boyfirend/girlfriend thread on Social Anxiety Support - EVERY GIRL HAS A BF

[Total Imbecile]

This is why its impossible for women to be incels. According to reddit if a girl is shy and average or below average looking she will be incel. But the thread found here: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/how-did-anybody-get-a-girlfriend-boyfriend-117542/ speaks differently:


Just looking through the first few pages:

Don't laugh but... I met my current bf a few years ago on WoW. We live together now, so it worked out for the both of us.

All my previous bf's and my current boyfriend are extremely outgoing so despite my SA, they broke through my walls.

My friend actually set me and my current bf up on a blind date, and it worked out really well . His extroverted personality balances out my introverted one and vice versa.

I met my "boyfriend", (The quotes are there for good reason, trust me.) in 9th grade when my social anxiety/selective mutism was at its worst. I didn't talk to him at all for months. But for some reason he was persistent and insisted on sitting next to me and doing all the talking. I ask him now why he was so intent on getting to know me and he said he never realized just how anxious I was, he thought it was a type of "mystique".

I met my boyfriend at a concert.
None of us dared to ask for anyones phone number,but I knew his name so I googled him.With a lot of support from a friend a managed to send him a text.I didn't think he'd answer,but the next thing I knew he was coming over at my place
We both have social anxiety so the first couple of months was anxious and stressful as hell.I think I'm one of the few that don't enjoy the whole "in love" period as much just because of this and all the uncertainty that's involved.

I met my guy online.

This is pretty much what happened to me, back when I was in college. My now boyfriend stole my seat one day so that there was nowhere else to sit but in the chair next to him, and after a few classes he started passing little notes to me so as to pass the time. We would just draw silly pictures or play noughts and crosses and he'd ask me things like what my favourite film was. Back then I was a lot more comfortable with talking online, so after we had swapped msn addresses we spent almost the entire night just chatting and getting to know each other. I still can't quite get my head around how I managed to string enough words together around him, but I suppose things like having a similar taste in music helped, in that it gave us something to talk about. My anxiety was sky high during this time, but even after I ended up cancelling a few times when we were supposed to meet up (due to panic attacks) he still persisted and, eventually, the anxiety lessened around him to the point where we're now living together and completely comfortable around each other.

I met my other half online. We share similar interests and met through a forum and then started speaking through msn. I explained everything to him before we met. I was sexually abused a few years before and explained this to him online. Before then I never went to any clubs or made an effort to meet people, I just wanted to be left alone.

On a side note though don't go looking for love. My sister has done this with dating sites etc and it never works out. Love takes its own course, it will find you, not the other way round.

And my favorite:

Mine is a pretty interesting story. I met a man online and we became pretty close. He fell madly in love with me, but I didn't feel the same way, even though I cared for him deeply. At the time, I had been staying with my father temporarily because of some financial problems, and my father absolutely hated him for some reason. One day, my father suddenly told me to leave because he believed that I was hiding things from him (I firmly believe that my father is an undiagnosed paranoid schizophrenic.), and so, without an apartment lined up, he asked a friend of his -- man #2-- if I could stay with him for a little while until my friend and I could get a place together. (He was, and still is, living with his parents.) It seemed like a good enough plan, and I didn't feel very weird moving in with man #2 because I knew he was bisexual and only dated men. But over the next few weeks, I started developing feelings for man #2, never believing for a moment that he would even notice me that way. One weekend, we went to DC for a meetup with some other people who we knew from another online group (it was one of the scariest moments I've had in a while... imagine, being SA meeting a group of about 50 other people who you think are awesome to the point of adoration), and during one of the parties, man #2 got incredibly drunk and kissed me. I honestly thought it was just the booze, and it made me feel bad because I knew that he probably wouldn't even remember in the morning. However, to my shock, he ended up confessing that he had secretly fallen in love with me, and felt absolutely terrible because he felt that he was betraying his friend. Telling man #1 that I loved his friend was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, but I consider it one of the best things that has ever happened to me in my dismally painful, socially anxious, crybaby life.

