https://www.reddit.com/r/boogie2988/comments/7jnnlw/so_heres_the_deal_wife_and_divorce/
Feels good to finally be able to be fully open and honest with you guys. In the past few months I had to do something I never wanted to do and that is hide information from you. I did this not for myself, but for my wife who I still love dearly.
First off: Wife never cheated. She wasn't just in it for 'the money'. no one was physically abused. This is a pretty boring, run of the mill divorce. I know so many people want so many other things from it but there's just not very much here to tell.
Wife and I got together when I was flat broke. Before I was anyone or anything. Had maybe 500 bucks to my name when she moved in with me and I was on disability drawing 100 bucks a month from youtube.
She and I built a life together. We built a business together. We rebuilt my brain and my body together. It was pretty great.
But we always had our problems: biggest problem of all was my mental issues. The anxiety issues and the impact it had on me and consequently her as well. I've spent my entire life learning how to deal with my anxiety and the person it can make me and when we married, it became her problem too.
This lead to us fighting a lot about it. We never argued about much of anything else. Not money. Not kids. Not sex. Mostly just what my anxiety disorder did to us and the shitty things it could make me say or the shitty ways it could make me act.
Eventually that awful pattern took its toll and my wife eventually decided she couldn't do it any more and that's OK. Lord knows she did enough. She literally saved my life and helped me rebuild myself from the ground up. Her work is absolutely done here.
She took a short break a few months back and during that time really enjoyed being around her family and stuff. Said she wanted to do it for a longer period of time and see how it made her feel. After a few more weeks gone she asked if I was ok without her and when I told her yes she asked for more time. This lead to us agreeing on filing the paperwork. She drove in this week to do that and pick up some of her personal things.
She'll head back home soon and we'll remain friends and who knows, maybe one day find each other again. Neither of us have plans to date or do anything but work on ourselves and fix the damage we caused to ourselves and one another. We've spent every day talking since she left and I imagine we'll likely do the same after she goes back home. Time will tell, but we are still friends and will remain friendly.
Divorce went as expected. Arkansas is a 50/50 state so we're diving things accordingly. No lawyers, on court date, no bullshit. We just agreed on what she deserved to have and I actually had to encourage her to take more so I felt it was equal. Filed the papers with a mediator today and we'll appear in court in about 31 days and we'll be done with that part of it.
That's that. Time to focus on my health, focus on my business, and become the man I'll be in the next chapter of my life.
If you want to be mad at anyone, be mad at me. I fucked this up pretty bad. I should have gotten more therapy. I should have looked further into medication. I should have gotten control of my weight issues much sooner. I should have done so many things differently not just for her, but also for me. I guess I should say, for us.
Life goes on. This is by far not the worst thing to ever happen to me or even close. I believe we'll both be just fine.
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Let's be honest here boyos, the real reason Boogie's wife is divorcing him is that he got weight loss surgery so his impending death due to morbid obesity has been delayed much longer than she probably anticipated. So she broke it off, took 50% of his shit and is going to find someone else.
Feels good to finally be able to be fully open and honest with you guys. In the past few months I had to do something I never wanted to do and that is hide information from you. I did this not for myself, but for my wife who I still love dearly.
First off: Wife never cheated. She wasn't just in it for 'the money'. no one was physically abused. This is a pretty boring, run of the mill divorce. I know so many people want so many other things from it but there's just not very much here to tell.
Wife and I got together when I was flat broke. Before I was anyone or anything. Had maybe 500 bucks to my name when she moved in with me and I was on disability drawing 100 bucks a month from youtube.
She and I built a life together. We built a business together. We rebuilt my brain and my body together. It was pretty great.
But we always had our problems: biggest problem of all was my mental issues. The anxiety issues and the impact it had on me and consequently her as well. I've spent my entire life learning how to deal with my anxiety and the person it can make me and when we married, it became her problem too.
This lead to us fighting a lot about it. We never argued about much of anything else. Not money. Not kids. Not sex. Mostly just what my anxiety disorder did to us and the shitty things it could make me say or the shitty ways it could make me act.
Eventually that awful pattern took its toll and my wife eventually decided she couldn't do it any more and that's OK. Lord knows she did enough. She literally saved my life and helped me rebuild myself from the ground up. Her work is absolutely done here.
She took a short break a few months back and during that time really enjoyed being around her family and stuff. Said she wanted to do it for a longer period of time and see how it made her feel. After a few more weeks gone she asked if I was ok without her and when I told her yes she asked for more time. This lead to us agreeing on filing the paperwork. She drove in this week to do that and pick up some of her personal things.
She'll head back home soon and we'll remain friends and who knows, maybe one day find each other again. Neither of us have plans to date or do anything but work on ourselves and fix the damage we caused to ourselves and one another. We've spent every day talking since she left and I imagine we'll likely do the same after she goes back home. Time will tell, but we are still friends and will remain friendly.
Divorce went as expected. Arkansas is a 50/50 state so we're diving things accordingly. No lawyers, on court date, no bullshit. We just agreed on what she deserved to have and I actually had to encourage her to take more so I felt it was equal. Filed the papers with a mediator today and we'll appear in court in about 31 days and we'll be done with that part of it.
That's that. Time to focus on my health, focus on my business, and become the man I'll be in the next chapter of my life.
If you want to be mad at anyone, be mad at me. I fucked this up pretty bad. I should have gotten more therapy. I should have looked further into medication. I should have gotten control of my weight issues much sooner. I should have done so many things differently not just for her, but also for me. I guess I should say, for us.
Life goes on. This is by far not the worst thing to ever happen to me or even close. I believe we'll both be just fine.
C O P E
O
P
E
Let's be honest here boyos, the real reason Boogie's wife is divorcing him is that he got weight loss surgery so his impending death due to morbid obesity has been delayed much longer than she probably anticipated. So she broke it off, took 50% of his shit and is going to find someone else.
