Do you have any reference groups? Group you can belong to, take values and aesthetic from it, relate to? I really can relate only to you guys.
In the sewers
In my bedroom
The only communities I belong to are my family and this forum. If my family died tomorrow and this site would be shut down I’d completely alone by myself in the world. I’d wander aimlessly like ghost (I actually feel like a ghost the more I get older).
Do you really have something in common with your relatives or it's just accommodation and sharing living?
Nope, I am always alone
That's a good one
My dreams and my nightmares. I don't feel alive when i'm outside my own mind. I can't understand people so i don't get attached to anyone. That's why i'm alone
Besides the fact that we share a large percentage of our DNA, living under the same roof is pretty much the only thing that binds us together. Our worldview and values differ greatly, which causes a lot of quarrel.
But the most important thing is that they’re the only people in my life who genuinely give a shit about whether I’m alive or not. The only people who’d actually attend my funeral If I died. That’s what matters to me the most in life and I fear the day when my parents pass away. Especially my mother, who did so much good to me. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to thank her all the things she did for me.
What about you? Do you feel like you actually belong to your family?
No not really.
i belong to .is
Not sure. I'm in ok relationships with my family, i live with them, but i crave something more and they can't provide it for me just like i can't provide it for them. Different values, different behaviour, different life outcomes.
Are you ready to provide for your family? If yes, does it motivates you to keep going?
Same for me.
Not at all unfortunately, If I lived alone I could barely provide for myself, let alone take care of my parents, even If I worked full time in my current job (which is a dead end low wage job).
Yes, I hope one day they can retire and I can take care of them financially, physically etc. I’m an incel so I may never marry or have kids, but at least I’ll have my parents to care for.
In the past like 27 years, this place is the only place where I've felt like I fit in. I feel like you guys are my friends even though you're just online screen names. People here are surprisingly nice to one another compared to other Internet "spaces," and I've been on the Internet for 30 years. If anything, the Internet was meaner 15+ years ago. Normgroids are brutal even to one another online.
I'm too high inhib to try to fit in somewhere in real life but I haven't fit in IRL either since teen years in the 90s or maybe elementary school in the 80s.
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Now that I'm 40+ and both my parents are dead and I'm only child, and I haven't seen any of my extended family in 25+ years and no friends in 25+ years and KHHV+touchless+dateless, I really do feel like that ghost you mentioned. I feel like I'm just left to wander through this life as a ghost til i die, I'm dead to everyone already.
No, humanity is in ruins and there are no tribes or communities to belong to.
Not really
Just here but even then
Just here but even then
Heaven
I had a friend group but I was ousted 6 months ago . I wanna mow them with a ak
Nope my best friend is the bottle right next to me.
Hell no, Heaven yes.
No
An involuntary outsider
An involuntary outsider
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This forum is the only place I feel safe to be me, but I don't think I "belong" even here. It's the place where I seek comfort, knowing other people are experiencing the same things I am, but so many people here are so aggressive and furious so some things are kind of hard to relate to. On the other hand, the real world is even less relatable and also aggressive and exhausting.
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