Am I the only one that feels like nobody is actually an incel besides me and the subculture is just overblown and is only some sort of persona for mos

[geromecel]

I genuinely don't know where to start, yes we all are experiencing different things but based on my observation... most self prescribed incels are either too young and actually fell down the internet edgy "far right" and "misogynistic" pipeline with memes or they're just people upset with not getting every women that they desire.

I try to look for articles or posts that I relate to but I rarely find actual incels like me online. Like I don't mean to be dismissive but how on earth are you calling yourself an incel if you're not despised enough by women that they're willing to keep you as a friend? that only means you're not trying enough or maybe shooting for a woman way outside your league. I have never once in my life had a woman that befriended me, they don't even reply to me politely and I'm not exaggerating for the sake of posting on an incel forum. This isn't not a misery competition and I'm willing to hear people that may argue otherwise but I've always assumed ancedontally that this is the incel experience. Not interacting with women in any context for very extended period involuntarily, but apparently most "loners" are actually complaining about things prematurely... which will eventually send them to a deeper hole. If you're a guy with female friends and stuff, you don't need to be here tbh... you can enjoy the memes and stuff but I don't see the point of self sabotage

 

[geromecel]

I'm talking about a fear or inability to talk to a woman completely, not as in lacking the skill of a smooth talker.

 

[UnluckyPrimate]

 

[geromecel]

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Can you not???

 

[GeckoBus]

Can you not???

 

[GeckoBus]

I genuinely don't know where to start, yes we all are experiencing different things but based on my observation... most self prescribed incels are either too young and actually fell down the internet edgy "far right" and "misogynistic" pipeline with memes or they're just people upset with not getting every women that they desire.

I try to look for articles or posts that I relate to but I rarely find actual incels like me online. Like I don't mean to be dismissive but how on earth are you calling yourself an incel if you're not despised enough by women that they're willing to keep you as a friend? that only means you're not trying enough or maybe shooting for a woman way outside your league. I have never once in my life had a woman that befriended me, they don't even reply to me politely and I'm not exaggerating for the sake of posting on an incel forum. This isn't not a misery competition and I'm willing to hear people that may argue otherwise but I've always assumed ancedontally that this is the incel experience. Not interacting with women in any context for very extended period involuntarily, but apparently most "loners" are actually complaining about things prematurely... which will eventually send them to a deeper hole. If you're a guy with female friends and stuff, you don't need to be here tbh... you can enjoy the memes and stuff but I don't see the point of self sabotage

listen greycel, yes, most mainstream incels or blackpillers are just edgy larpers. If you want to find real shit, you gotta stick around for more than 6 months on forum like ours here and talk to plenty of people. By talkign I dont mean making vent threads and then not replying to anyone but actually talking, writing pms, asking others questions. There are people here with most brutal life experienes you can imagine, like some people here have people throwing shit in their face in public and punching them, others were sexually abused, some were homeless. They are like 10 life levels away from even being in proximity of a girl let alone a relationship. Read more posts here and you will find shit.

Here is an example user:

My Worst Interactions (physical)

At the end of last year, I had a word document at 15 pages (around 6000 words) from every negative interaction I had since I was around 16/17 years old. When transferring computers I lost the document and was never able to publish the final product onto .is. But I can still recall some of the...

incels.is

 

[geromecel]

listen greycel, yes, most mainstream incels or blackpillers are just edgy larpers. If you want to find real shit, you gotta stick around for more than 6 months on forum like ours here and talk to plenty of people. By talkign I dont mean making vent threads and then not replying to anyone but actually talking, writing pms, asking others questions. There are people here with most brutal life experienes you can imagine, like some people here have people throwing shit in their face in public and punching them, others were sexually abused, some were homeless. They are like 10 life levels away from even being in proximity of a girl let alone a relationship. Read more posts here and you will find shit.

Here is an example user:

My Worst Interactions (physical)

At the end of last year, I had a word document at 15 pages (around 6000 words) from every negative interaction I had since I was around 16/17 years old. When transferring computers I lost the document and was never able to publish the final product onto .is. But I can still recall some of the...

incels.is

listen greycel, yes, most mainstream incels or blackpillers are just edgy larpers. If you want to find real shit, you gotta stick around for more than 6 months on forum like ours here and talk to plenty of people. By talkign I dont mean making vent threads and then not replying to anyone but actually talking, writing pms, asking others questions. There are people here with most brutal life experienes you can imagine, like some people here have people throwing shit in their face in public and punching them, others were sexually abused, some were homeless. They are like 10 life levels away from even being in proximity of a girl let alone a relationship. Read more posts here and you will find shit.

Here is an example user:

My Worst Interactions (physical)

At the end of last year, I had a word document at 15 pages (around 6000 words) from every negative interaction I had since I was around 16/17 years old. When transferring computers I lost the document and was never able to publish the final product onto .is. But I can still recall some of the...

incels.is

"Graycel"

I don't give a shit about your labels or how long you've been on "niche underground elite ball knowledge" website, I would've loved to be a fakecel but shit doesn't matter either ways... you're one of the people that I'm talking about, its all a performance for you and it shows

 

[Pancakecel]

Who are these users with foid friends

 

[St3v3Cel]

"Graycel"

I don't give a shit about your labels or how long you've been on "niche underground elite ball knowledge" website, I would've loved to be a fakecel but shit doesn't matter either ways... you're one of the people that I'm talking about, its all a performance for you and it shows

Not all GrAYS but always a GrAY.

 

[geromecel]

listen greycel, yes, most mainstream incels or blackpillers are just edgy larpers. If you want to find real shit, you gotta stick around for more than 6 months on forum like ours here and talk to plenty of people. By talkign I dont mean making vent threads and then not replying to anyone but actually talking, writing pms, asking others questions. There are people here with most brutal life experienes you can imagine, like some people here have people throwing shit in their face in public and punching them, others were sexually abused, some were homeless. They are like 10 life levels away from even being in proximity of a girl let alone a relationship. Read more posts here and you will find shit.

