Everybody wants the best. Let's not pretend otherwise. You have a waifu that you want, and she's attractive. You'd like to eat steak every day. You'd like to drive a million dollar car.
This is normal.
The real difference between men and women is that women don't get horny the way men do. As a result, on any given day there are only a few women looking for sex, but nearly all men are. If you had a bomb shelter (because nuclear armageddon had occurred) with 100 women in it and say, 10 men, there's never going to be a time when a woman wants sex and can't find a willing man. Ten men can "cover" the needs of 100 women.
What that means is, adding another 90 men to your bomb shelter is just adding 90 incels. The women want sex infrequently - but when the do want it, there is always a top 10% man ready and waiting.
The way this used to work with our species is that sex wasn't the thing of value that men give to women. The value was in resources and protection. Everyone (men and women) have always wanted the best, but women also wanted to not die. And so, they'd pair up with lower-tier men in exchange for, not sex, but resources.
If you take resources out of the mix by letting women have jobs and giving them government welfare programs, then women stop pairing up for those things. Then all you have on the table is sex. And if that's all you have, then 100 women will get sex from just 10 men and ignore everyone else.