Funny how life can turn out sometimes. Trust me, if you're lamenting over your loneliness, don't. If it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone. Just don't give up

And this is just the first one or two pages,

MEANWHILE FROM GUYS

Girlfriend? what girlfriend?

im a lonely guy.........

Later, as in 6 or 7 pages into the thread full of women posting about their bfs, two or three guys mention having gfs but admit to being good looking.


Finally someone drops the blackpill:

I know it's a sore subject on this forum, but god damn do a lot more of these posts start "I met my boyfriend" than "I met my girlfriend". Being a dude with SA does make one the leper of the dating community.
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This argument is flawed. Your problem isn't with your anxiety, it is with your looks. Anyone who is unattractive, or perceives themselves that way, is going to have problems in the dating world. An attractive dude with SA is so much lower in the ecosystem than an attractive girl with SA. Being an ugly dude with SA is pretty much the bottom of the dating pool, it barely beats out child molester.

And the guy got lynched by women for spouting such bs, OBVIOUSLY women have it so much harder than guys, isnt it evident from all these responses?

This was back in 2011 by the way, today its much worse

JUST FUCKING LOL AT BEING A MALE IN 2018

 

[ArtoriasWolf]

Makes me wonder how many females and males are on this earth

 

[spergcel]

The exact reason I'm here and not on any social anxiety website. Social anxiety is a male problem. Women can live a perfectly normal life with social anxiety.
Lol she's at a concert with social anxiety. That's what happen when you don't even read the definition of your "problem".

 

[fagotonabike]

Social anxiety is a male problem

Exactly.

Even if a woman has """""""""""""""""""""social anxiety""""""""""""""""" (they cant) it literally has no effect on their life, while a male with social anxiety is a death sentence.

 

[KyloRen]

"B-b-but I'm an ugly girl!!!! I only get hit on by ugly men!!! I haven't had a boyfriend for the past few months!! Chad only wants to have sex with me and doesn't want a LTR!"

 

[Deleted member 2119]

Exactly.

Even if a woman has """""""""""""""""""""social anxiety""""""""""""""""" (they cant)  it literally has no effect on their life, while a male with social anxiety is a death sentence.

Thanks for recognizing this.It ruined my life and casued depression and self hatred which reinforces my social anxiety.

Girls can build social circles through being passive so Social Anxiety becomes an irrelevant factor

I'm tired of  " fucking fakecel " posta

 

[Deleted member 60]

female mental illness is a meme. Also, stay away from that site. It is pure cancer

 

[spergcel]

Thanks for recognizing this.It ruined my life and casued depression and self hatred which reinforces my social anxiety.

Girls can build social circles through being passive so Social Anxiety becomes an irrelevant factor

I'm tired of  " fucking fakecel " posta

Social anxiety is definitely a death sentence for men. I don't know how anyone could deny that. Even low inhib normies have a hard time getting laid. If women aren't physically attracted to you, you'll never get laid if you don't go to normie social events.

 

[Deleted member 2119]

Social anxiety is definitely a death sentence for men. I don't know how anyone could deny that. Even low inhib normies have a hard time getting laid. If women aren't physically attracted to you, you'll never get laid if you don't go to normie social events.

Yup I spend my entire freetime in my room. I look like a normie but that's pratically useless.It's so depressing.

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female mental illness is a meme. Also, stay away from that site. It is pure cancer

Female mental illness does exist but most of them online are just lying in order to get attention. The real females wjth mental illnesses are in the mental ward against their will

 

[imbored21]

Got IP banned because they made a female mod and she couldn't handle the blackpill.

 

[Deleted member 60]

Yup I spend my entire freetime in my room. I look like a normie but that's pratically useless.It's so depressing.

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Female mental illness does exist but most of them online are just lying in order to get attention. The real females wjth mental illnesses are in the mental ward against their will

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eh, I've been in the system forever and have only seen a few legit cases. They usually had schizophrenia or something major. Otherwise it was bullshit, especially for depression/anxiety. I'll believe it when they start killing themselves in greater numbers. Matter of fact I hope they do regardless.

