Those things only work for good looking people, or atleast tall average men.
I can tell that learning musical instruments definetely doesn't work if you're not good looking or charming at all. Hitting gym will and has never worked for manlets. More than enough prove there is. I know people over 20 who have lots of friends but struggle to find gf. I tried all these things, it's just Cope. White women don't want me, ethnics don't want me and even handicapped women rejected me. My value is literally a 0. Me and my workmate are trying online dating apps. While he's got several dates, I can't even make a conversation without getting ignored when a femoid finally responds while she's texting with 50 other guys at the same time. You really don't want to be me. Even if they aren't turned off by looks, women can smell mentalcels even from their phone. I really need a miracle to ascend from Inceldom. Or maybe just rope.
If you're mentalcel that probably means you're stuck in your head alot, self-doubting, self-defeating.
It's like anything else, if you have a problem you figure out how to fix it, there's classes, coaching, therapy, books, videos, etc etc. Go fix it. Hell go to a sex therapist or something, go to a dating coach, they take all the ugly people and set them up on dates with each other to boost their confidence.
I had a terrible time trying to get laid, I never had so much as a kiss until I was about 22, and it was one of those awkward kisses where I more or less shoved my tongue down her throat. Then I tried to get her to suck my dick and she peeled out of there like a bat out of hell, when she got home she broke up with me. This represented about two months of time getting to know her, taking her out, going to movies, etc.
Then I got laid at 23 by a prostitute, I figured, "let me get it out of my system." And this was the ugliest prostitute you could imagine. First I went to a strip club where I spent about $1000 in the "champaign room" getting lapdances for like 3-4 hours. Then I took a cab to the hispanic part of town, the cabbie asked around and dropped me off at a whorehouse. The place was a dump. I'm hearing sex sounds and beds creaking, and there's only 1 hooker on-duty, she's like 45 years old, missing 2 front teeth. So I said, "What the hell" and took her back, gave her $30, she put the condom on me and I started fucking her. After about 5 minutes she's yelling "Finish, finish, time's up." So I get off her and go jerk off in the corner. LOL
I was 24 when I had my first real girlfriend. She was like...250 pounds. But really cute. And she was 10 years older than me. She flew from LA to New York to meet me (desperation!) and we slept in the same bed. Then she looked at me with goo goo eyes and I knew it was on. I prolly fucked her for the next 6 hours. Tried to go down on her, and nearly vomited, her pussy stank. So I just put my dick back in and kept going.
Back then I was fucking stupid. Didn't wear a condom or anything. Could have caught a disease, could have got her pregnant, I was just so amazed that I was finally getting laid that my brains went out the window.
The next year at 25, I was with another woman and actually got married. I had a really good job and was making lots of money, so I flashed my beta bucks and it got me a super hot chick, easily 9/10 I would say. Back then I was also pretty fit too, I was gym-maxing. So I had gym AND money going for me, that was pretty much my sexual peak.
Marriage broke up the next year. She was pregnant but I told her to get an abortion and she did. Never saw her again.
Now I'm like...obese. Crappy job. I look pretty white but kinda eurasian.
I /think/ I can get laid if I really try hard, but I'm kinda MGTOW (in other words, the juice is not worth the squeeze.)
Even if I found the perfect woman, I have too much money and assets to risk it, I don't want to get dragged into court and dissected to pay for child support or whatever.
I've been tossing the idea around of going expat, maybe trying for a family in third-world country like the Phillipines or something.
I'm pretty jaded at this point, I don't believe in "real love" or anything like that.
I just want to have maybe 2 kids then I can fuck off and die or whatever, that's pretty much my mission in life right now.