Serious Do incels progress emotionally past teens?

[oldcellcopecell]

Incels and male virgins seem to have a sort of boyish quality to their personality.

I believe this is because romantic and sexual teenage love is an important thing to experience in the development of a full personality.

It's like how kids need to play to learn all the normal socialization stuff. Children who are deprived of that have a hard time growing up. There are important developmental milestones to become a real human bean, particularly to become a real masculine personality.

I also believe you can grow into a normal human bean if you missed it, but you'd be lucky, because you would need a loving relationship where you were allowed to fuck up, to experiment, with no expectations of an "adult lifestyle" aka betabuxx, which most adult women would not accept.

 

[Zesto]

become a real human bean

 

[Deleted member 12355]

Really? I consider the incel community quite mature, although it's certainly not devoid of its infantile elements

 

[Red Shambhala]

Very good observation. I feel like I'm emotionally still stuck in my teens.

Being an emotional teenager means, for instance, being very dramatic, very intense, almost borderline in the sense you can feel tremendous joy over, say, a video game arriving but also total depression over rejection. You care a lot what others think about you, are very aware of people looking at you, you're emotionally very raw and radical - and you are also radical politically. There's nothing very moderate about you.

The classical Western fable about adolescence is the story of Icarus: this Greek fable where a father and his son escape from an island by using self-made wings. But the father tells his son to neither fly too high nor too low: otherwise, the heat of the sun or the humidity of the water would make the wax melt that made the wings stick to their bodies. Of course, the teenager flew up and down and high and low and then fell and plunged into the water and drowned.

This is us incels no matter the age.

Or, getting very clingy - like the idea that one look from a foid means that she's a NAWALT and wants to marry you etc. Okay, this is not really the case with REALLY blackpilled users ... but this clinginess and this thinking "A casually friendly gesture is actually an indicator of interest into her wanting to marry me and move to Siberia with me to be my tradwife" is very typical for teenagers/incels.

 

[oldcellcopecell]

Really? I consider the incel community quite mature, although it's certainly not devoid of its infantile elements

It's intellectually mature, but not emotionally,see JB fixation.

 

[Ecstasy]

I believe this is because romantic and sexual teenage love is an important thing to experience in the development of a full personality.

Romantic experience is important but it's not like you become disabled because you miss it. COPE

 

[Deleted member 12355]

It's intellectually mature, but not emotionally,see JB fixation.

eh, I don't know if that's necessarily the case. I think it's just the fact that we lead shit lives and feel the need to express it in what mightn't be the considered the most mature of ways sometimes. Although, if normies were in our position, being as depressed as we are, I doubt they'd fare any better

 

[BottomFeedER96]

No honestly I don’t think you can. Lack of socializing fucked me up so hard growing up. And I grew up in a gender separated school so when I finally got to a normal public high school, I didn’t talk to anybody the whole time due to fear of bullying. I tried to make friends but even the anime loving fags in the library wouldn’t even befriend me. And don’t even get me started on the oneitis I had in 9th grade. I was so scared to talk to her I waited till summer to stalk her on Facebook and message her. I was so humiliated because I had no idea how to approach a girl and when I did all hell broke loose and I embarrassed myself horribly. I stalked her and got in so much trouble she feared for her life, yet she would still lead me on.
After that I never got over her until about 2 years ago when I finally just stopped talking to her. She blocked me so many times but I still managed to find her email and ask for forgiveness it was a terrible time in my life and honestly I missed out on so much because of her and that I can never get back. I wasted almost 6 fucking years on that whore. I hated myself and vowed to change and I did. It took a lot of work but I did.
I got fucked out of socializing and am still fucked to this day to an extent

 

[incel4life]

I think social isolation can inhibit development of social skills, and that can give the impression of emotional immaturity, but it does not stunt emotional maturity itself. I was socially isolated most of my life, but once I started working and got opportunities to socialize with others, my social skills started to rapidly develop. I became not just someone who is able to fit in, but someone who people respect and listen to, and is able to influence people, due to the knowledge I acquired in the years I was socially isolated. I almost feel like I could start my own cultural movement and my coworkers (all people in their 20s/30s with masters or PhDs in Engineering or Physics) would follow, because from time to time I drop blackpills and my coworkers love it. I think the key to becoming respected is to learn to express controversial opinions in a way that makes them sound totally reasonable. If you can convince people that society is insane and that you are the sane one, then people will follow you. I think the best places to find blackpills are from incel sites, religious texts (I recommend the Baha'i writings), and history. Philosophy can be good too, but you have to be careful because philosophy contains far more bullshit than religion.