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For context, I do live in Brazil. My country is known for beautiful women who may be open to relationships. In my opinion, this is both true and false. I think the percentage of beautiful women here is generally higher than the average of most other countries, but at the same time, every other woman who is not considered beautiful is way below the average of "not beautiful" women from other countries. It is simply a two-edged sword.
If I were to tell another incel from another country what the most notable characteristics of Brazilian society are, I would need to say that they are "court-like behavior" and "social inequality."
To give a few examples: In other places, when you want to say no, you can just say no; most of the time, it will not be considered impolite. In Brazil, unless you're a woman, in which case you're under the law's criminal enforcement protection for your specific gender, then you are literally free to say whatever you want.
That is court behavior. You cannot state your mind directly; you need to provide a bunch of information that will give the listener the subjective meaning necessary to figure out your true message.
The LGBTQ+ community in Brazil has been growing exponentially due to the strong influence of the democratic group of the USA, which decided to make our country and our politicians a laboratory of laws. Nowadays, for example, if you use simple slander or a strong term while talking to an LGBTQ person, this person can go to the police and file a criminal case against you. This crime will then fall under the same groups of laws that were created based on political influence from other countries, forming a set of laws against prejudice. They all orbit around a major law that criminalizes racism in the national territory. To give you the gravity of the situation, this type of crime, in specific, has a very strong regulation, through which you are not able to pay a fine or try to pay your way out of the situation. You will go to jail. The time in jail varies depending on how many of the unlawful points you can be accused of. But in essence, and in all honesty, if you kill a person in Brazil and you have enough money for good lawyers, coupled with good behavior in prison and the best practices to mitigate your time, you essentially will be in jail for 6 years and then you will need to pay your time in a semi-open system for another 7 years.
That is absolutely not the case with the law created to protect women, LGBT, and racial minorities. If, by accident, you say a few wrong words, you will easily serve more than 20 years in jail without any option whatsoever to mitigate your sentence.
Keep in mind that if you are in a public space and you try to approach a girl and speak to her—even if you did not touch her body in any way or form, but you try to flirt with her—you are basically playing with fire. Since the extensions and patch notes for this law are relatively new to women in Brazil who enjoy exclusive rights and police protection, if she subjectively decides that you harassed her with words, you will fall under the protection of the new, misogyny-related laws. You are basically fucked for life with no way out.
Since there is no clear definition of what harassment is or what it is not, and the law gives full authority to the "victim" to decide, you are basically at her mercy.
I don't know if this type of legal abomination is common in other countries, but it is in Brazil. We are not a country that enjoys or goes to war. I imagine the reason for that is that Brasilia, our capital, is full of lobbyists from all around the world buying different types of politicians with almost obvious schemes of corruption to pass the most nonsensical laws so they can gather data and see the effects in society.
All of this happens while the minimum wage of a Brazilian is around 300 dollars—a wage with which the large majority of the population struggles. This is not enough to pay the rent of a one-bedroom apartment in a peripheral area of a big city. In this country, you're either born rich, become rich, or are forced to live in a favela, which is no different from a warzone worse than any country currently in the Middle East.
You cannot speak out because Brazilians do not have freedom of speech, and if you say something that does not conform to any of the billions of laws currently being made, you will be legally held accountable.
I am a 32-year-old incel man. I have never once kissed a girl, and I am also autistic. My family is not considered poor, so I can live in the periphery of a city. But I am also not a tall, handsome man. In freedom numbers, I think my height should be 5'4". I need to wear very strong glasses, and any dating app is just a joke. I created an almost perfect profile with my limitations, paid premium and all kinds of boosts for three months, and I got five matches in total. Of which, none has ever answered me.
I don't know how horrible my situation is compared to other people here on the forum; I am a new member.
I would like to know if there is someone in a similar situation and what I could possibly do to try to make my situation better.
I cannot even leave the country because I need to take care of my elderly family here, but day after day I feel more and more wrong with the world.
Needless to say, all of what i said can be disregarded if you are in the top 5% of male beauty. No lady will ever accuse you of harassment and they will throw themselves at you at a rate you can't possibly keep. Not only that, the job offers you will receive will always be the cream of the crop, even if your resume is somewhat mediocre.
In the past i thought my situation was horrible and hopeless. Nowadays i came to a realization that maybe i reached a point where this situation became impossible.
