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I've learned the hard way - it is not worth to talk to anyone who won't message me first. It doesn't matter how much energy, time and effort I put into a conversation. It's always the same thing - I find someone to talk to, they seem ok and we discuss something, then they:
a) talk to me while juggling conversations with other people, so at best I'll get like 3-5 short messages per day or two. These friendships lead to nothing meaningful and they'll ignore me when I'll need emotional support;
b) actually talk more to me but still do nothing if I stop messaging them. They'll never write me first, think about me or worry if I won't login. Usually these friendships end with a disagreement or when they simply get bored. I've had three near-perfect online friendships, no disagreements and consistent chats for months. Then they just left without saying a word. I don't think all three of them died, they just moved on to real friends, the ones who will potentially support them financially, the ones who will entertain them in a cafe or restaurant, etc.
c) they leave me on read or just stop replying as soon as they see I'm "weird".
It's always the same shit and I've never had a woman actually message me first, even if she thought I'm gay or something. Guys - not all that different
But yeah, advice: if you're trying to be friends with someone, talk to them for a day or two, then do a little test. If they won't message you first when you don't message them, if they won't try to make a conversation - they're not worth your time
a) talk to me while juggling conversations with other people, so at best I'll get like 3-5 short messages per day or two. These friendships lead to nothing meaningful and they'll ignore me when I'll need emotional support;
b) actually talk more to me but still do nothing if I stop messaging them. They'll never write me first, think about me or worry if I won't login. Usually these friendships end with a disagreement or when they simply get bored. I've had three near-perfect online friendships, no disagreements and consistent chats for months. Then they just left without saying a word. I don't think all three of them died, they just moved on to real friends, the ones who will potentially support them financially, the ones who will entertain them in a cafe or restaurant, etc.
c) they leave me on read or just stop replying as soon as they see I'm "weird".
It's always the same shit and I've never had a woman actually message me first, even if she thought I'm gay or something. Guys - not all that different
But yeah, advice: if you're trying to be friends with someone, talk to them for a day or two, then do a little test. If they won't message you first when you don't message them, if they won't try to make a conversation - they're not worth your time