Here is an example user:

My Worst Interactions (physical)

At the end of last year, I had a word document at 15 pages (around 6000 words) from every negative interaction I had since I was around 16/17 years old. When transferring computers I lost the document and was never able to publish the final product onto .is. But I can still recall some of the...

incels.is

Its f

Not all GrAYS but always a GrAY.

Its funny that you assume people become incels after getting exposed to your stupid memes and this website, because for you... going down this path is an online experience. You can't imagine the flip side of this, where people find this website long after becoming what they already are.

I can also confidently guess that you're either 16 or 17 by the way you're speaking and defending this

Who are these users with foid friends

Not just here, but this can describe the majority of "male loneliness epidemic" bullshit. Its just normgroids expecting to have a movie like experience and getting disappointed when a single foid friendzones them

 

[St3v3Cel]

Its funny that you assume people become incels after getting exposed to your stupid memes and this website, because for you... going down this path is an online experience. You can't imagine the flip side of this, where people find this website long after becoming what they already are.

I can also confidently guess that you're either 16 or 17 by the way you're speaking and defending

What are your stats? Height, hair, neurodiversity, "equipment", face, ethnicity and age? You don't have to give exact numbers, you can give a range or just answer which areas you have problems in and which areas you don't have problems in (if any).

 

[geromecel]

What are your stats? Height, hair, neurodiversity, "equipment", face, ethnicity and age? You don't have to give exact numbers, you can give a range or just answer which areas you have problems in and which areas you don't have problems in (if any).

Thank you for replying politely this time, I really appreciate it but I don't like to talk about my appearance as I don't wanna internalize what I truly believe when it comes to it (it aint pretty). What I really wanna deal with is my extreme fear of women, my brain completely freezes and the foids don't even try to help me so I don't really talk to them at all, not even once in for most of the year.

I'll graduate college next year and I fear that it will disrupt my career, forget about my romantic life since that boat sailed long time ago

 

[Pancakecel]

Not just here, but this can describe the majority of "male loneliness epidemic" bullshit. Its just normgroids expecting to have a movie like experience and getting disappointed when a single foid friendzones them

I agree some teens/ younger people are quick to label themselves incel, after just one bad experience or minor upset, but im not sure it's the majority. You do have a point, its just hard to quantify.

 

[St3v3Cel]

Thank you for replying politely this time, I really appreciate it

Sorry if we got off on the wrong foot. I don't think most people here disagreed with the overall premise of your thread here, there are for sure very few actual incels (not to mention truecels) in the world. It just seems that there was a misunderstanding where people thought you were calling most people here fakecels, hence the "GrAY" accusation. There is nothing wrong with being new (i.e. just a Grey, not a GrAY), but there is a pattern among some newer users not following the rules or being toxic so that is where the "GrAY" insult comes from. Incels.is is the one place on the internet where you will find actual incels, I can assure you of that.

but I don't like to talk about my appearance as I don't wanna internalize what I truly believe when it comes to it (it aint pretty).

That is fair, you don't have to share or contemplate any information you're not comfortable with.

What I really wanna deal with is my extreme fear of women, my brain completely freezes and the foids don't even try to help me so I don't really talk to them at all, not even once in for most of the year.

In case you're putting women on a pedestal it helps to understand their true nature. @GeckoBus has a good thread about that:

Females are Psychopaths – A Socio-Historic Review

In Honor of @To_Live_is_to_Serve Rest in Peace Females are Psychopaths – A Socio-Historic Review While this victim of the Jesuits was being executed, I was several times obliged to turn away my face and to stop my ears as I heard his piercing shrieks, half of his body having been torn from...

incels.is

@veryrare also made a good thread about the true nature of men and women recently:

Simping, Male on Male Aggression & Mating Cues

"Another rapid social-context effect shows men in some of their lamest moments. Specifically, when women are present, or when men are prompted to think about women, they become more risk-taking, show steeper temporal discounting in economic decisions, and spend more on luxury items (but not on...

incels.is

But I would need more information about your problem to give you more specific advice.

I'll graduate college next year and I fear that it will disrupt my career, forget about my romantic life since that boat sailed long time ago

It's good that you have clarity about your situation. The above threads might help you mourn your loss of hope for finding a woman, because they point out that love is not something anyone can get from a woman. Women do not seek love for or from anyone else, all they seek is love for themselves and pitiful as they are they come up empty each time.

 

[sirlancelot]

Who are these users with foid friends

 

[ToBurble&Pine]

Joined Feb 11, 2026 Posts 21 Online time 26m 43s

 

[The Notorious SLAV]

Who are these users with foid friends

 

[DrPolcel]

i think its valid for anyone who cant find love or connection to be an incel? maybe they have foid freinds because they have a better personality? who are we to disredit an incels experience when we dont actually know what their life is like? were a pretty ostracised community already so why make it worse. idk just my thoughts on it

 

[Sir Silentium]

Somewhat, but the main thing I feel like I am alone on is the life experiences I have been through. Which have all been much worse than any other user I’ve seen post (apart from a couple)

 

[nihilum]

I am an escortcel.

 

[luciferiancel]

On the internet overall, for sure. On this site it's murkier

 

[SmhChan]

Woe is me.

 

[Emba]

Joined Feb 11, 2026 Posts 21 Online time 26m 43s

He's the only realcel

 

[Jack-The-Ripper]

There are users here with thousands of posts. They are definitely genuine incels.

I have never once in my life had a woman that befriended me

That's not unique by any means. Contrary, it becomes increasingly more common