JFL Anyone Else’s Abusive Dad Want to Be Best Friends?

[CircumcisedClown]

My dad was the biggest narcissistic asshole growing up. He made my and my siblings’ lives hell. Just an all around fucking jerk that nobody wanted to be around.

Now all of us are adults, and my dad wants to be the “cool dad” best friend to all of us. Super supportive and complimentary of us. Always trying to plan cool things to do with us.

Too bad none of this came out decades ago. Now I’m just a mind-broken adult who hates his dad.

I think he’s just getting old and lonely. Oh well.

 

[AutistSupremacist]

Mine wants nothing to do with me

 

[Icarus]

My dad hates me

 

[Skoga]

My parents divorced when I was 4-5, then my mom found another guy and he was my stepdad since then. He was chill and more of a friend than a father, he didn't teach me shit. He died this year

 

[CircumcisedClown]

My parents divorced when I was 4-5, then my mom found another guy and he was my stepdad since then. He was chill and more of a friend than a father, he didn't teach me shit. He died this year

Your dad died or your step-dad?

 

[Skoga]

Your dad died or your step-dad?

My step dad, I had no contact to my dad for 20 years

 

[CircumcisedClown]

My step dad, I had no contact to my dad for 20 years

RIP In Peace, bro.

 

[despisedpaul]

My dad was the biggest narcissistic asshole growing up. He made my and my siblings’ lives hell. Just an all around fucking jerk that nobody wanted to be around.

Now all of us are adults, and my dad wants to be the “cool dad” best friend to all of us. Super supportive and complimentary of us. Always trying to plan cool things to do with us.

Too bad none of this came out decades ago. Now I’m just a mind-broken adult who hates his dad.

I think he’s just getting old and lonely. Oh well.

I am in the same situation. HE changed at the cost of ME. Everyone saw him screaming at me, humiliating me, belittling me and my hobbies. And I turned out like shit.

Now that they see what they've done to me, they want to be all buddy buddy. He's calmed down. He screams less. Doesnt break things anymore and tries to be my friend.

But I dont see it that way. He is the biggest stranger to me. I say excuse me to him like an object when I pass him in the hallway. We are less close than myself and a random cashier.

Why was it me? Why was it through my childhood you had to learn to stop being abusive? Why was it at the cost of me?

 

[Aegon Targaryen]

Why was it me? Why was it through my childhood you had to learn to stop being abusive? Why was it at the cost of me?

Idk maybe he felt like he had to compete with you? Normies are retarded like that.

 

[despisedpaul]

Idk maybe he felt like he had to compete with you? Normies are retarded like that.

He didnt have shit to compete with. I was a scrawny, legally blind, autistic 7 year old with no friends. He was a shitty 6 foot military step dad who broke windows and screamed at me like a drill sergeant. I was constantly in fear of getting beaten. It wasnt a childhood it was sadness and survival. I was just 10 years old and already thinking "survive 8 more years. dont kill yourself for 8 more years and you can escape."

 

[Aegon Targaryen]

He didnt have shit to compete with. I was a scrawny, legally blind, autistic 7 year old with no friends. He was a shitty 6 foot military step dad who broke windows and screamed at me like a drill sergeant. I was constantly in fear of getting beaten. It wasnt a childhood it was sadness and survival. I was just 10 years old and already thinking "survive 8 more years. dont kill yourself for 8 more years and you can escape."

Damn. All I can say is to never contact your dad and ditch him. He did this when he was at his prime. Now he's no longer in it and wants to suddenly be all friendly with you. Fuck him.

 

[sultryloser]

I'm too fortunate to have that happen. My dad isn't abusive, but he was abused by this gynocentric species.

I do feel for incels that have a poor family to boot.
Quality of life can be assessed like this

1. Time period
2. Not being part of the third and fourth world
3. Quality of skeleton as indicated by the amount of salivating women a man can easily bang
4. Family & wealth of that
5. Freedom from chronic illnesses / mental disorders like depression, the promise of long, healthy life (which will be a fufilling life if 4 and 3 are good)

Incels are victims of a very poor time period in terms of opportunity and their quality of skeleton. But it can be worse for unlucky incels who have the misfortune of being raised in a poor, abusive or neglectful family. It can even be worse if you're suffering from some disease that lowers your quality of life further, like maybe autism or something.

 

[9mmCell1050fps]

So here's some advice for ghosting people, family members, friends whatever. With very little conflict or anything on your end.

So when they ask you to chill and shit be like,


Oh yeah man, cool, but can I like... Can I like old $700 man. I'll pay you back dawg. But yeah, can I just like hold $700 man. You know I'm good for it. Please man"


Watch them disappear into the fucking scenery like Prophet from Crysis.

 

[Emba]

Mine wants nothing to do with me

"What do YOU want?"

I just wanted to say hi. (Click. Hangs up and never calls again.)

 

[Grodd]

Haven't seen my Dad in over 10 years

 

[PrototypeCel]

My dad was the biggest narcissistic asshole growing up. He made my and my siblings’ lives hell. Just an all around fucking jerk that nobody wanted to be around.

Now all of us are adults, and my dad wants to be the “cool dad” best friend to all of us. Super supportive and complimentary of us. Always trying to plan cool things to do with us.

Too bad none of this came out decades ago. Now I’m just a mind-broken adult who hates his dad.

I think he’s just getting old and lonely. Oh well.

my dad has rage issues talks to himself very loudly or mumbles so i either hear what hes saying or hardly hear whats he saying which drives me insane because i cant tell if hes talking about me or not and sometimes he does but yeah hes done this shit for as long as i can remember
he really is a narcissist and a psycho
he has no job but my mom doesnt care since hes handy and maintains the house and yard and hes always doing both those things
there are times he will buy me a soda or some snacks n i just say thanks n thats it
i cant talk to him hes just the complete opposite of me and i avoid him as much as possible
ill never ask him anything personal or talk about the cool stuff he did in his life because he would probably think im being weird which he thinks i am already and always has

i remember one time i was working and i got off and bought a beer
i set in the fridge and i saw my dad on the deck out back
i grabbed the beer opened it and walked out
i ended up asking him something not sure what it was but he ended up giving me this angry stare so i walked in 2 minutes later after sitting there awkwardly

yeah i just cant relate to him
he sure takes a liking to my tall younger chad brother though

 

[MisanthropicMemes]

RIP In Peace, bro.