this. Things to say just don't pop into my head like they do for other people.

 

[Valiant Virgin]

Yes. I find it hard to relate to a lot of people in general.

 

[UselesseatER]

people also don't want to deal with you because you're ugly

The , it's that simple

 

[Deleted member 60]

I think it's true that depression destroys your brain. As I've said before, it feels like I have dementia sometimes.

here's a hot take, conversation has fuck all to do with your "state of mind" or "presence" or "normality"
it all comes down to how much you have in common and how many shared experiences, and that's it

the proof: whenever you talk to a normie the convo dies down superfast if you are rapidly changing topics because you're not talking about a shared experience that starts a spirited discussion, so you're changing the topic, and that makes for a stupid awkward 'interrogation' convo that quickly ends.
either you have things in common (and most likely were always in the same circle or group of some kind) or you won't have much of a conversation no matter how much you flip out trying to "be a conversationalist"

high IQ post as usual.

 

[Insomniac]

I’m autistic so me trying to talk communicate with people is like a fish trying to climb a tree. People aren’t interested in the things I’m interested in.

 

[Blanknight]

Not really, I generally am able to talk with anyone.

Sometimes it's hard, of course, not always do you have things to talk about. For example, if I meet someone from school that I don't really know at a mall, trying to maintain a conversation is impossible.

But in uni, for example (which I started now) is not as hard. The way I do ( if I'm trying to strike a conversation with a random) is to find an opening first. This is usually during classes, where I can talk about class-related things. Since no one knows anyone, I become one of that person's only contacts, which makes further conversations with them easier. After that I can ask about them other university related things, pick up extra information during the conversation and continue from there.


Obviously the other person has to be willing. If they answer with responses with no info, I can't do anything. Having a high trust unthreatening face helps me with that I guess.

 

[Smallondick]

Yes due to autism.

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This, it's always about trips to other countries, places they visited with their partners, people they fucked, I have nothing to contribute in this type of conversation, unless the intention it's to make jokes about the fact I never had any of these things

 

[Deleted member 14430]

Yes its called social anxiety, when someone speaks to you in a conversation your mind starts to panic, and freezing up is a common occurrence.

For instance I tend to stutter when someone speaks to me, one time I started to swear profusely when a foid talked to me in highschool.

 

[Deleted member 16455]

This is prob gonna me. Havent had a true friend in 3 years. I have trust issues cuz they were all backstabbers

 

[Cuyen]

I dont know and i dont care tbh i just talk whatever comes to my mind

 

[guaucel]

Normalscum deserve to be shot

 

[Ignas]

Yes for most people. Because there's only few people I can relate to and make good conversations with