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I just wanna be loved, but don’t think I’m worthy
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I often wonder this. I sometimes get the feeling that true friendships between men and women are very rare since many cases at least one party finds them attractive or falls in love (particularly more men towards women). If you fall in love with her but she never feels the same, it becomes a one sided affair that sadly many women will take advantage of and use you, usually as someone to only use to do favors for and use to vent towards without offering the same to him. Not saying this the case for all women or even people, but let’s be honest: most people aren’t saints and will frequently use people for their own benefit.
Now, I’m not saying that most men will only befriend women in hopes of getting to fuck them. I actually think what mostly happens is that guys will befriend a woman like he would a guy, or be part of a group of friends that might include some ladies and won’t really think much more than simply making friends, and won’t really think of his female friend(s) as anything more than, well, friends. Sure, he might find her attractive and would have sex with her if she offered, but it’s not like he’s just dying to bang her and only befriended her because of that. But I think it’s common for guys to start to develop feelings for female friends eventually since they get to know these girls and develop relationships with them. Sometimes they share and even bond over common interests. And when you combine that with him finding her cute, chances are he’ll develop a crush her and want to go out with her. Guys who are inexperienced with women are probably much more have this happen to them unlike a guy who’s already in a relationship and/or is already good with girls and therefore doesn’t easily catch feelings. But of course if she doesn’t feel the same way towards you, then you could end up getting used, or end up ruining a good friendship if she rejects you.
But what if you for whatever reason never at any point feel attracted to her, or at the very least catch feelings? Could a mixed gender friendship work in this case?
Now, I’m not saying that most men will only befriend women in hopes of getting to fuck them. I actually think what mostly happens is that guys will befriend a woman like he would a guy, or be part of a group of friends that might include some ladies and won’t really think much more than simply making friends, and won’t really think of his female friend(s) as anything more than, well, friends. Sure, he might find her attractive and would have sex with her if she offered, but it’s not like he’s just dying to bang her and only befriended her because of that. But I think it’s common for guys to start to develop feelings for female friends eventually since they get to know these girls and develop relationships with them. Sometimes they share and even bond over common interests. And when you combine that with him finding her cute, chances are he’ll develop a crush her and want to go out with her. Guys who are inexperienced with women are probably much more have this happen to them unlike a guy who’s already in a relationship and/or is already good with girls and therefore doesn’t easily catch feelings. But of course if she doesn’t feel the same way towards you, then you could end up getting used, or end up ruining a good friendship if she rejects you.
But what if you for whatever reason never at any point feel attracted to her, or at the very least catch feelings? Could a mixed gender friendship work in this case?