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I've heard some people here, and in real life too (both men and women), say they want to "work on themselves" but they "don't care about what others think". Which is simply a straight contradiction.
What I've found is that deep down, these same people who act like independent individualists are usually the ones who most crave acceptance, who NEED acceptance.
To find whether this is true or not of an individual, we need to see the way they define self-improvement.
What goals does your "improvement" achieve? Who does that improvement benefit?
Looksmaxxing is an easy example, does it really DIRECTLY improve YOUR life to style your hair a certain way, wear certain makeup or clothes? No, this is energy and time consuming behaviour meant to please females (be valued or accepted by them), in the hopes of getting pussy and validation from them. In this case, CLEARLY your self-worth is dependent to their foreign opinion.
Women say they wear makeup "for themselves" "to feel better about themselves", but WHY does it make them feel better about themselves? Because their self-esteem is dependent on male perception of their beauty.
We can and should use this method of analysis on any other "self-improvement" behaviour, bodybuilding, university education, etc.
Bodybuilding is also a good example, your body automatically determines your need of muscle and builds according to that. But people create artificial stress on their body to achieve an unnecessary physique for aesthetic purposes for mating, and if you're a truecel and this doesn't help you then it's purely a waste of time, energy and resources.
When "improving yourself" ask this, do you really need it, enjoy it, or are you just doing it to be valued by others?
If your needs require acceptance from others, you are not independent.
There cannot be true self-improvement without independence.
What I've found is that deep down, these same people who act like independent individualists are usually the ones who most crave acceptance, who NEED acceptance.
To find whether this is true or not of an individual, we need to see the way they define self-improvement.
What goals does your "improvement" achieve? Who does that improvement benefit?
Looksmaxxing is an easy example, does it really DIRECTLY improve YOUR life to style your hair a certain way, wear certain makeup or clothes? No, this is energy and time consuming behaviour meant to please females (be valued or accepted by them), in the hopes of getting pussy and validation from them. In this case, CLEARLY your self-worth is dependent to their foreign opinion.
Women say they wear makeup "for themselves" "to feel better about themselves", but WHY does it make them feel better about themselves? Because their self-esteem is dependent on male perception of their beauty.
We can and should use this method of analysis on any other "self-improvement" behaviour, bodybuilding, university education, etc.
Bodybuilding is also a good example, your body automatically determines your need of muscle and builds according to that. But people create artificial stress on their body to achieve an unnecessary physique for aesthetic purposes for mating, and if you're a truecel and this doesn't help you then it's purely a waste of time, energy and resources.
When "improving yourself" ask this, do you really need it, enjoy it, or are you just doing it to be valued by others?
If your needs require acceptance from others, you are not independent.
There cannot be true self-improvement without independence.
