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Experiment Could you get a gf if you worked on your personality?

Does personality matter?

  • Yes

    Votes: 11 19.0%
  • Bo

    Votes: 47 81.0%

  • Total voters
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I notice a lot of time people meme about the cliche “just work on your personality bro” advice and how retarded it is. But then at the same time, I see a lot of shit on here that is eerily similar to this. Like people saying they can’t ascend because they are high inhib, or non nt, or have bad social skills or anxiety. So what is it?
 
"Personality" is just looks
 
“Just shower 5 times a day bro” is my personality booster so it’s a maybe for me
 
Even if I had good personality(which I already have), I would still be incel because I am too ugly, short and socially inept.
 
Even if I had good personality(which I already have), I would still be incel because I am too ugly, short and socially inept.
How could you be socially inept and have a good personality? :feelshehe:
 
How could you be socially inept and have a good personality? :feelshehe:
Can't socially inept people have good personality?? Is it necessary to have friends to have good personality??
I don't think so!
 
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no cause u either born with "good" personality or you'll never have it
 
No. Answering with "Yes" is literally being bluepilled JFL.
 
Personality is subjective, therefore it cannot be good or bad.
 
Can't socially inept people have good personality?? Is it necessary to have friends to have good personality??
I don't think so!
if a tree falls in the woods, and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?
 
Can't socially inept people have good personality?? Is it necessary to have friends to have good personality??
I don't think so!
That is an interesting cope. I guess you think you're a good person for not killing and raping people and count that as a good personality. To me that's just a 3/10 personality, like me. I'm socially inept but I'm not bluepilled about it, it's a major failo.

Regarding the OP, no. That's just a normie platitude.
 
I’ve always treated people with kindness and it doesn’t bring me any love or affection from them.
 
hell yes. im 5.5/10 in looks and 7/10 at body. im total mentalcel
 
I objectively have a good personality already
 
I’ve always treated people with kindness and it doesn’t bring me any love or affection from them.
did you think you would get laid for holding the door open for foids? JFL
 
It's important I'd say if you meet the looks threshold, and even then it's basically useless

Foids just misconstrue looks and personality as "vibe". If they won't vibe with you, it's either because you were too ugly or ( in a rarer case) good-looking enough but just annoying to them. Either way you fail their "vibe test" and they will cope with muh "I didn't vibe with him" :feelskek::feelskek::feelskek:
 
did you think you would get laid for holding the door open for foids? JFL
Well no but I’d at least expect them to not be repulsed by me, girls tell me I look scary :cryfeels:
 
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Looks = personality
 
I think it improved.

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#145035214Sunday, August 31, 2014 9:24 PM CDT
Calm down, there's no reason to start an argument over something such as this, it's only going to waste your time, restrain yourselves. Also, have you ever considered that perhaps they understand your personality well enough yet?, they haven't posted in this "Sub-Section" for long so they won't instantaneously understand the "Flow" of things here, especially when there's many different Sub-Section's to choose from, complaining about is only going to cause more arguments and unnecessary aggression when it's something that we've all had to go through before.

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#145699427Tuesday, September 09, 2014 2:16 AM CDT
Don't insult yourself. The point they're making is, it's unnecessary for you to center yourself around another human's view of what your personality should be constantly, these are random users of whom you've never seen outside of a computer screen anyway.
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#146110506Monday, September 15, 2014 1:26 AM CDT
I personally disagreed significantly with certain aspects of the user's pattern of behavior under certain circumstances and specific personality traits. Regardless however, since the user has decided to stop posting here, It's unnecessary to keep discussing information about them consistently.

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#146390337Friday, September 19, 2014 7:16 PM CDT
Both genders are humans either way. Perhaps the problem is that you need to change your perspective on the situation? Each person has their own individual personality and simply because one female doesn't necessarily enjoy your presence doesn't mean someone else won't; I would suggest that perhaps you examine your own behavior and personality rather then categorizing everyone of a specific gender group together simply because different people react differently. Additionally, you'll benefit much more from "Academic" knowledge rather then unnecessarily obsessing over the opposite gender.

