Avoidant personality disorder + libido = torture

[Deleted member 7448]

My personality is such that I really don't like talking to people and being around them. I can fake it and power through conversations, but I'm at my most comfortable sitting at home doing whatever bullshit I do. I usually actively avoid people. I never had friends, and the few times somebody tried to befriend me, I didn't respond to their calls and just generally tried to vanish.

Anyway, the thing is, I still want sex. When I'm horny or see a beautiful girl, I imagine cuddling her, kissing her, fucking her pussy raw. But to get there I'd firstly need to talk to her, get to know her, let her know me etc... Ignoring my looks which makes me totally unattractive to them, getting to a level of intimacy is impossible for me since I'm so much of a sperg.

I haven't ever had a conversation with a girl, ever (haven't even talked to a guy in years, except for work).

 

[Deleted member 1410]

I've been down that road

 

[Uglyman]

Avoidant personality disorder Ugly + libido = torture

 

[incel-american]

Avoidant personality disorder Ugly + libido = torture

Indeed. It's possible that Apd is something that develops after experiencing repeated rejections at crucial stages.

 

[Uglyman]

Indeed. It's possible that Apd is something that develops after experiencing repeated rejections at crucial stages.

It's not possible. It's guaranteed

 

[incel-american]

It's not possible. It's guaranteed

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Avoidant personality disorder Ugly + libido = torture

Well, even if I was an Adonis, if people tried to get close to me with AVPD I'd stil run away and be sexless.

 

[Mainländer]

I'm also like that. I'm NT but I'm also avoidant and don't like socializing that much.

It's like the hedgehog's dilemma except the female hedgehogs would rather freeze to death than cuddle with us.

 

[Uglyman]

Well, even if I was an Adonis, if people tried to get close to me with AVPD I'd stil run away and be sexless.

Cope.

 

[wizardcel]

Were you bullied during elementary school or HS? I don't know whether it's your case or not, but the quality of life you had as a young child or adolescent has a big impact on your present self. If you are the type of kid who was shunned by his peers at school, and instead of going out to have fun you were forced to spend your days by yourself, you missed out an important part of your life. If you didn't have friends, you didn't have girlfriends either. That's how misanthropes are born. It's impossible to make up for the loss of time later in life. For instance, I'm at a stage in life where many people have already been through marriages, children's births, divorces etc.. but I am yet to lose my virginity and get a girlfriend! I'm so far behind that it's unlikely I'll make up for it. I'm very antisocial too and hate socializing, but that's due to all the bullying I went through in my developing years. Maybe that's where you're coming from too.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Were you bullied during elementary school or HS? I don't know whether it's your case or not, but the quality of life you had as a young child or adolescent has a big impact on your present self. If you are the type of kid who was shunned by his peers at school, and instead of going out to have fun you were forced to spend your days by yourself, you missed out an important part of your life. If you didn't have friends, you didn't have girlfriends either. That's how misanthropes are born. It's impossible to make up for the loss of time later in life. For instance, I'm at a stage in life where many people have already been through marriages, children's births, divorces etc.. but I am yet to lose my virginity and get a girlfriend! I'm so far behind that it's unlikely I'll make up for it. I'm very antisocial too and hate socializing, but that's due to all the bullying I went through in my developing years. Maybe that's where you're coming from too.

Yeah, I was a shut-in from elementary school.

 

[Kirishima]

Avoidant personality disorder Ugly + libido = torture

Preach

 

[ICanOnlyFapToBDSM]

ugly + avoidant + libido = kill me now

ugly + avoidant = torture

losing my libido has just made life so BORING. I wish I could just be horny and enjoy some good fapping but I can't even do that.