Hello everyone, this post is going to be a bit long winded so I apologize ahead of time. The point is that I've noticed that many incels have similar life styles and experiences to myself but have nearly opposite viewpoints. First of all, I'm a 25 year old virgin man. I'm 5'11, about 300 pounds, an average face on a good day, balding but I have a great smile 
. I've never had a girlfriend and came to the conclusion that I should focus on bettering myself before I persue a partner. When I was young I was an angry kid that lashed out at people and was an annoying little shit because it was the only way I could get attention.This lead to me becoming pretty depressed and started to hate myself. I started minor forms of self harm like punching walls and hitting my head on lockers at school. I didn't go further because my brother was a cutter and i saw the harm it caused the rest of my family. As I got older I began developing a "Fuck what everyone thinks of me." attitude. This helped my depression but caused me to be a bigger dickhead to people because I no longer cared about others feelings. Eventually I calmed down and became the way I am today. With the way I lived, I never had much of an opportunity for a girlfriend. It actually caused me to have a pretty jaded view of relationships, but not quite the same as some posts I've seen here. I don't hate "Chad" or society and I'm not mad at women for not being interested in me. Myself hatred turned to a realization that I need to better myself. I believe that if you better yourself and have reasonable expectations, you can eventually find somebody. You also may have to come to terms that you may have too high of standards and may have to settle. Honestly though, once your with someone you'll notice your views change. If you have any questions, comments or just want to know my opinion on a subject, let me know. I'm open to anyone. I hope you all have a good one and keep your spirits high.
. I've never had a girlfriend and came to the conclusion that I should focus on bettering myself before I persue a partner. When I was young I was an angry kid that lashed out at people and was an annoying little shit because it was the only way I could get attention.This lead to me becoming pretty depressed and started to hate myself. I started minor forms of self harm like punching walls and hitting my head on lockers at school. I didn't go further because my brother was a cutter and i saw the harm it caused the rest of my family. As I got older I began developing a "Fuck what everyone thinks of me." attitude. This helped my depression but caused me to be a bigger dickhead to people because I no longer cared about others feelings. Eventually I calmed down and became the way I am today. With the way I lived, I never had much of an opportunity for a girlfriend. It actually caused me to have a pretty jaded view of relationships, but not quite the same as some posts I've seen here. I don't hate "Chad" or society and I'm not mad at women for not being interested in me. Myself hatred turned to a realization that I need to better myself. I believe that if you better yourself and have reasonable expectations, you can eventually find somebody. You also may have to come to terms that you may have too high of standards and may have to settle. Honestly though, once your with someone you'll notice your views change. If you have any questions, comments or just want to know my opinion on a subject, let me know. I'm open to anyone. I hope you all have a good one and keep your spirits high.
