Whenever a discussion about sexuality pops up in my life there's almost always an underlying assumption that something about male sexuality is inherently predatory. Anytime a guy feels an attraction to a girl there's something a little creepy or sinister about it & that always manifests in some form of trying to have power over the other person. I've also noticed that whenever I'm out walking alone and there's a girl by herself in front of me going the same direction, I take my phone out and wait a bit so she doesn't feel like she's being followed. I always feel like I'm trying to assure strangers in subtle ways there isn't anything dangerous about me (which is just a bit draining) & I don't think we would have to do this if I was a guy. Also if a girl complains about not being able to find a guy, she might get some push back but, ultimately some people will be sympathetic and wish her luck, but if a guy complains about not being able to get any girl to be interested in them, it's seen as a sign that he might have toxic views of women or that something is deeply wrong with the way he conducts his life. It's not the worst thing in the world but It feels like there's a lot of nonsense one could avoid if people didn't perceive them as a guy or girl.