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#147428831Sunday, October 05, 2014 11:20 PM CDT
Not necessarily. Each community has a variety of users with different personalities, each user contributes to the over-all effects of the community because each user contributes segments of their own personality while they're communicating with other users, thus each user themselves will have a certain degree of influence on other members of the community. A community certainly does change as the duration of time expands yet it never changes completely, the members themselves simply change to a certain extent which affects the entire community, even if members have never communicated with the user.

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#148434422Wednesday, October 22, 2014 6:40 PM CDT
The "complication" itself is caused by chemical variation per gender, each chemical has a different effect on over-all cognition in both gender's and thus contributes significantly to the behavior and personality of each individual of those genders.
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#148451487Thursday, October 23, 2014 12:15 AM CDT
Well, the people who aren't willing to accept those particular aspects of your cognitive thoughts have very limited knowledge whatsoever regarding your actual personality or the numerous problems you have. Although it will certainly be difficult, I would suggest that you simply ignore the negativity from those humans as each human certainly has "negative" aspects and none of them will be able to truly understand the complete extent of your problems.

Re: "Guys/Girls are toooo complicated!"
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#149299043Thursday, November 06, 2014 6:29 PM CST
"The biological mechanisms involved in the functionality between both genders can range significantly in complexity." Extending this statement further, each human has a varying genetic structure thus the personality and behavior of each individual differs to a significant degree. Over-all, humans are incapable of being perfectly and completely empathetic towards each-other, thus it's the understanding that we vary in psychological and genetic differences that significantly help us understanding another person.
Re: "I'm a dull forumer"
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#149364573Friday, November 07, 2014 9:35 PM CST
There's nothing wrong with be "dull" in the perception of other humans. It can have plenty of positive aspects and none of the users stating that you're "dull" actually know about your complete personality.

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#150514510Thursday, November 27, 2014 12:26 AM CST
Why not just appreciate the communication between each user without publicly stating your opinion regarding their personality to the degree of borderline-favoritism?

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#151891944Wednesday, December 17, 2014 6:57 PM CST
"@injury: you must be pretty stupid to feel sorry for the loss of a grandma there's like millions everywhere losing one isn't going to do much" Each human has unique characteristics that differ from another individual. This individual's grandmother likely influenced their personality and perception of the world significantly and brought them happiness, the psychological damage from the death of an individual of whom a person has an extensive cognitive connection can be devastating. Having sorrow for the loss of a beloved individual is not idiotic, It's a combination of subjective and intrinsic values. You don't have to personally exhibit sympathy towards the plight of this individual, you can simply just cease to respond as it's only wasting your own time trying to criticize their opinion aggressively.

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#151911223Thursday, December 18, 2014 12:53 AM CST
Alright, you'll have to communicate with the individual directly about your opinion regarding the "Relationship" between the both of you. You cannot force someone to develop a genuine romantic attraction towards you, they have to analyze the various qualities of your personality and come to a conclusion themselves regarding how favorable they may perceive you to be. If the individual isn't willing to adapt their perception of the situation based on positive subjective qualities, It's simply time to cease your attempts at persuasion.
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#151912793Thursday, December 18, 2014 2:29 AM CST
"how do i make her analyze the very few qualities of my personality if she doesnt want to even talk :(..." I'd personally consider you previous interaction as being "Opportunistic", in which the other individual seizes the "Opportunity" to garner support for their problems while retaining temporary favor with the opposite side. You'd do much better if you assess the situation yourself and determine if it's truly worth the effort.



