Adoption, among many other things in the west, is another failed experiment. Adoption is in itself rather cruel. The child will always feel unwanted and worthless because despite how great your adoptive parents are, you’ll still ultimately ask “why didn’t my parents want me?" Anyone who has studied adoption knows that no matter what, the adoptee will always feel this way and the trauma never really goes away.
Adoptive parents cannot love adoptive kids the way they do their biological kids. They just can't, it's human nature. There is a special bond, be it chemical or otherwise, that occurs as a result of the pregnancy and/or birthing process. Because this bond is created during those processes, it would be impossible to replicate it with an adopted child. This bond translates into a kind of love, and because the adopted child does not receive this kind of love from their parent, they are loved less. Again, it is human nature/biology to feel an un-replicable bond with your biological child. Think about it this way: if there is no difference between the potential love felt for a biological and adopted child, why do most people try to have their own children first, and see adoption as a last resort?
Adoption is in its basis supposed to be good. If you have decent competent people who wish to help raising a kid, then it's a good idea, right? Wrong. The problem is that it is too good to be true. Any student of human history can tell you that we're such pleasant creatures, capable of mass murder and other acts of depravity more often than we're capable of goodness.
If I found out I was adopted I'd think I'd lose my mind. The idea of my identity being a lie created and perpetuated by the "parents" would gnaw away at my soul. I would deny them and the real parents any sort of love, for they are undeserving of it. My hatred for them would be almost homicidal. I might not love anyone. Ever. Adoptive parents are bottom-feeding, cloying liars whose love isn't even real. Just a bland, cookie-cutter imitation of it.
What I'm saying is that adoption does not meet the overly benevolent criteria that is so often portrayed in the media. Look at the movie Juno, which I absolutely hated: she gives her child away to some crazy pedophile chick just so she can be with Bleeker. What's worse, it was a secret (closed) adoption, meaning the kid is going to be lied to the rest of life, none the wiser. Need I say "lowlife?" Also, adoption seems more like a way of making children into commodities. "White male baby, fresh from the womb! Get it while it's yucky!"
The other day I was reading an AITA thread on Reddit from a woman who is rehoming a foster kid because she found out she can have a biological child. As you can imagine, the response was overwhelmingly "You're The Asshole." The idea of adoption is take in a child and love them and raise them as your own. If you lived up to that, you wouldn't care about having a bio kid. And can you imagine pain the bio kid will feel when they find out? She said she can't afford to have two extra kids but what if she has twins?
It's cruel, yes, but it's true because human nature. Like I said, you can't love a foster kid the same as a bio kid.
For the record, I wasn't adopted but my dad was. His adoptive parents had a bio kid shortly after him and as you can imagine, they were treated very differently in childhood. For me growing up they tried to love us the same but couldn't. They look like tryhards. It's adorable, really. My dad would be pissed if he ever read this but I really don't care. Live in delusion, I don't care.
For the past 3-4 years I've suffered a lot of scrutiny from some female cousins for this. At first I just shrugged it off and thought it was foids being foids and starting drama over arbitrary shit, but this has really opened my eyes to the fact. They're right, we're not family. We can't ever be. Period.
So consider adoption a failed experiment. Fueled purely on sensitivity and not on logic. This goes on the long list of other failed western experiments such as thinking women are equal to men, blacks deserve rights, homosexuality is natural, you can change your gender, etc. This shit is ruining the goddamn country. Oh well.
Adoptive parents cannot love adoptive kids the way they do their biological kids. They just can't, it's human nature. There is a special bond, be it chemical or otherwise, that occurs as a result of the pregnancy and/or birthing process. Because this bond is created during those processes, it would be impossible to replicate it with an adopted child. This bond translates into a kind of love, and because the adopted child does not receive this kind of love from their parent, they are loved less. Again, it is human nature/biology to feel an un-replicable bond with your biological child. Think about it this way: if there is no difference between the potential love felt for a biological and adopted child, why do most people try to have their own children first, and see adoption as a last resort?
Adoption is in its basis supposed to be good. If you have decent competent people who wish to help raising a kid, then it's a good idea, right? Wrong. The problem is that it is too good to be true. Any student of human history can tell you that we're such pleasant creatures, capable of mass murder and other acts of depravity more often than we're capable of goodness.
If I found out I was adopted I'd think I'd lose my mind. The idea of my identity being a lie created and perpetuated by the "parents" would gnaw away at my soul. I would deny them and the real parents any sort of love, for they are undeserving of it. My hatred for them would be almost homicidal. I might not love anyone. Ever. Adoptive parents are bottom-feeding, cloying liars whose love isn't even real. Just a bland, cookie-cutter imitation of it.
What I'm saying is that adoption does not meet the overly benevolent criteria that is so often portrayed in the media. Look at the movie Juno, which I absolutely hated: she gives her child away to some crazy pedophile chick just so she can be with Bleeker. What's worse, it was a secret (closed) adoption, meaning the kid is going to be lied to the rest of life, none the wiser. Need I say "lowlife?" Also, adoption seems more like a way of making children into commodities. "White male baby, fresh from the womb! Get it while it's yucky!"
The other day I was reading an AITA thread on Reddit from a woman who is rehoming a foster kid because she found out she can have a biological child. As you can imagine, the response was overwhelmingly "You're The Asshole." The idea of adoption is take in a child and love them and raise them as your own. If you lived up to that, you wouldn't care about having a bio kid. And can you imagine pain the bio kid will feel when they find out? She said she can't afford to have two extra kids but what if she has twins?
It's cruel, yes, but it's true because human nature. Like I said, you can't love a foster kid the same as a bio kid.
For the record, I wasn't adopted but my dad was. His adoptive parents had a bio kid shortly after him and as you can imagine, they were treated very differently in childhood. For me growing up they tried to love us the same but couldn't. They look like tryhards. It's adorable, really. My dad would be pissed if he ever read this but I really don't care. Live in delusion, I don't care.
For the past 3-4 years I've suffered a lot of scrutiny from some female cousins for this. At first I just shrugged it off and thought it was foids being foids and starting drama over arbitrary shit, but this has really opened my eyes to the fact. They're right, we're not family. We can't ever be. Period.
So consider adoption a failed experiment. Fueled purely on sensitivity and not on logic. This goes on the long list of other failed western experiments such as thinking women are equal to men, blacks deserve rights, homosexuality is natural, you can change your gender, etc. This shit is ruining the goddamn country. Oh well.