 

[Deleted member 2119]

eh, I've been in the system forever and have only seen a few legit cases. They usually had schizophrenia or something major. Otherwise it was bullshit, especially for depression/anxiety. I'll believe it when they start killing themselves in greater numbers. Matter of fact I hope they do regardless.

Yup I mean those with schizophrenia and other serious cases.


Lol this is probably one of the most fucked up illnesses : https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Factitious_disorder_imposed_on_self

 

[TheVman]

WOMEN CAN"T HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY, WOMEN CAN'T BE DEPRESSED, WOMEN CAN'T BE LONELY.

This is fact don't' fucking argue

 

[blackpill_incel]

What else is new. Femoids can't have social anxiety or depression (situational depression that is).

There will always be betacucks to comfort her and Chads to fuck her.

 

[Minjaze]

Just be female and someone will basically fall in your lap.

 

[retarded_dumbshit]

i wonder what our dear guests think about this type of info.

 

[Crustaciouse]

The fact that it was so easy for these woman to get into a relationship is infuriating, most of them didn't even try they just stumbled into a relationship because the guy does all the work.

 

[Recon9]

holyshit the blackpilling in that thread 

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Men only go by looks and mostly want sex (ALONG with a loving relationship of course). This is our default programming as males. Most of us don't care if a woman is poor, or has social issues, or doesn't have much of a life. If she can have sex with us, we are satisfied.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Women go by looks (because they want the best looking kids, and you add in media brainwashing and social conditioning/programming where guys like zac efron and just beiber are the best looking guys on earth) and money 2nd of course. [/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Here's the difference:[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]If men can't find a woman they are attracted to, they will settle for what's available (meaning even if she isn't that attractive). The other stuff like social issues and money still doesn't matter.[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Women won't do this. Since they only look for equal and above, the men who are below will be left OUT. Women can use their sexual power to win most of the top 10% and 20% rich guys or powerful guys. It's hypergamy. [/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Chances are if you are unemployed, have social anxiety or any issues like me, chances are you are one of those men that are and are going to be left out somehow. [/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Then, you bring in rising feminism, and gender roles where men have to be providers and do all the approaching and it's all just a bunch a wash. [/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]In short: men are competing in a rigged system[/font]

[font=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]there's alot of grey area to it.[/font]

kudos to the Stranger25 wherever he may be

 

[UglyHikikomori]

holyshit the blackpilling in that thread 
kudos to the Stranger25 wherever he may be

> [font=Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif]Chances are if you are unemployed, have social anxiety or any issues like me, chances are you are one of those men that are and are going to be left out somehow. [/font]

He's sort of coping though putting emphasis on his social anxiety/unemployment as the reason to why he is unloved when in reality it's 100% his looks.

 

[LuckyStrike]

That redpill at the end

 

[Alone75]

I was on that forum 7 years and got nowhere, a girl signs up and gets a boyfriend after 2 weeks [it happened] trying to connect with women their and elsewhere on dating sites [that is still going on and off] Online is shitty as fuck average guys, and even worse for for lonely virgin guys who's looks and other things may hold them back more.

Single girls no matter their circumstances, poor, unemployed, or below average attractiveness can get boyfriends if they really want them.

GTFO offline more if you can.

 

[Noobcake]

That’s why I avoid normie forums/reddit with depression/anxiety. Full of women and guys who have a gf. A fucking joke

 

[BlackpilledAF]

Social Anxiety Support = Normie Social Anxiety Support

 

[incel4life]

Makes me wonder how many females and males are on this earth

Equal, but gender ratio is irrelevant because women of all looks levels take turns dating the really attractive guys.

 

[Juxtaposition6]

Because of feminism and other bullshit like that, females lead unfairly easy and relaxed lives compared to males, unsurprising.

 

[St.Tropez]

Makes me wonder how many females and males are on this earth

It honestly feels like there are at least 3-4 guy per every girl lol.

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Lol at the cuckhold story at the end. A classic branch swing. Almost sounds like a TRP troll.

 

[_incelinside]

Spent years on that bluepilled cucked website. Glad this community exsists now