Advantages of buying sex from a woman you meet out:
"Hey baby, what's the going price?" - AC/DC
1. Price
Regular women usually have little to no knowledge of the sex market, are unpractised in selling sex explicitly and lack alternative offers, so you could well negotiate a lower price, especially for an all-nighter
2. Social
The "lads" would enjoy the story and admire the sheer shamelessness and thrill-seeking nature of it
3. Excitement
It's novel, transgressive and uncertain for her, especially if it's her first time being prostituted, it may feel flattering and powerful to get paid a relatively large amount for a single encounter (especially via negotiation, but paradoxically she may also feel dependent, like you're her boss for the night) and the man expressing his desire like this would likely feel bold, as well as implying some level of wealth and success on his part, so this may generate excitement from her, increasing the charge of the encounter
4. Authenticity
She may behave more as she would with a man she's having sex with for "free" than a prostitute would as she wouldn't be following a script, increasing spontaneity and authenticity
5. Performance motivation
She may perform with little inhibition because you've "bought her shame"; she has "permission" to "be a slut", thoughts of a relationship don't come into it, she may be thinking "If I do well, he'll want more even at a high price" and she may be worried, consciously or subconsciously, that if she doesn't fully satisfy you, you won't pay her in full for the night or pay her at all (or even expose her as a hooker if she wrongs you)
6. Validation
She's likely more discriminating about who she has sex with than a prostitute is and selling sex explicitly is/was not part of her identity, which makes it feel more authentic and validating even though it's transactional
7. Flexibility
She's less likely to have hard rules about transactional sexual engagement because she isn't in the sex industry; perhaps she's more willing to accept bareback etc., especially if one has a recent clean STD test
8. Pregnancy and "boyfriend" risks
She may have a "boyfriend" and the pregnancy risk is likely greater than it is with a prostitute, increasing unpredictability and intensity
9. Symbolic thrill
Other things being equal, it's more exciting to "make" a woman a prostitute (to "degrade" her and expose a forbidden truth; that she was always a whore) than it is to have sex with one who already explicitly is (she's also symbolically cleaner/purer than the prostitute in terms of promiscuity and disease, whether she is or not, reducing anxiety and increasing excitement)
10. One-off nature
Compared to a professional prostitute, the woman you met out feels far more like a one-off; the latter strategy is harder to pull off, it starts in real life (no online business interaction, more authentic), it's spontaneous, the situation is more complicated and a good prostitute could be seen as a reliable medium or long-term partner in that specific role, whereas with the regular woman you plan to leave before she wakes up the following morning (which minimises risk and is the most powerful move)
11. Her emotional conflict
It may well be emotionally conflicting for her (feelings of nerves, guilt, confusion, vulnerability, resentment, regret), potentially increasing arousal, certainly increasing unpredictability and it's symbolically closer to coercive sex, which is transgressive and charged with power dynamics
12. The thrill of the offer
There is a thrill to making a woman an offer knowing that you could be vilified, rejected and offend but doing it anyway; it's uninhibited, transgressive and "disrespectful"/"anti-feminist"/anti-puritan, whether it works or not
Disadvantages:
1. Reliability
It's not as quick or reliable as finding an escort online: searching and rejections cost time and energy
2. Emotional volatility
She's more likely to be emotionally volatile and dangerous than a professional sex worker
3. Social blowback
Most people would view it as taboo, opportunistic and scummy, so there's the potential for blowback from the public
"Hey baby, what's the going price?" - AC/DC
1. Price
Regular women usually have little to no knowledge of the sex market, are unpractised in selling sex explicitly and lack alternative offers, so you could well negotiate a lower price, especially for an all-nighter
2. Social
The "lads" would enjoy the story and admire the sheer shamelessness and thrill-seeking nature of it
3. Excitement
It's novel, transgressive and uncertain for her, especially if it's her first time being prostituted, it may feel flattering and powerful to get paid a relatively large amount for a single encounter (especially via negotiation, but paradoxically she may also feel dependent, like you're her boss for the night) and the man expressing his desire like this would likely feel bold, as well as implying some level of wealth and success on his part, so this may generate excitement from her, increasing the charge of the encounter
4. Authenticity
She may behave more as she would with a man she's having sex with for "free" than a prostitute would as she wouldn't be following a script, increasing spontaneity and authenticity
5. Performance motivation
She may perform with little inhibition because you've "bought her shame"; she has "permission" to "be a slut", thoughts of a relationship don't come into it, she may be thinking "If I do well, he'll want more even at a high price" and she may be worried, consciously or subconsciously, that if she doesn't fully satisfy you, you won't pay her in full for the night or pay her at all (or even expose her as a hooker if she wrongs you)
6. Validation
She's likely more discriminating about who she has sex with than a prostitute is and selling sex explicitly is/was not part of her identity, which makes it feel more authentic and validating even though it's transactional
7. Flexibility
She's less likely to have hard rules about transactional sexual engagement because she isn't in the sex industry; perhaps she's more willing to accept bareback etc., especially if one has a recent clean STD test
8. Pregnancy and "boyfriend" risks
She may have a "boyfriend" and the pregnancy risk is likely greater than it is with a prostitute, increasing unpredictability and intensity
9. Symbolic thrill
Other things being equal, it's more exciting to "make" a woman a prostitute (to "degrade" her and expose a forbidden truth; that she was always a whore) than it is to have sex with one who already explicitly is (she's also symbolically cleaner/purer than the prostitute in terms of promiscuity and disease, whether she is or not, reducing anxiety and increasing excitement)
10. One-off nature
Compared to a professional prostitute, the woman you met out feels far more like a one-off; the latter strategy is harder to pull off, it starts in real life (no online business interaction, more authentic), it's spontaneous, the situation is more complicated and a good prostitute could be seen as a reliable medium or long-term partner in that specific role, whereas with the regular woman you plan to leave before she wakes up the following morning (which minimises risk and is the most powerful move)
11. Her emotional conflict
It may well be emotionally conflicting for her (feelings of nerves, guilt, confusion, vulnerability, resentment, regret), potentially increasing arousal, certainly increasing unpredictability and it's symbolically closer to coercive sex, which is transgressive and charged with power dynamics
12. The thrill of the offer
There is a thrill to making a woman an offer knowing that you could be vilified, rejected and offend but doing it anyway; it's uninhibited, transgressive and "disrespectful"/"anti-feminist"/anti-puritan, whether it works or not
Disadvantages:
1. Reliability
It's not as quick or reliable as finding an escort online: searching and rejections cost time and energy
2. Emotional volatility
She's more likely to be emotionally volatile and dangerous than a professional sex worker
3. Social blowback
Most people would view it as taboo, opportunistic and scummy, so there's the potential for blowback from the public
