Serious Are you lonely?

[incel-american]

Outside of your inceldom, would you describe yourself as suffering from loneliness?

Your need for social connection going unfulfilled is punishing in more ways than you might realize. It negatively impacts executive functioning and puts you on constant "fight or flight" mode that all the more hampers your ability to form social connections and warps your perception of the social world (for example, the lonely person will have an outsize reaction to the sort of slight that a non-lonely person will just shrug off.)

So...are you lonely? For a lot of users here, is the endless whining about being incel also in part whining about simply being lonely, and it's easier in their mind to complain about being incel than it is to complain about being lonely which they regard as more embarrassing for some reason?

 

[BlackpilledAF]

Yes. If not for TV series and videogames, I would legit rope.

 

[Uglyman]

I'm horny

 

[i_a_m_i]

Not really.

 

[incel-american]

Yes. If not for TV series and videogames, I would legit rope.

Being lonely makes you behave in ways that could make you come off as unappealing. As individuals we might somewhat differ in our need for social connection but if you know you're suffering from loneliness I would honestly worry more about that then being incel.

Chronic loneliness is associated with premature aging and cadiovascular problems and all sorts of unhealthy short-term-thinking behavior.

I'm not pulling this out of my ass. I'm on the 4th chapter of this book and it's depressing the shit out of me:

https://www.amazon.com/Loneliness-H...swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1535105305&sr=8-2

 

[builderseed]

Yes, probably, anyway. I had a friend but he left, my brother has been gone for nearly a week and will be moving out soon. I rarely speak, most of my communication is through internet; this forum to be more specific. Sometimes it's hard to believe there is a whole world beyond the walls of my room, I want to go out into that world; but at the same time I realize I have no place in it. Nights are rough, but I got pillows to help with that, I can convince myself that I'm sleeping next to a woman rather than a polymer-stuffed cotton sack. It's all the same color after I close my eyes anyway; black.

I've also noticed my paranoia returning these past few days, I can't trust anyone and I'm critical of their words. I'm afraid my lack of speaking is impairing my typing and general communication, also. It's not the worst thing ever, though, I enjoy the silence and I have a lot of time to myself. I savor every minute of this loneliness because I know that in a few days I'll be stuck sharing a room with two normans and a newborn.

I'm really just not going to win either way, it seems.

 

[janoycresva]

Eh, in a way I guess. I crave connection with a female, emotionally and physically. I don't really care for a big social circle. I need a "ride or die" as the porch monkeys would say.

The way I cope with overall loneliness is by going to the gym, I talk with quite a few guys and after 1-2 hours of talking I'm pretty drained. I need time alone to recharge.

 

[Deleted member 6626]

Real incels are loners.....Period! Love my hobbies though.

 

[jerrycan dan]

I can't tell if I feel lonely anymore, but I definitely am alone

 

[incel-american]

Eh, in a way I guess. I crave connection with a female, emotionally and physically. I don't really care for a big social circle. I need a "ride or die" as the porch monkeys would say.

The way I cope with overall loneliness is by going to the gym, I talk with quite a few guys and after 1-2 hours of talking I'm pretty drained. I need time alone to recharge.

That book I'm reading says individuals might differ in their need for social connection, so this is a matter of knowing yourself. The crucial point is that if you crave social connection and are chronically not getting it, the deprivation your suffering from is punishing you in more ways than you realize.

You sound like an introvert and I share the "need to recharge" characteristic as well.

 

[Jockcel]

I am the loneliest person on this forum.

 

[RopeShow]

I don't crave company of any kind, yet I feel the symptoms you described.

 

[mylifeistrash]

way too fucking angry to be lonely

 

[wasted12years]

I never wanted company sort of, as a matter of fact something happened to me when i was 11 years old. All of a sudden i didn't want to spend time with my friends anymore. I hate normies, i cant stand their materialistic lifestyle or their music. I think i want to have a GF in my life but... I'm just not ready for it

 

[CopingManletcel]

I am

The Loving touch of a femoid is more desirable than sex

 

[TheRealChincel]

No.

 

[Deleted member 10124]

Outside of your inceldom, would you describe yourself as suffering from loneliness?

Your need for social connection going unfulfilled is punishing in more ways than you might realize. It negatively impacts executive functioning and puts you on constant "fight or flight" mode that all the more hampers your ability to form social connections and warps your perception of the social world (for example, the lonely person will have an outsize reaction to the sort of slight that a non-lonely person will just shrug off.)

So...are you lonely? For a lot of users here, is the endless whining about being incel also in part whining about simply being lonely, and it's easier in their mind to complain about being incel than it is to complain about being lonely which they regard as more embarrassing for some reason?

On some days extremely and on others not at all.

I am

The Loving touch of a femoid is more desirable than sex

 

[Cuyen]

I'm with my family but except that yes ı'm lonely