This wave of AskReddit compilations, man. Anyway, there's an AskReddit thread that asks "Psychologists of Reddit, what is something you want to, but never would say to a patient?" Which is like asking "Parents of Reddit, which kid do you love the most?"
The first problem here is, there are things at all that a "psychologist" would hide from you. That they're not being honest. That despite all the trust you put in them and how open a space you believe these sessions are, they really aren't. If you're a patient of one of these people. The second problem is what they're hiding. Half of these therapists are saying "I want to tell my patient what I really think they need to hear, but policy forbids it. So I have to keep telling them other things and not actually make progress with their treatment." And the other half are saying "Ew, my patient is a toxic sociopath, I should understand that they're not well and my job is to fix them, but I don't care. They're gross." And the comments are all for it. They're praising these therapists for their "honesty." As honest as you can be, admitting this to no one but a Reddit thread on the Internet. Because fuck people who need therapy, I guess. They should just be better people on their own.
I don't need therapy. But reading this I can't help but think of some hypothetical patient. He's fucked up. He wants to get better. He spills his heart to his therapist. His deepest neuroses. He's got no one in the world but this therapist and has put all his trust in this therapist. He is literally dependent on this therapist. And then this therapist goes on AskReddit and says "Ooooh, I know I'm supposed to care about my patients, but this one guy is such a psycho!" Yeah! Of course he's a psycho! He's not agreeing with being a psycho, he came to YOU to fix that! And here you are blaming him for his mental illnesses even as he tries to fix them! Like he just chooses to be a broken person. And this is the selfishness as the core of why incels and other broken people don't get help. Because too many people think "They're just assholes who choose to be assholes" and not "They need help. They don't want to be this way, and the only way they're gonna get better is with compassion, understanding, and a real empathy for not wanting to see someone crushed by the weight of their own depression."
It's one thing to hear people here say "Therapy is a meme, they can't help you." But it's another thing to hear actual therapists say "Yes, I can't help you. And also I'd rather tell you to go fuck yourself." Don't get me wrong, I believe people with mental health issues need help. In the same way that people who have cancer or AIDS need help. Maybe the treatments we have today aren't really working. If these are the therapists who are out there. I think things need to get better, and we should start by saying no to these people. We need to not encourage this "Haha, people who need therapy are assholes" way of thinking. We need to say "No, you're a shitty therapist for not wanting to help these people."
The first problem here is, there are things at all that a "psychologist" would hide from you. That they're not being honest. That despite all the trust you put in them and how open a space you believe these sessions are, they really aren't. If you're a patient of one of these people. The second problem is what they're hiding. Half of these therapists are saying "I want to tell my patient what I really think they need to hear, but policy forbids it. So I have to keep telling them other things and not actually make progress with their treatment." And the other half are saying "Ew, my patient is a toxic sociopath, I should understand that they're not well and my job is to fix them, but I don't care. They're gross." And the comments are all for it. They're praising these therapists for their "honesty." As honest as you can be, admitting this to no one but a Reddit thread on the Internet. Because fuck people who need therapy, I guess. They should just be better people on their own.
I don't need therapy. But reading this I can't help but think of some hypothetical patient. He's fucked up. He wants to get better. He spills his heart to his therapist. His deepest neuroses. He's got no one in the world but this therapist and has put all his trust in this therapist. He is literally dependent on this therapist. And then this therapist goes on AskReddit and says "Ooooh, I know I'm supposed to care about my patients, but this one guy is such a psycho!" Yeah! Of course he's a psycho! He's not agreeing with being a psycho, he came to YOU to fix that! And here you are blaming him for his mental illnesses even as he tries to fix them! Like he just chooses to be a broken person. And this is the selfishness as the core of why incels and other broken people don't get help. Because too many people think "They're just assholes who choose to be assholes" and not "They need help. They don't want to be this way, and the only way they're gonna get better is with compassion, understanding, and a real empathy for not wanting to see someone crushed by the weight of their own depression."
It's one thing to hear people here say "Therapy is a meme, they can't help you." But it's another thing to hear actual therapists say "Yes, I can't help you. And also I'd rather tell you to go fuck yourself." Don't get me wrong, I believe people with mental health issues need help. In the same way that people who have cancer or AIDS need help. Maybe the treatments we have today aren't really working. If these are the therapists who are out there. I think things need to get better, and we should start by saying no to these people. We need to not encourage this "Haha, people who need therapy are assholes" way of thinking. We need to say "No, you're a shitty therapist for not wanting to help these people."