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#153258496Sunday, January 04, 2015 1:10 PM CST
"Bullying" is entirely capable of affecting an individual for many years afterwards as the individual themselves will recall the events eventually. The degree of psychological damage depends on the kind of bullying and how the individual perceives the situation; Recurrent bullying will eventually alter the psychological state of the targeted individual, regardless of the extremity due to the simple fact that the person is consistently enduring psychologically harmful reminders of how the individual(s) bullying them perceive the person, the degree of psychological effect increases once you consider the individual's actual perception of the bully and the social circumstances toppled with the duration of time the individual is bullied. Many individuals who suffer a sufficient quantity of bullying during childhood often develop psychologically instability as the "Painful" memories eventually begin to dominate their perception of other humans with effects ranging from vendettas against socially-adapt and "Accepted" humans in general and development of narcissistic personality traits(Nearly always the eventual result of an inferiority-complex), to a significant degree of self-perceived inferiority that can result in the inability to psychologically connect with adjacent individuals due to fear of disapproval stemming from irrational thoughts and trigger the development of usually lifelong disorders such as "Depression".
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#153594255Friday, January 09, 2015 4:42 PM CST
Ah, the issue itself is not necessarily gender-specific. The actual problem arises from the fact that each individual's perception and personality varies significantly from another human's perception. Gender does, however, affect certain stereotypical views that dominate social interaction to the degree of altering Quality-Of-Life. Nevertheless, It's unreasonable to the maximum extent for any member of either gender to generalize every person in the specified category as having the exact same traits/behavioral patterns.
 
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#158458104Sunday, March 22, 2015 6:11 PM CDT
You aren't inferior to your friend whatsoever. Each individual varies in personality characteristics from another person, I'm certain that you have plenty of positive and beneficial characteristics without having to conform to the social standards of another adolescent. It's much better to divide yourself from the psychological entrapment of a clique than it is to allow yourself to become attached to something that could eventually damage your social perception of other humans when negativity occurs. Furthermore, you may want to discuss your recent thoughts with your acquaintance.
 
I notice a lot of time people meme about the cliche “just work on your personality bro” advice and how retarded it is. But then at the same time, I see a lot of shit on here that is eerily similar to this. Like people saying they can’t ascend because they are high inhib, or non nt, or have bad social skills or anxiety. So what is it?
A 7'8 tall faggot would get a whore even if he's personality was shit. I FUCKING HATE GENETICS:reeeeee::reeeeee::reeeeee::feelsree::feelsree::feelsree:
 
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#148362135Tuesday, October 21, 2014 2:25 PM CDT
Many people often perceive their over-all physical appearance as inferior or horrible in comparison to the physical appearance of other humans. As a result, they often engage in unnecessary and often dangerous behavior in an attempt to correct or otherwise improve their appearance simply to fit the aesthetic standards of other humans.

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#145888041Friday, September 12, 2014 5:02 AM CDT
"so,basically,just like those swag things,those are caused by uneducated kids trying to act cool?" No, it's caused by negativity due to numerous preceding events , either way, many of them are actually quite insecure and view themselves as inferior to other people simply due to the negativity they had to deal with. It's not necessarily a matter of how much education they're receiving, it's a matter of how the education they're receiving affects them.

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#149322022Friday, November 07, 2014 5:00 AM CST
Absolutely not. Although conditions such as depression often have the effect of significantly distorting the sufferers perception of reality to a degree of extremity, committing suicide is entirely unnecessary. The problems that you might be having certainly won't dissipate instantaneously, It requires a system of management and commitment towards trying to change your perspective of the situation that significantly determines the over-all outcome. Every human has their own capabilities, It doesn't make you an inferior being simply because your capabilities differs from another individuals nor does it mean that you're "worthless", variation has both positive and negative consequences, It all depends on how you're utilizing it. Over-all, none of us can accurately determine whether you'll ever fully recover from your cognitive condition, I would suggest communicating with a person that has a positive influence on you and seeking psychiatric/psychological assistance from a qualified and empathetic professional outside of the internet.

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#154412912Wednesday, January 21, 2015 10:03 PM CST
"WHY DO YOU LET YOURSELF BE AN EASY TARGET FOR PEOPLE" Although the following statements may appear as patronizing or otherwise negative, I'm not trying to insult you, I'm merely trying to help you rationalize the situation. In society, 'acceptance' is a necessary aspect beginning from the very critical durations of cognitive development, failure to feel accepted by other individuals has some degree of influence on your psychological state, though this varies on an individual basis. These other individuals, who are targeting you, are likely targeting you simply because you aren't accepted in their clique and thus harassing you is a mechanism for the individuals involved to gain support from other members of their Social-Circle without being ridiculed as many people tend to avoid sources they're uncertain and thus uncomfortable with. I'm assuming, then, that you're feeling insecure due to the consistent insults you've received and perceive yourself as inferior, which would be completely incorrect. Though this may certainly be difficult to comprehend at the current duration of time, each individual has characteristics that vary from another person, the people bullying you are likely attempting to make their "Friends" perceive them as 'good' as a method of increasing self-confidence that they may be lacking. I'd highly suggest that you communicate with someone you trust about the situation and attempt to adapt how you perceive the issues involving yourself, although you may be receiving insults, you certainly aren't inferior and shouldn't consistently be aggressively criticized.
 
