Females have it easier in dating today and a lot of life in general (in the west) however a lot of people forget one of the biggest lessons from the BP is that suffering is relative in life. Sometimes I can have empathy for people but most of the time I’m concerned with myself because in the past every time I wasn’t it ended badly for me. People forget that life itself is a ringer of suffering, a clown show, a values game and that everyone pays the price one day, one way or another, even chads can’t escape it, the only people that do are the severely intellectually disabled.