Can someone help me figure out why i was socially isolated and rejected in college and work but fine in school?

[Genetic Error]

Can someone help me figure out why i was socially isolated and rejected in college and work but fine in school?

im 5'4. i had a bunch of NT friends in school and i was NT but obviously still not respected but still had fun

but then when went to college at 17, and we were around new people, they just started to isolate me and stop hanging with me, and i lost all my friends

then went into a few new workpalces and they just made me seem giga non NT, everyone was rejecting my convo, n o one want to speak to me, even before i would say anything.

why do ppl not wanna interact with me on a friendly basis at all just cos of my height?]

and i ended up socially isoalted and girls making up straight up lies about me unprovoked and ended up leaving both jobs

what happened man? i was NT and got on with everyone in school. was they just expecting i would grow? and then i didnt and when i hit 18-21 everyone knows im not gonna grow so they just dont want anything to do with a genetic vermin?

does height really matter that much just for friendships?

 

[Reclusemaxxer]

Because life goes downhill after high school

 

[Genetic Error]

Because life goes downhill after high school

but everyone else fits in in workplaces BUT me

 

[Reclusemaxxer]

but everyone else fits in in workplaces BUT me

Then you’re atypical

 

[Genetic Error]

Then you’re atypical

is it cos im atypical or 5'4?

 

[PresidentCel]

Short height will fuck you over even just trying to have friendships with other guys. You're seen as some low status loser they don't want to associate with.

 

[Reclusemaxxer]

is it cos im atypical or 5'4?

Both

 

[Genetic Error]

Short height will fuck you over even just trying to have friendships with other guys. You're seen as some low status loser they don't want to associate with.

i agree but why are they like that? what is the thought process behind it?

 

[Sexless incel]

Kids hang out with everyone. The older we get, the more judgmental we get towards others.

The same people who wanted to hang out with you during childhood would be ashamed to be seen with you in public, because you are what your name says

 

[Postmaxxercel50k]

 

[Zer0/∞]

Trucels never had friends. @Incelius Savage

 

[Genetic Error]

Kids hang out with everyone. The older we get, the more judgmental we get towards others.

The same people who wanted to hang out with you during childhood would be ashamed to be seen with you in public, because you are what your name says

whats the thought process behind not wanting to be friends with me or even talk to me just cos im short??

 

[Genetic Error]

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but i was NT and did well in school

but maybe it is. im not sure whether its autism or the fact im 5'4.

 

[Sexless incel]

whats the thought process behind not wanting to be friends with me or even talk to me just cos im short??

People only want to have people around them who they perceive as „winners“. If you are physically unattractive, they think they are too good for you

 

[Genetic Error]

People only want to have people around them who they perceive as „winners“. If you are physically unattractive, they think they are too good for you

urgh fair enough

 

[war_with_myself]

n o one want to speak to me

that would be a good thing in my book

 

[war_with_myself]

but everyone else fits in in workplaces BUT me

this is me, but idc tbh. fuck my coworkers

 

[Genetic Error]

that would be a good thing in my book

hurts my soul tho

 

[war_with_myself]

have you tried making friends outside of work? like the gym?

 

[Incelius Savage]

Trucels never had freedom.

 

[Academiciancel]

That's life.

The older you get, the more awareness you develop for the things you did not think about when you were at school. You see the reality of life more clearly as you start to struggle with real problems you didn't have to struggle when you were at school. Mental problems tend to appear in a more evident way. So, it becomes more difficult to interact with people and you start thinking that the problem lies with you.

Another reason is when you're at school, there's a continuous and natural interaction with your peers which is kind of forced by the general environment of the school. There are no such interactions when you're at college and you can just go to class, sit down without saying anything and it's still okay as long as you pass your exams. There are no teachers informing your parents about that so basically nobody cares even if you say no single word for four long years. By the time you graduate it's already too late to change it.

That's life.

 

[Genetic Error]

have you tried making friends outside of work? like the gym?

yea i can have a friendly chat with ppl in the gym but never goes further than that

 

[Genetic Error]

That's life.

The older you get, the more awareness you develop for the things you did not think about when you were at school. You see the reality of life more clearly as you start to struggle with real problems you didn't have to struggle when you were at school. Mental problems tend to appear in a more evident way. So, it becomes more difficult to interact with people and you start thinking that the problem lies with you.

Another reason is when you're at school, there's a continuous and natural interaction with your peers which is kind of forced by the general environment of the school. There are no such interactions when you're at college and you can just go to class, sit down without saying anything and it's still okay as long as you pass your exams. There are no teachers informing your parents about that so basically nobody cares even if you say no single word for four long years. By the time you graduate it's already too late to change it.

That's life.

hmmm thanks for this reply.

so u think i lost my NTness after school cos not socializing much? or do u think im just getting rejected cos 5'4?

 

[Academiciancel]

hmmm thanks for this reply.

so u think i lost my NTness after school cos not socializing much? or do u think im just getting rejected cos 5'4?

I can't determine that for you. I'm only sharing with you my own experience and personal observations in life. I do not think it's about your height, though. I would say it's because of not socializing but I'm not saying that's your fault. The conditions for socializing changes dramatically after school and suddenly you require a certain set of skills to be able to socialize. Maybe your height affected your self-confidence and it contributed to your lack of skills when it comes to socializing, as well. I don't think it can be attributed to one single reason.

 

[honorarycurry]

Same it’s because you’re a genetic error in their eyes and you should kys. They do me the same because of being curry and relatively mantlet ( 5’9” )

 

[Genetic Error]

Same it’s because you’re a genetic error in their eyes and you should kys. They do me the same because of being curry and relatively mantlet ( 5’9” )

u rlly think i should kill myself? or thats what normies think?

 

[honorarycurry]

u rlly think i should kill myself? or thats what normies think?

In their eyes, of course. You shouldn’t please them by doing that

 

[AsiaCel]

Autism?

 

[Genetic Error]

Autism?

u think it could be autism or the fact im 5'4?

 

[Hope and Change]

girls making up straight up lies about me unprovoked and ended up leaving both jobs

dude what??

 

[depressedblackcel]

Read 5’4 and didn’t read any further. That’s a major reason to ur misery

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Because life goes downhill after your birth

 

[Genetic Error]

Read 5’4 and didn’t read any further. That’s a major reason to ur misery

do u think people socially isolate me because i could possibly be autistic or cos im 5;4? does height effect friendship a lot?

 

[Mworld]

My life went downhill after high school too. I eventually lost all hope it might get better.

 

[HeimatVertrieben]

I have never had any friends. Mogs me

 

[persianoldcel]

I think it's not just your height but other factors had an impact to this development (in your case of experience). As people age up they become more conservative and they weigh your value (social status, money and looks) against what they're about to share. I can guess your height and face (looks) had a serious impact on it but you also lacked good enough social status or money to compensate that loss. Adult people don't befriend others out of pity, they persuade advantages. That why it's way harder to make friendships as adults. However there maybe other reasons behind it.

 

[Glerforpus]

In school you’re more likely to make friends since you have to be around them and proximity helps build connections. Once you lose that it becomes exponentially harder since you actually have to convince someone to be around you

 

[Genetic Error]

I think it's not just your height but other factors had an impact to this development (in your case of experience). As people age up they become more conservative and they weigh your value (social status, money and looks) against what they're about to share. I can guess your height and face (looks) had a serious impact on it but you also lacked good enough social status or money to compensate that loss. Adult people don't befriend others out of pity, they persuade advantages. That why it's way harder to make friendships as adults. However there maybe other reasons behind it.

thanks for this reply