I really want to be happy and try to enjoy life but i simply don't know how. Many things most people take for granted are dreams i have no hope of achieving.
If I were to tell another incel from another country what the most notable characteristics of Brazilian society are, I would need to say that they are "court-like behavior" and "social inequality."
To give a few examples: In other places, when you want to say no, you can just say no; most of the time, it will not be considered impolite. In Brazil, unless you're a woman, in which case you're under the law's criminal enforcement protection for your specific gender, then you are literally free to say whatever you want.
That is court behavior. You cannot state your mind directly; you need to provide a bunch of information that will give the listener the subjective meaning necessary to figure out your true message.
The LGBTQ+ community in Brazil has been growing exponentially due to the strong influence of the democratic group of the USA, which decided to make our country and our politicians a laboratory of laws. Nowadays, for example, if you use simple slander or a strong term while talking to an LGBTQ person, this person can go to the police and file a criminal case against you. This crime will then fall under the same groups of laws that were created based on political influence from other countries, forming a set of laws against prejudice. They all orbit around a major law that criminalizes racism in the national territory. To give you the gravity of the situation, this type of crime, in specific, has a very strong regulation, through which you are not able to pay a fine or try to pay your way out of the situation. You will go to jail. The time in jail varies depending on how many of the unlawful points you can be accused of. But in essence, and in all honesty, if you kill a person in Brazil and you have enough money for good lawyers, coupled with good behavior in prison and the best practices to mitigate your time, you essentially will be in jail for 6 years and then you will need to pay your time in a semi-open system for another 7 years.
That is absolutely not the case with the law created to protect women, LGBT, and racial minorities. If, by accident, you say a few wrong words, you will easily serve more than 20 years in jail without any option whatsoever to mitigate your sentence.
Keep in mind that if you are in a public space and you try to approach a girl and speak to her—even if you did not touch her body in any way or form, but you try to flirt with her—you are basically playing with fire. Since the extensions and patch notes for this law are relatively new to women in Brazil who enjoy exclusive rights and police protection, if she subjectively decides that you harassed her with words, you will fall under the protection of the new, misogyny-related laws. You are basically fucked for life with no way out.
Since there is no clear definition of what harassment is or what it is not, and the law gives full authority to the "victim" to decide, you are basically at her mercy.
I don't know if this type of legal abomination is common in other countries, but it is in Brazil. We are not a country that enjoys or goes to war. I imagine the reason for that is that Brasilia, our capital, is full of lobbyists from all around the world buying different types of politicians with almost obvious schemes of corruption to pass the most nonsensical laws so they can gather data and see the effects in society.
All of this happens while the minimum wage of a Brazilian is around 300 dollars—a wage with which the large majority of the population struggles. This is not enough to pay the rent of a one-bedroom apartment in a peripheral area of a big city. In this country, you're either born rich, become rich, or are forced to live in a favela, which is no different from a warzone worse than any country currently in the Middle East.
You cannot speak out because Brazilians do not have freedom of speech, and if you say something that does not conform to any of the billions of laws currently being made, you will be legally held accountable.
I am a 32-year-old incel man. I have never once kissed a girl, and I am also autistic. My family is not considered poor, so I can live in the periphery of a city. But I am also not a tall, handsome man. In freedom numbers, I think my height should be 5'4". I need to wear very strong glasses, and any dating app is just a joke. I created an almost perfect profile with my limitations, paid premium and all kinds of boosts for three months, and I got five matches in total. Of which, none has ever answered me.
I don't know how horrible my situation is compared to other people here on the forum; I am a new member.
I would like to know if there is someone in a similar situation and what I could possibly do to try to make my situation better.
I cannot even leave the country because I need to take care of my elderly family here, but day after day I feel more and more wrong with the world.
Needless to say, all of what i said can be disregarded if you are in the top 5% of male beauty. No lady will ever accuse you of harassment and they will throw themselves at you at a rate you can't possibly keep. Not only that, the job offers you will receive will always be the cream of the crop, even if your resume is somewhat mediocre.
In the past i thought my situation was horrible and hopeless. Nowadays i came to a realization that maybe i reached a point where this situation became impossible.
I really want to be happy and try to enjoy life but i simply don't know how. Many things most people take for granted are dreams i have no hope of achieving.
