Little backstory. She was recently out of a longer marriage when we started seeing each other back in early 2015 WE had a rocky start, was pregnant early on and my first daughter was born in 2016, her 4th. Our second daughter was just born. She had been acting weird, not ever looking at her phone my natural instinct kicked in, i look in her messages and noticed a thread for lets say Monday but the most recent text was from July... HMMMMM OK, immediately i confront her and she denies it. Then she comes out and states he was talking to another male co worker about this and that nothing serious. I asked why the gap with the deleted messages, of course no good answer. So i grill and get nothing. She has no good reason as to why they're deleted. As any man would i do i go to the cell phone bill and notice there are a few hundred messages deleted since may until recently. Again, i confront her and get lies. Eventually i take her phone and text the number (petty i know) to catch myself up on whats going. That where i get screenshots of her giving him dating advice as a single mom. Telling him his handsome, how amazing he is and how anyone would be lucky to have him, it doesn't stop there. She then goes on to undermine me as her husband and as a man. Long story short she grills me on the past(again we had a rocky start) and basically indicates that i'm no good in blunt terms but a lot more descriptive. She said when she deleted the messages she didn't think she was hiding anything and she is standing by that she did nothing wrong.
Her old co-worker went on to admit that he had a crush on her but never acted, but since she opened up to him about him he understands, basically tried his shot.
Am i stupid? Is this how women approach this now-days? This is the second time something similar to this has happened.