I started looksmaxxing. Looks are everything. If I can't ascend on 90% looksmaxxing, 10% trying to meet people, then I've tried everything worth my while.

Personality is a meme. Take any of the depressed, misogynist Incels on this forum and put him in a supportive friend group and give him a loving gf, and you'll see his personality be fixed overnight.
 
Personality doesn't matter at all, that's the basic blackpill
 
No.Girls were very receptive and interested until they saw me irl :feelsrope:
There are a lot of abusers that have relationships,wonder why?Maybe they have a great personality
 
Personalitymaxxing has a name... It's called the Redpill. There's a reason why it only works for high tier Normie's, Incels (Sub-5's) can't afford to take the Redpill. :feelswhat::blackpill:
 
it will help if ur not a trucel. if ur a trucel it never began

Personality only matters for Normie's (5~7), if you're a Sub-5 you have the Failo Effect and literally everything you do gets seen in a negative light, no amount of good personality will help you. "Oh, that ugly man saved a kitten and gave money to a homeless person, he must be doing that because he wants attention", but literally anything a Chad (or toilet) does is automatically awesome "Oh, Chad just kicked a random homeless man after running over a kitten in his car, well that kick gives the homeless man the motivation to work harder to gain respect and that kitten shouldn't have walked in the middle of the street".

If you're outside of the 5~7 range looks-wise then your personality is 100% irrelevant.
 
the answer is people can’t even define what personality or social skills even mean. lots of copers ITT. this forum is full of bluepillers
 
Yes, I can improve my personality by hard looksmaxxing
 
if by "personality" you mean my jawline and height then yes
 
there are probably edge cases where personality may matter a bit, like if you're a slightly above average normie you will be able to slay with an abusive psycho personality (that's "good personality" to foids), but not if you're Chris-chan or something
but "personality" is usually more or less just looks, maybe foids like some dark triad edge on their men, but it's looks that ultimately decide
 
Imo it doesn't matter.
 
Personality matters but not to the extent normies make it out to be, it's something that can enhance high tier normies, chalites and chads for Stacy, for the rest of us, we are fucked no matter what.
 
Like people saying they can’t ascend because they are high inhib, or non nt, or have bad social skills or anxiety. So what is it?

I'm not even considered betabux material by foids because I'm autistic, ADD, depressed, avoidant, and have PTSD (daily flashbacks, and frequent dissociation). All my social skills were (professionally) measured to be in the bottom 10% of mankind, some skills like assertiveness are in the bottom 2%. Foids are extremely disgusted by me, my manneirisms, my weird walk, my wandering gaze, my lack of eye contact, the way I talk, my robotic voice, my choice of words, my long irregular pauses between words etc. They don't even reply "good morning" when I speak.

There is no such thing as "work in your personality". A personality is by definition is a set of stable behavioral characteristics. Personalities don't change much through a person's life -- and even so, only very slightly, slowly, and with aging. Personality is also genetically determined.

That said,

I see ugly and short men of all races with girlfriends, wives, children every single time I leave the house. They all seem to be NT, however.
 
I see ugly and short men of all races with girlfriends, wives, children every single time I leave the house. They all seem to be NT, however.
same man, but people call me a bluepilled cherry-picker when I point it out. :feelsohgod:
 
Yes if by personality I would become a mindless cuck who works 24/7 and guard her children while she fucks around.
 
NT is different from personality. Normalfags conflate being a decent person with navigating bs social cues
 
« Personality » only matter in a long term relationship (Well I don't know at times chad beats her and she stays with him anyway surely for the ugly people finally) :feelsrope:
 
No. I'd say I'm a nice guy but you all know what that means. I could try being a dick but then everyone will say I'm too mean. Can't win at 5'7.
 

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