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"Just be charismatic bro" is a cope often thrown at incels by normies who don't even know what charisma is exactly and who think they can become "charismatic" by being confident, having a strong handshake (lol), speaking powerfully and other pseudo-scientific bullshit. I see a lot of men who yearn for this mysterious "charisma", thinking it will make them a catch, completely oblivious that charisma doesn't exist and that it's all about looks.
There's even a book that supposedly teaches you how to be charismatic (The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism) I actually thought about reading that crap, but thankfully I have a habit of checking reviews before reading anything and some 200 iq guy on Goodreads website said all that needs to be said about that shitty coping book.
There's even a book that supposedly teaches you how to be charismatic (The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism) I actually thought about reading that crap, but thankfully I have a habit of checking reviews before reading anything and some 200 iq guy on Goodreads website said all that needs to be said about that shitty coping book.
Reader, pass by! How is this book different from so many other self-help books which promote good deportment? Answer: Not very. For an author who brags throughout the book about her lofty credentials and celebrated clientele, this is pretty thin stuff — and rather stingy with its insights, too.
“Charisma” is a myth in American commercial culture — the world of magazines and TV pundits. “Charisma” is a word deployed as a figure of public relations (or uncritical journalism), to suggest that a person's popularity, or celebrity, is not the result of anything so mundane as an affable manner plus good publicity, but rather some ineffable quality known as charisma.
The Charisma Myth does not explain the myth of charisma; instead it says that charisma is not innate, but can be taught. It is at least half-right about that.
However, what the book expounds is merely that which, in a previous era, would have been called, “deportment.” Good deportment may be a necessary condition for charisma, but it is far from sufficient.
You could follow all the lessons in this book and you still wouldn’t have “charisma,” because it attaches to a person who — in addition to good deportment — has already achieved some measure of fame or infamy, celebrity or notoriety, among the persons she (or he) meets.
Charisma is in the eye of the beholder, and it cannot be controlled entirely by the vigor of one’s handshake, the rhythm of one’s speech, or even the sincerity of one’s attitude.
If you need to improve your meet’n’greet tactics, this book will do fine. But if you want charisma, make sure your strategy includes the services of a good public-relations firm, a savvy advance team, or — best of all — a journalist who will describe you as already possessing “charisma.”