I can't believe dating coaches are still spitting this garbage. Personality doesn't matter. It's all about physical attraction, in other words, it's about how good-looking you are. I've never heard a woman complimenting a guy's personality, but they always talk about how hot a guy is. The world is blackpilled, but people insist in not acknowledging the elephant in the room.
" Nobody gets good at something, whether it’s sport or social skills, without putting in the work. If you want to get better at flirting, then you’re going to have to go out there and risk looking like a fool. It may be uncomfortable, but the question remains: are you willing to endure that discomfort in order to get better? "
Just be a laughing stock theory. Women hate being approached by ugly guys, it's an offence to them and it makes them wonder if they are ugly too. They would rather see you dead than put up with you for one second.
"Now this doesn’t mean that that looks are unimportant or don’t matter. Nobody is saying that. Looks can make a difference for immediate attraction… but the truth is that the vast majority of people out there don’t start dating someone they only just met. Most people don’t meet their partners at bars or even on dating apps: they meet them through friends, through their jobs and their hobbies"
I agree that this is how normies find their girlfriends. But when you are really ugly, no one will want to be your friend. People avoid you like the plague. Even if you are nice to them, they'll still cast you out. They won't think twice before backstabbing you either. Incels and normies are another species altogether, things that might work for them will not work for us.
"... But a guy who’s warm, comforting and supportive? That guy’s stock goes up. "
Only if he is a chad. An ugly nice guy will be a walking doormat. There is no way to circumvent that reality. He will the equivalent of a gay friend.
" Next, get thee to a therapist. You’re drowning in self-loathing my dude and it’s poisoning everything about you. You need to spend some time talking about these feelings and these issues with an actual, honest-to-God mental and emotional health professional. One of the most important qualities to have in order to date is to be in good working order, emotionally and the fact is: you ain’t there. "
I'm done lol. The therapy scam again. That's how American society works. If you are not going along with the program, there is something wrong with you. You need to be monitored and medicated, and you're the one who will pay the medical bill. You are not supposed to question anything, you have to accept everything people tell you as if it was the most sacred truth. What a joke.
"Things aren’t as bad as you think they are, HF. You’re not doomed by genetics or cursed by a twist of fate "
Genetics determine everything we are. I had a hard time accepting this myself. But in the end, this is the reality we live in. There are people who despite being hooked on drugs and alcohol for years were able to quit without problems, but for others, it took only one shot to make them addicts for life; they will never be clean again. That's how your genes affect your life. I don't want to enter a philosophical debate, but I do question whether free will really exists.
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/ask-dr-nerdlove-what-do-you-do-when-youre-too-ugly-to-date/
" Nobody gets good at something, whether it’s sport or social skills, without putting in the work. If you want to get better at flirting, then you’re going to have to go out there and risk looking like a fool. It may be uncomfortable, but the question remains: are you willing to endure that discomfort in order to get better? "
Just be a laughing stock theory. Women hate being approached by ugly guys, it's an offence to them and it makes them wonder if they are ugly too. They would rather see you dead than put up with you for one second.
"Now this doesn’t mean that that looks are unimportant or don’t matter. Nobody is saying that. Looks can make a difference for immediate attraction… but the truth is that the vast majority of people out there don’t start dating someone they only just met. Most people don’t meet their partners at bars or even on dating apps: they meet them through friends, through their jobs and their hobbies"
I agree that this is how normies find their girlfriends. But when you are really ugly, no one will want to be your friend. People avoid you like the plague. Even if you are nice to them, they'll still cast you out. They won't think twice before backstabbing you either. Incels and normies are another species altogether, things that might work for them will not work for us.
"... But a guy who’s warm, comforting and supportive? That guy’s stock goes up. "
Only if he is a chad. An ugly nice guy will be a walking doormat. There is no way to circumvent that reality. He will the equivalent of a gay friend.
" Next, get thee to a therapist. You’re drowning in self-loathing my dude and it’s poisoning everything about you. You need to spend some time talking about these feelings and these issues with an actual, honest-to-God mental and emotional health professional. One of the most important qualities to have in order to date is to be in good working order, emotionally and the fact is: you ain’t there. "
I'm done lol. The therapy scam again. That's how American society works. If you are not going along with the program, there is something wrong with you. You need to be monitored and medicated, and you're the one who will pay the medical bill. You are not supposed to question anything, you have to accept everything people tell you as if it was the most sacred truth. What a joke.
"Things aren’t as bad as you think they are, HF. You’re not doomed by genetics or cursed by a twist of fate "
Genetics determine everything we are. I had a hard time accepting this myself. But in the end, this is the reality we live in. There are people who despite being hooked on drugs and alcohol for years were able to quit without problems, but for others, it took only one shot to make them addicts for life; they will never be clean again. That's how your genes affect your life. I don't want to enter a philosophical debate, but I do question whether free will really exists.
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/ask-dr-nerdlove-what-do-you-do-when-youre-too-ugly-to-date/
