Serious do suburbs cause inceldom and loneliness?

[nohope.]

not only are they lonely, but there isn't much to do but stare in front of a screen. going to your next door neighbor and asking them to hang out is a 90s fantasy, people (mainly zoomers) are too anxious and easily bored to do anything but go on their computer (and if you can't drive you're absolutely fucked). we all know excessive internet exposure creates autistis, but thats the route many suburbanites unfortunately take. if you live in a big city you have way more opportunities to ascend

 

[Med Anime]

i thought living in big cities make your chances smaller since toilet have even higher requirments due to going to parties and meeting a lot of people and also girls are pretier in big cities so no wonder why they will aim even higher

 

[Newton the 2nd]

Suburbs + divorce + globohomo culture fed through the internet

 

[Hoppipolla]

I think suburbs look really nice but... I think this problem of people not knowing their neighbours or local community extends everywhere.

Years back when most women didn't work, they were the ones who networked with neighbours and kept that alive.

 

[PersonalityChad]

Yes. In general, atomization of society is an underrated cause of inceldom

 

[Mecoja]

In smaller towns adult single foids are rare, almost non existing, in bigger cities there's more competition but imo still easier to get something.

 

[willystroker]

i thought living in big cities make your chances smaller since toilet have even higher requirments due to going to parties and meeting a lot of people and also girls are pretier in big cities so no wonder why they will aim even higher

That's kinda true but the problem is even finding a young single woman outside of big cities is so hard. Really you have to get them in high school, after that they either leave town or get pinned down in a LTR. And even if you do find one she's probably a landwhale or single mother. I'd say the only thing that would be easier is fucking older married women who are bored.

 

[Asgard]

Being a loser (IQ, looks, neurotypicality) is what causes inceldom. Stop it.

 

[nohope.]

Being a loser (IQ, looks, neurotypicality) is what causes inceldom. Stop it.

location matters

 

[Asgard]

location matters

So, you basically mean: wealth. IQ is genetically inherited, so blame should be put on your ancestors instead.

IQ = wealth.

 

[willystroker]

So, you basically mean: wealth. IQ is genetically inherited, so blame should be put on your ancestors instead.

IQ = wealth.

I wouldn't say there's a direct correlation with wealth and optimal location. It's more like a horseshoe. The poor and working class families live in the poor urban neighborhoods and pre-war suburbs on the outskirts, where there are lots of other people and things within walking/biking distance to do. It might be a kind of shitty place to live but doesn't create an excessive amount of incels.

The middle class is most likely to live in the outer suburbs with lower population density where the only thing to do is head over to the nearest strip mall. Although I think into the mid 2000s there were still opportunities to meet people, like with teenagers hanging out at the strip mall and adults going out to bars and such. But once the internet, video games and smartphones became normalized enough, it seemed like everyone just shut themselves into their McMansions since there's more fun to be had at home than anywhere outside. Plus since the birth rate is so low these suburbs have less and less kids as time goes on, and they mostly move away after high school. That's why this is prime incel territory, as even guys who aren't clearly incel-tier in looks can easily end up socially isolated.

Then the upper class are able to live in the affluent urban neighborhoods in the few cities that don't have a major nigger problem. This is the place with lots of fun things to do and the best universities and workplaces which attracts lots of young people, so I'd argue it has the lowest rate of inceldom, as anyone who isn't trucel should have ample opportunity.

 

[Cope or die]

I think suburbs look really nice but... I think this problem of people not knowing their neighbours or local community extends everywhere.

Years back when most women didn't work, they were the ones who networked with neighbours and kept that alive.

 

[solblue]

The suburbs were built for families. They just seem lonely to Zoomers because most Zoomers don’t have the prospect of starting a family so they view the suburbs as living alone in a big house. It’s daunting to go to a house party, church, a high school game, community center, etc. by yourself.

In my opinion the suburbs enforce assimilation which makes it easier to meet people outside of your immediate clique. Cities have the opposite effect and let people stay in silos.

I often think people suffer from the Freinds effect. Friends is arguably the most influential show for the millennial and Zoomer generation. It has influenced people into believing of a romanticization of city life right at the time cities were becoming safer and starting gentrification. I think Friends was at least realistic in showing that most of the core group knew each other before moving to the city. Spontaneous friendships hardly happen in adulthood outside of work, and they’re increasingly hard to find at work because of social polarization.

I think suburbs look really nice but... I think this problem of people not knowing their neighbours or local community extends everywhere.

Years back when most women didn't work, they were the ones who networked with neighbours and kept that alive.

I think this is key. Guys 50 years ago weren’t juggling 5 different recreational activities to try and make friends like we do now. A guy would marry a girl he knew from his local community since he was young, he would then move into a home or apartment with her, and he would hang out with the husband of whomever the wife had befriended during the day or during her part time shift as a lunch lady. Feminism and multiculturalism has stripped us of this. Foids obviously are nowhere to be found in our lives, and people are hesitant to befriend someone who they think will clash with their own culture.

 

[willystroker]

The suburbs were built for families.

And to get away from niggers, but yes. The ironic thing is that since the majority of couples get divorced and their children almost always move away for college or work after high school, and there are few new families moving in, these suburban neighborhoods with big houses and yards end up inhabited mostly by empty nesters and divorcees. It's an incredibly profitable scheme compared to the multi-generational households of old.